emily43
07-12-2007, 02:45 PM
Hi, my name is Emily,and I'm looking for support with PTSD, as today is my last psych appt. after a year of therapy, numerous meds, and emdr treatment. I have ptsd caused by a 16 yr marriage full of all kinds of abuse and unable to get out, got out 7 yrs ago and am still dealing with affects, although meditation and painting has helped.
Any Advice???
Thanks, Emily
Any Advice???
Thanks, Emily
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Lost-in-Time
07-12-2007, 04:41 PM
Hi, Emily and welcome to the board. I am struggling myself at the moment so don't have any advice to share but wanted to welcome you and let you know that there are wonderful people here...some will be able to relate to your situation...and many will care about you and offer support.....I just wanted to let you know we are here....even though the time all depends upon who is popping in......
i think i'm rambling...anyway..welcome and keep talking and keep fighting....
Lost
i think i'm rambling...anyway..welcome and keep talking and keep fighting....
Lost
NVD
07-12-2007, 04:51 PM
Don't have any advice here, but just wanted to say WELCOME! Hope you find the support that you are needing here. Good luck!
Amber
Amber
beka6
07-12-2007, 05:59 PM
Emily,
Welcome to the boards! :wave: I'm going through EMDR right now, so it's really nice to see that someone has made it through! I don't know if all the effects of PTSD ever really go away. Sometimes the wounds are more raw than at other times.... The boards are a great place to find support. There are some wonderful people here.
Beka
Welcome to the boards! :wave: I'm going through EMDR right now, so it's really nice to see that someone has made it through! I don't know if all the effects of PTSD ever really go away. Sometimes the wounds are more raw than at other times.... The boards are a great place to find support. There are some wonderful people here.
Beka
Survivor 1957
07-12-2007, 08:40 PM
em
welcome, there are great people here to listen when you need it, i to was in 9 years of hell, its been 21 years out on my own and only 4 years since i reached out for help with the PTSD. still working on getting healthy my self. the boards help.
i will drop in now and then when i can,
k
welcome, there are great people here to listen when you need it, i to was in 9 years of hell, its been 21 years out on my own and only 4 years since i reached out for help with the PTSD. still working on getting healthy my self. the boards help.
i will drop in now and then when i can,
k
Phoenix
07-13-2007, 06:16 AM
Hi, my name is Emily,and I'm looking for support with PTSD, as today is my last psych appt. after a year of therapy, numerous meds, and emdr treatment. I have ptsd caused by a 16 yr marriage full of all kinds of abuse and unable to get out, got out 7 yrs ago and am still dealing with affects, although meditation and painting has helped.
Any Advice???
Thanks, Emily
Emily:
I reiterate the sentiments of "the family" here.
Welcome to the family.
As a new family member, I ask that you not be shy and to post as often as you see fit.
Remember to share at your own pace; slow and steady can win the race too.
If possible, celebrate the 7th (by the way, it's a lucky number) year anniversary as a milestone.
The important part is that you are no longer in that relationship (thank God) and now, at this point in time, you have choices.
I used to write poetry, short stories and was completing a children's book.
If any of these seem appropriate for you, then by all means choose at your leisure.
Another method is what I call "walk therapy."
Go to the neighborhood track (make sure you stretch first and if there are any health concerns,consult your doctor prior to) start the first few laps slow; give your "self" time to absorb what is on your mind.
Once you ae warmed up, it's time to go into 2nd gear (remember that you are power walking, not running) and are now working out the day to day frustrations.
We'll stop there for now.
Take care of yourself.
Ryan
Any Advice???
Thanks, Emily
Emily:
I reiterate the sentiments of "the family" here.
Welcome to the family.
As a new family member, I ask that you not be shy and to post as often as you see fit.
Remember to share at your own pace; slow and steady can win the race too.
If possible, celebrate the 7th (by the way, it's a lucky number) year anniversary as a milestone.
The important part is that you are no longer in that relationship (thank God) and now, at this point in time, you have choices.
I used to write poetry, short stories and was completing a children's book.
If any of these seem appropriate for you, then by all means choose at your leisure.
Another method is what I call "walk therapy."
Go to the neighborhood track (make sure you stretch first and if there are any health concerns,consult your doctor prior to) start the first few laps slow; give your "self" time to absorb what is on your mind.
Once you ae warmed up, it's time to go into 2nd gear (remember that you are power walking, not running) and are now working out the day to day frustrations.
We'll stop there for now.
Take care of yourself.
Ryan
dustoffkid
07-13-2007, 08:07 AM
Emily,
Welcome to the family. We all have our issues and problems, and share them when we see fit. We also have tips and tricks (if you can call it that, it sounds better than "coping mechanisms" :) )to share, and welcome your contributions.
oh, and we like to hug a lot.
So again, welcome. Share as much as is comfortable for you, or just pop in and say hi every now and again.
Hugs,
Dustoff
Welcome to the family. We all have our issues and problems, and share them when we see fit. We also have tips and tricks (if you can call it that, it sounds better than "coping mechanisms" :) )to share, and welcome your contributions.
oh, and we like to hug a lot.
So again, welcome. Share as much as is comfortable for you, or just pop in and say hi every now and again.
Hugs,
Dustoff
thaliak
07-13-2007, 08:35 AM
Hi Emily,
I am also new, actually very new, just joined today.
