Lost-in-Time
07-09-2007, 02:49 AM
Do you ever feel the need to talk, but have noting to say...don't know what to see....
Do you ever feel like you need something, but you don't know what and even if you knew, you couldn't say it.....
Have you?
Or am I just a basket case for sure!!!
Do you ever feel like you need something, but you don't know what and even if you knew, you couldn't say it.....
Have you?
Or am I just a basket case for sure!!!
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isitme
07-09-2007, 05:18 AM
I felt like that for years, knowing I needed that something, though never knew what is was. therefore it was impossible to ask for that something. I kept waiting and waiting, hoping that one day, someone would guide me in the right direction. People did, but it was a very, very slow process, far too slow for my liking, but it couldn't have been any other way, as I myself didn't know what it was I was searching for. I hoped one day to be able to say, "yes, that's it. That is what I've always been trying to say." Also, with the liklihood of not be believed, I kept quiet. None of us are basket cases. We may feel as though we are at times, but we're not. Talking generally about you life will help pinpoint where it is that you are struggling right now. I do wish you would share more. That is when you will begin to heal.
ICC
07-09-2007, 07:16 AM
Yes Lost....I have been like that many times in my life. I am there right now. I know I'm not feeling right, I think I know why BUT have no idea what it is I need to discuss or need from anyone. Feel like I'm just coasting along.
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Nyxie63
07-09-2007, 07:49 AM
Yup lost. I'm there right now too. Something needs to change, but I have no idea what or even in what category of my life. It's kinda like putting a puzzle together while wearing a blindfold. Eventually a piece will fit, but it takes a lot of fumbling around in the meantime.
I've found that journaling helps a lot to pinpoint areas that are chronic issues. I'll do a brain/soul dump and let it go - no editing or revisions allowed. Later on, I'll go back and read the entries from weeks or months ago. It really does help to get a better handle on what's really been happening. It also helps to remember that nobody else is going to be reading the entries except you, so there's no need to make it "readable" or acceptable for anyone else.
I've found that journaling helps a lot to pinpoint areas that are chronic issues. I'll do a brain/soul dump and let it go - no editing or revisions allowed. Later on, I'll go back and read the entries from weeks or months ago. It really does help to get a better handle on what's really been happening. It also helps to remember that nobody else is going to be reading the entries except you, so there's no need to make it "readable" or acceptable for anyone else.
dustoffkid
07-09-2007, 08:17 AM
I have a feeling that most people feel that way time to time... I don't even think it's really PTSDers that have cornered the market on it. :)
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Phoenix
07-09-2007, 01:16 PM
Dear LIT:
Sometimes I look for just the right words to use when I want to get my point across;
I lied.........
It's most of the time.
I've learned to just come out with it at times, no matter how jumbled it may sound or if it seems that I am going off on a wild tangent.
The other 2% of the time, when i get "poster's block" I sit with whatever it is and give it time to come out; more often than not, it does.
Ryan
Sometimes I look for just the right words to use when I want to get my point across;
I lied.........
It's most of the time.
I've learned to just come out with it at times, no matter how jumbled it may sound or if it seems that I am going off on a wild tangent.
The other 2% of the time, when i get "poster's block" I sit with whatever it is and give it time to come out; more often than not, it does.
Ryan
Lost-in-Time
07-09-2007, 04:26 PM
My friends get frustrated with me because I don't talk to them about personal things...or they ask me questions and I just dont' have any answer for them about What's wrong? or waht I'm feeling...they dont' understand that the words just don't/cant come out...they are used to be able to express stuff and so they don't understand that there just aren't answers....or easy answers......or short answers....or.........i've lost a good freind before because I wouldn't "talk to her" about the problem..and I didn't have anything to talk to her about...and she just didn't understand that I didn't understand enough to have an answer for her
i dont' have any thing to say to a T either...so on use in doing that either...i know..they are supposed to help me talk...but mine have said in the past that it's like "pulling teeth" or a "sparring match" to get anything out of me....and that's when I'm trying my best to talk to them and to get better....
it just seems hopeless that talking will ever help..and yet that seems to be the only answer anyone ever has for me too..
i dont' have any thing to say to a T either...so on use in doing that either...i know..they are supposed to help me talk...but mine have said in the past that it's like "pulling teeth" or a "sparring match" to get anything out of me....and that's when I'm trying my best to talk to them and to get better....
it just seems hopeless that talking will ever help..and yet that seems to be the only answer anyone ever has for me too..
Phoenix
07-09-2007, 06:20 PM
LIT:
Sometimes I try writing things down on paper; even if it's how i feel at the moment.
Ryan
Sometimes I try writing things down on paper; even if it's how i feel at the moment.
Ryan
Lost-in-Time
07-09-2007, 06:40 PM
yes..me too...but there are times when it doesn't come out on paper eithre
Lost-in-Time
07-10-2007, 01:16 AM
That's just it, isitme, I don't konw what to share....
Lost-in-Time
07-10-2007, 01:21 AM
I know it's late..but is anyone here??? I really need human contact...to talk....to something.....anyone here???
Phoenix
07-10-2007, 02:57 AM
sorry i missed you LIT
Lost-in-Time
07-10-2007, 04:00 AM
It's okay....thanks
isitme
07-10-2007, 05:20 AM
Had I gone for therapy years and years ago, it would have been like putting teeth for the therapist and I .....................I didn't know WHAT the problem was. It took my daughter to have a boyfriend with the same name as I x for me to figure out that I could even summon up the courage to say his name without flashbacks. Just the same name gave me the creeps???????????
Is there a name that you can't bring yourself to say because of all the emotions that get stirred up? I don't know if you read my post about my son and writing a letter to me. Doing that was very theraputic. It got things into perspective and put me in the present. I was locked in the past soooooooo long. I really feel for you.
Is there a name that you can't bring yourself to say because of all the emotions that get stirred up? I don't know if you read my post about my son and writing a letter to me. Doing that was very theraputic. It got things into perspective and put me in the present. I was locked in the past soooooooo long. I really feel for you.
JACKFLASH
07-10-2007, 05:54 AM
Some times all I can say is I don't feel well. I don't feel like myself and can't exsplain why to any one. I'm just so down. I feel so bad about myself and every little thing takes so much effort.
ICC
07-10-2007, 07:52 AM
Lost....There's alot of help here. as isitme said a "trigger" could be something you can't even put your finger on as a name, a scent, a feeling, etc. As far as writing you say you can sometimes and sometimes you can't get the words even on paper. I think you'r eare blocking the horrible memories. You'e very stron to fight this as you are. You can be equally as strong in the opposite direction. When you start to write and get a block push yourself to get it out. It took me years as I was embarrassed to even write certain things. I was embarrassed in front of myself. I knew no one else would read it but i still had a hard time facing myself. When I looked in the mirror I saw a piece of crap that people did whatever they wanted to and I allowed it. When I was finally able to release it on paper ( some things I have never told my therapist) I started to make headway. BUT I had to sit in my own mind and remembe rthe horrible things that happened to me. Once I conquered the FEAR that no one could hurt me again, the abusers were no where near me I was able to write freely. And boy did I. I was nasty, blunt and to the point. Told them just exactly what they did to me and how I felt about them. It opened flood gates that allowed me to continue. Lost.....It's a slow , hard process and I feel maybe you just haven't found the way that's best for you to start opening up. Since you keep it all in I think writing is your best bet.\\
ICC
ICC
Lost-in-Time
07-10-2007, 09:04 AM
i dont even have words to tell you guys how great (and right) I think you are...