Hi everyone! Im 22 yr. old. Ive been married to the love of my life and ttc now for 3 yr. and weve been together for 5 yrs. im at my witt's end with this whole ttc thing. Ive went to a doctor (it was actually my family dr.) and had some tests and they said ihave normal follicles, but i dont release them. I haven't been to a specialist b/c i dont have insurance. My husband makes good money, but Ins. isnt offered where he works. So thats standing in my way. I feel like if i could go to a dr. and get ovulation induction meds. i would get pregnant so im really frustrated about that. Anyway, i just wanted to introduce myself.

Hi Jessie and welcome. I am sorry to hear that you are struggling like so many of us for the dream of a baby which comes so easy for so many others.

I understand your position about not seeing a specialist b/c of no insurance. That stood in my way for way too long. It's a gamble to stick with an Obgyn who is not specialized in IF and I actually lost that gamble. I thought the same as you... if a dr would give me ovulation induction meds it would happen for us. Since I have no known issues, my ob took a sample from DH about 18 months ago, looked at it under a scope, saw a bunch of swimmers, and said that no way was he the prob. So I was given clomid, then injections for months and months and months w/ no success. Finally went to an RE this past April who tested a sample for DH and although his count was phenomenal (like 150mil before wash), his morphology was only like 4%. Obviously, my Ob didn't test properly. My RE said the odds of us getting preg w/out IVF and ICSI, although possible, are very slim.

That said, there was probably an equally if not greater chance that we could have had success with my Ob and saved thousands (it cost us more in the end cause we still spent small thousands w/ the Ob before now spending big thousands w/ the RE). But money wasn't the only thing on the line for us...My biggest regret by far is the wasted time, not the money. DH and I are much older than you when it comes to having babies (he is 35 and myself 30). Knowing that we wasted almost 2 yrs with an Obgyn really gets me down since I was hoping we wouldn't be having kids in our 40's and I know that he will for sure be in his 40's when we are still (hopefully) having babies (I want many :) ). Weigh your options, talk with DH, and decide what is right for you. Only the two of you will be able to make that decision. Just know that there are options!

Sorry if I went on, I just thought my story might be relevant. Good luck and speak up if you ever need support or have questions. This community is a blessing!

Welcome Jessie!
I hope you find this board to be a great source of comfort on your ttc journey! I know I have! I completely understand your frustration with the lack of insurance, it sure makes things even more difficult. Anyway, I wish you the best and I hope you get your BFP soon! :)

Kat

Welcome Jessie! Hope you find this board full of comfort, encouragement, and info-they are a great group of ladies, and sometimes men.

I understand the insurance issue. I have medical insurance but they will not cover a single penny on infertility treatments or anything associated with it.:mad: We're in the process of saving $$ for treatments in the near future (hopefully by end of summer we'll start IUI).

Best wishes.
Pinkie

Welcome Jessie! Hope you find this board full of comfort, encouragement, and info-they are a great group of ladies, and sometimes men.

I understand the insurance issue. I have medical insurance but they will not cover a single penny on infertility treatments or anything associated with it.:mad: We're in the process of saving $$ for treatments in the near future (hopefully by end of summer we'll start IUI).

Best wishes.
Pinkie
Hi , I was just was wondering where u live at and what is the name of the insurance u have ?sorry ,, it is early in the morning and I haven't had the coffee yet ..so , I just reread your post ..my husband and I have been going thru this trying to have a baby rollor coaster ride off and on for about 8 or 9 years ..were kind in the same boat as you and your husband ..NO INSURANCE ! and the I.U.I. TREATMENTS ARE $$$ even when we went thru those the insurance paid but not for that and i think back then we paid like 3 to 400.00 and now we are trying to find a program or clinic where they offer free IVF treatments and so far nothing ..hope u can keep in touch with me tc god bless

I live in Belton,SC and i currently have no ins. I get Conceive magazine and 2 months ago they had a list of the top companies that offer infertility benefits. Would you believe that Avon is one of the best when it comes to infertility benefits? Anyway, im applying today for a job that was listed in the mag. that covers infertility (its not avon though). Hopefully i get it. I really need to see a specialist. I know im young-22 yrs. and i have atleast 23 more yrs. before im physically unable to have children, but that doesn't comfort me when i see family members getting pregnant left and right. Im also scared im going to wait too long and then be in my late 30's or 40's before i do get to a doctor. I believe that if it is meant to be it will happen even if i never get to a dr. and if its not meant to be then no matter how many treatments i have or how many drs. i see it wont happen. so i do take comfort in that. My mother had the same problem as me and the dr. told her she couldn't get pregnant, to just give up, but she still prayed everyday that the Lord bless her with a baby. Her father had lung cancer at the time and he was dying. She got the call one fri. night to get to the hospital b/c he was about to pass away. She said that she went into the bathroom at work and prayed to God that if he would just let her father live she would never ask for a baby as long as she lived. Well, he died that fri. and she found out she was pregnant with me the fri. after he died. Then, she got her tubes tied. 4 yrs. after i was born she found out she was pregnant with my brother. The dr. went in to re-tie her tubes and they were still tied! The dr. said my brother was a miracle baby. I believe that the Lord has a plan for all of us, just as he did with my mother. That's what's kept me going. I hope all of you dont give up hope and that you all get your special little blessings soon!

