Hi,

I'm new to this message board. I really don't know how this works. I have been seeing infertility specialists for two years now and I would really like to get advice from other women who are also going through the same. My husband is wonderful, however I still feel he doesn't completely understand me, when I'm down. I don't even understand why all of a sudden I get down; one minute I'm fine and the next, I'm ready to cry for no apparent reason. :confused: I would really appreciate if there is anyone who can give me advice, is there anything I can do to "cheer" myself up?

Hi Rosy,

I'm really sorry you've been dealing with IF. It sucks!! I too have good days and bad days. Some days I can just enjoy my life and everything around me, and other days all I can think about is what's missing. It is really hard to accept that I can't control having kids. One thing that helps me is coming here. It is so comforting to know that I'm not alone. We are the only couple w/o kids that I know, and I always felt like such an outcast and a failure until I found all of these amazing women fighting the same fight as me. And everybody is so knowledgable and caring, it's amazing.

So, you've been seeing a specialist for two years...What issues are you facing? We have been ttc for five years, but we just started seeing an RE last year...found out our issues are with my tube (I only have one and it is a mess). What treatments are you doing?

Holly

Hi Holly,
Thanks for your reply. It is very hard for me right now. It seems that everyone around me at the time of the various cycles, were getting pregnant, right now they all have new born babies. It was so hard having to go to baby-showers and to visit the new babies. Something my husband couldn't understand why I didn't want to attend. Basically the first year I spent on diagnostic tests. The first specialist I attended was very knowlegdeable, however the people working for the physician did not have any empathy. I basically started going through the first cycle and recieved a call stating you have to stop all medication. Second attempt, I just recieved a call you're not pregnant, call us when you get you're period. The worst came when I returned for another cycle and the office put me on a fresh cycle instead of the frozen cycle. I called the nurs practitioner asked, why I was taking Follistin injections, (which I believe is for the ovaries to produce more eggs) when I had frozen embryos stored. Their response was (message left on my machine). You need to stop all medication. You will recieve a list of Infertility specialists your insurance covers and good luck.

The reason we can't get pregnant is because my husband has a medical condition which causes low sperm count and low mobility. Currently I'm taking Lupron injections and preparing to go through a frozen cycle. I had to stop previous cycle due to the fact that, the uterine wall was too thin and I started bleeding a week before the transfer date.

Hi Rosy and welcome u will really get the support u need here.The women are great and so supportive.IF is so hard to deal with cause all the sudden we become like children and wonder why we cant have what the other person has.We cant seem to understand why this is happening to us and why we cant have what everyone else has.Sounds like u really need to find a new RE that is unacceptable leaving u messages like that and giving u the worng protocal.Well I wish u luck and we are all here for u.Take care.

Mapia

Hello Rosy and welcome to the board. This is a good place to come when you are looking for some understanding and occasional advice. All the ladies on this board are very supportive and so caring. I want you to know that I hope this FET will do the trick for you guys and soon you will be getting your BFP. It sounds like you have put a lot of time and heart into TTC... I'll keep my fingers crossed that your miracle is right around the corner!

Oh Rosy, I can't believe the treatment you received from your dr's office. I don't know how people can treat other people so coldly, especially when you were going through such an emotionally trying procedure. Have you found a new dr yet? Do you have plans for another frozen cycle?

Holly

Holly,
Fortunately, I was able to find a new RE, he's great, the nurse practitioners are great! They seem to have excellent bedside manner. With my previous doctor, I felt like they were only interested in the profit. Here I feel they are interested in the human aspect as well. They try to work with women not only with the medical aspects but also the emotional and economical aspects. Right now I taking Lupron injections, I have a baselind ultrasound and Lab appt. on Monday, from there I will receive the schedule I am to follow. I was supposed to have the transfer on June 22nd, however the Uterus lining was too thin and I began bleeding therefore, we had to cancel the cycle. They did inform me that the new transfer date in scheduled for the end of july, seems like such a long wait. Thanks for your support. I read your previous threads, and I would like to wish you the best of luck, I hope everything starts falling into place for you, I'm sure it will.

Hi rosy!! Hahaha, I just posted on your other thread. But I must say, I'm reall yhappy about this new RE you're seeing!! He sounds much much better than your last place! Sometime I don't understand why people get into the Health Care field and act like monsters. It's health CARE.
Ohhhhhh. End of July does sound long. Let's see if we can pass the time. Now I helped Holly this way... but it wasn't as long as a month. hold on. Let me post this, and then see where you live so I can figure out what you can do to pass time.

Okay, Chicago.
Let's see... it's about a four week wait, non? Alors...
Week one- watch loads of tv. I mean LOADS. get caught up on all your favourite shows. And get into some new shows too! It may be hard becuase the regular season has just ended, but that means mid season shows are on! fresh start! WHOOP!!!! :bouncing:

Week Two- BEAUTY WEEK! We do nails, one night. I don't mean change nail polish, mon Dieu NON. We do cuticles, try different colours, put on little jewels, pedicures... bonus marks if you have friend. :D Next night, make up, try different colours you've never used. Next night reshape eyebrows, so on.

Week Three- INTERNATIONAL WEEK. Every night this week, we try something new from every country. And sure you CAN say Pizza on night, burritos the next.... but maybe soemthng different.. like a MILD curry one night, sushi another......**just be careful your tummy

Week Four- dance week! We try new dances!! I used to bellydance, so this would be my faovurite week! LOL... you can learn something new everyday about a dance that you've always wanted to do.

OR

ANOTHER BEAUTY WEEK!! Who can have too much of THAT?

Ok, hope that helps!! And of course, you do what you wan tto do, I'm just trying to help out LOL

*****BABY DUST*****