My Husband Was Recently Diagnosed With Lymphoma/leukemia And Already Had Emphyasema & Asbestosis. He Is 77 And The Last Week Or So; He Is Really Grouchy. I Am Sure It Is Bothering Him But His Personality Is Really Changed. Any Ideas Or Helpful Words.

It must be so hard, not only for him, but also for you.

When you are ill, and something else happens you feel why me, won't it ever end?

It sounds as though your husband is just fed up, quite rightly so, perhaps in pain and depressed?

Don't keep asking him what's wrong, just let him know that you are there for him, you love him and when he want's to talk to you about how he's feeling he can.

Don't forget, men only pretend to be the stronger ones, and it is usually the women that are stronger than the men, especially when it comes down to illness!!

Good luck, God bless, and try not to worry too much.

Susie

thanks so much...for the input. sometimes you are too close to the situation to really see what's going on and it takes someone from the outside to help you see what's really there. I appreciate your view.

Susie has given a wonderful response and I agree with her totally. Your husband must be so distressed to get the latest news. He is already dealing with so much. What treatment are they recommending? I know this is very hard on you too, but just be there for him, as you have been.

no treatment is being recommended. they want him to see a lung doctor because he may have a mass there but it could also be calcification from asbestosis...so we wouldn't know if he doesn't go...and also he has an anuerysm with a clot in his abdomen and is suppose to see a doctor for that but so far; he has done nothing...he just sits and is very quiet...who knows how it would seem not knowing if that were the last sunset you would ever see...it is really, really hard because I don't know what to do or say or how to help him and he is closing up.

Hey, I can tell that you are carrying such a big burden on your shoulders right now, is there any one who can come in and help, give you a break for a day, to re energize, as it affects you, and has a draining effect, so don't forget to take time out for you!!

Is it possible that a nurse, doctor or friend could come in and speak to your husband, or maybe offer him some antidepressants, maybe you could do with some, as you come across very low as well x

Try and get him to enjoy time with you, don't dwell on it, as you can't go on thinking is this our last sunset, it will just keep upsetting you.

Be positive and take action if you have to, or ask a relative or someone to help, find out from the doctors what is the prognosis, what do they intend to do, and what treatment does he need?

If you can get him out of the house for a walk or even in a wheel chair get some fresh air.

Find something that makes you both laugh, remember the good day's, tell him it's ok to feel low, but also tell him it's affecting you, as you are so worried about him.

:angel: God bless you both Susie x

Hi

Does he have CLL? Thats what I have and sometimes they don't do anything until the WBC's get very high. Or if he starts to get anemic.

Take care

yes he has the CLL but he seems very tired all the time. He has numerous other health problems so maybe that's why. I appreciate all of yal's input.