hey jessie, welcome to the boards! im sorry you and dh are dealing with infertility. i do definilty believe in miracles, THEY HAPPEN!! but if there is something medically wrong sometimes it does take man's intervention. thats why god gave them the knoweledge.. i think gods plan for me might have been to do ivf, because ive learned so much about how hard some people work to have a baby, and i truly believe i am changed since this experience in good and bad ways! i definitly believe i will appreciate and have more patience for my child then i would have if it was soemthing that came easy too me. yea, even with medical insurance most states dont cover inferility! but too me you cant put a price on your child, right?!?! what are all "things" worth in life if you cant share them with family? i know financially its very tough, but you still have time, but that doesnt mean im telling you to wait... but its nice to have side on your time :blob_fire i started seeing a fertility specialist when i was 23 and dh 27. we kinda knew before we were married we may have trouble conceiving, then we tried real hard for 1 1/2 to 2 yrs before we saw a specialist, and we've been with our re now for 1 1/2 yrs..
im now 25 and dh 29. i know im still young, but ive been through so much already, it can age you. its a tough journey but we were all picked for some reason or another, right?! anyway, good luck hun, and i hope you get to see a specialist soon, and he can trigger the exact problem and find a treatment plan that will be successful for you and your dh. Aimee

Salut Jessie! :bouncing:

I am also fairly new here, but I have found that the ladies on this board are the most supportive women I have ever had the pleasure and honour of knowing. I am sure you will feel the same! :D

Your story was so inspirational, I must thank you for sharing it with us. It really touched me... to hear Dieu has a plan for all of us. It is so very very true, mais it's so good to hear.

Since you told your story et ma chere Kari told hers, here I go with mine! (Do not worry, it is not long at all)

I am 21 years old, have been for abotu a year. And since we both come from fairly traditional families, and we are financially stable, we had started ttc right away. So that makes me ttc 1 year. It sounds very short, and it is. Especially when you compare to some ladies who have been ttc for YEARS. But I have known since I was about 15 or 16 that I PCOS....or a form of it, not that actual syndrome. So I knew from the word [I]go[I]that I would have problems. He has been checked (we checked before we got married :p) and ther is nothing abnormal about him.
Currently, I am doing acupuncture and an herb regimen to help with my condition. It has helped other things....stress levels, too tired all the time (I can't remember the word?) and headaches. But on the 13th, I have an appoitment with my doctor. Hopefully it goes very easy.... but I am also worried that she does not have enough experince dealing with IF. And I worry over the money that more qualified doctors and treatments will bring. Primary and secondary health care in canada is free, but tertiary is out of purse :( And I don't know hwich form of health care IF falls under.

Anyway, I'm stopping my sotry before it becomes too long! :blob_fire Nothing more to tell anyway :D

Never stop believing in the miracles!! *****BABY DUST******

Princesssweetns: i hope everything goes ok with the dr. appt. coming up.
I have found the ladies here to be very supportive and kind. I was a member of another forum for women ttc, but it wasn't really a forum for ppl dealing with infertility, and everyone kept getting pregnant. I was the only one there that had been ttc the longest and i felt out of place. Im glad i found this site!

awww, thank you cherie. I was a part of another forum as well for women iwth infertility, but all they kept doing was arguing over stupid things, and people's question would go unanswered.....very bad.

I'm glad that you're happy here!! :D:D We're glad to have you here.... I mean, we are sad that you have to deal with IF. It isn't an easy path to walk, by any means. But at least we have each other, so even though it's not easy, we at least have good company :)

*****BABY DUST******

Jessie and Princess, I can only imagine that you both probably get the annoying comments like "oh you are so young, don't worry about it" or "you haven't really been trying that long... don't worry it'll happen". :mad: I often still get the latter and it really ticks me off. My worrying kicked in after about 6 mos of TTC. When you want something so very badly, it is human nature to think and worry about it. That emotion comes regardless of how young or how old you are, and whether you've been trying for 3 months or 15 years. The only blessing from this IF battle is this board and what AimeeS said.... the patience we will learn and pass on to our children, who we will NEVER take for granted!:angel: Hang in there girls, our time must be coming.

Chere kari,
It's so true!! I get that so much! And then useless "advice" that makes no sense. Some days it is all I think about. Or some months, I think about morning sickness so much that I do feel queasy, when really it's just me wanting something so badly I can literally feel it. And you're right kari, our time is coming!

****BABY DUST****

Welcome Jessie. I really hope you manage to get some expert help soon, and find the money for it somehow. Thanks for sharing the story about your mother, that's amazing. Good luck with deciding your next step.
Wise words from Kari there.

I also agree with Aimee - I feel changed by this IF experience, and feel I am a better person for it, so I often wonder if it's all part of a greater plan. I'm trying to be philosophical at the moment and stand back from it all, but this is just because I have no landmarks or dates to look out for as my cycle went AWOL. I have no idea what's going on at the moment because my IUI meds didn't work, but I think it has been good to take a breather.