But I already like what I read and hear. PEople are great. WE ARE NOT ALONE.YOU MUST ALREADY FEEL THAT!You already have so many replies!
I myself fully intend to take advantage of this site every time I need support. I am currently into therapy for panic disorter and I can say that I chase after every kind support I can find. This here is my latest find! My previous one was my discovery a few months ago at 46 years that, like you, I LOVE painting and that I can actually paint quite nicely thank you! ( This got me TOTALLY by surprise and I now paint like there is no tomorrow!!)
I also love exercise and when I am in my darkest mood I just throw myself outdoors, to the park, to the streets, anywhere but home. It gives me a great sense of freedom which is entirely the opposite of being distressed and tied up with a feeling of doom and no escape. This could help you too. A! and also making new friends!!
Start from here!
Take care of yourself, please.
I am also new, actually very new, just joined today.
But I already like what I read and hear. PEople are great. WE ARE NOT ALONE.YOU MUST ALREADY FEEL THAT!You already have so many replies!
I myself fully intend to take advantage of this site every time I need support. I am currently into therapy for panic disorter and I can say that I chase after every kind support I can find. This here is my latest find! My previous one was my discovery a few months ago at 46 years that, like you, I LOVE painting and that I can actually paint quite nicely thank you! ( This got me TOTALLY by surprise and I now paint like there is no tomorrow!!)
I also love exercise and when I am in my darkest mood I just throw myself outdoors, to the park, to the streets, anywhere but home. It gives me a great sense of freedom which is entirely the opposite of being distressed and tied up with a feeling of doom and no escape. This could help you too. A! and also making new friends!!
Start from here!
Take care of yourself, please.
emily43
07-13-2007, 12:17 PM
Emily,
Welcome to the boards! :wave: I'm going through EMDR right now, so it's really nice to see that someone has made it through! I don't know if all the effects of PTSD ever really go away. Sometimes the wounds are more raw than at other times.... The boards are a great place to find support. There are some wonderful people here.
Beka
Beka,
Thank you so much for responding with such support!! What a great site, and what a great feeling it is to be able to talk to someone else who has this (at times) debilitating mind freak thing! Out here in Colorado there aren't any support groups that I have found , so Thank You All for the friendship!!!
Emily
Welcome to the boards! :wave: I'm going through EMDR right now, so it's really nice to see that someone has made it through! I don't know if all the effects of PTSD ever really go away. Sometimes the wounds are more raw than at other times.... The boards are a great place to find support. There are some wonderful people here.
Beka
Beka,
Thank you so much for responding with such support!! What a great site, and what a great feeling it is to be able to talk to someone else who has this (at times) debilitating mind freak thing! Out here in Colorado there aren't any support groups that I have found , so Thank You All for the friendship!!!
Emily
emily43
07-13-2007, 12:29 PM
Hi Emily,
I am also new, actually very new, just joined today.
But I already like what I read and hear. PEople are great. WE ARE NOT ALONE.YOU MUST ALREADY FEEL THAT!You already have so many replies!
I myself fully intend to take advantage of this site every time I need support. I am currently into therapy for panic disorter and I can say that I chase after every kind support I can find. This here is my latest find! My previous one was my discovery a few months ago at 46 years that, like you, I LOVE painting and that I can actually paint quite nicely thank you! ( This got me TOTALLY by surprise and I now paint like there is no tomorrow!!)
I also love exercise and when I am in my darkest mood I just throw myself outdoors, to the park, to the streets, anywhere but home. It gives me a great sense of freedom which is entirely the opposite of being distressed and tied up with a feeling of doom and no escape. This could help you too. A! and also making new friends!!
Start from here!
Take care of yourself, please.
Thaliak,
Thank you, and welcome to you too!! I'm sooo glad I found this site!! I'm sorry for your pain too, Life is hard!! Painting is wonderful, walking the dogs helps, but sometimes just can't leave the house, does this happen to you?? For years I was on & off the meds, right now off.Emdr did help. It sounds sad, but it's sooo good to know there's someone out there like me.
Take care of yourself too
Talk soon
Em
I am also new, actually very new, just joined today.
But I already like what I read and hear. PEople are great. WE ARE NOT ALONE.YOU MUST ALREADY FEEL THAT!You already have so many replies!
I myself fully intend to take advantage of this site every time I need support. I am currently into therapy for panic disorter and I can say that I chase after every kind support I can find. This here is my latest find! My previous one was my discovery a few months ago at 46 years that, like you, I LOVE painting and that I can actually paint quite nicely thank you! ( This got me TOTALLY by surprise and I now paint like there is no tomorrow!!)
I also love exercise and when I am in my darkest mood I just throw myself outdoors, to the park, to the streets, anywhere but home. It gives me a great sense of freedom which is entirely the opposite of being distressed and tied up with a feeling of doom and no escape. This could help you too. A! and also making new friends!!
Start from here!
Take care of yourself, please.
Thaliak,
Thank you, and welcome to you too!! I'm sooo glad I found this site!! I'm sorry for your pain too, Life is hard!! Painting is wonderful, walking the dogs helps, but sometimes just can't leave the house, does this happen to you?? For years I was on & off the meds, right now off.Emdr did help. It sounds sad, but it's sooo good to know there's someone out there like me.
Take care of yourself too
Talk soon
Em
emily43
07-13-2007, 12:35 PM
Emily,
Welcome to the family. We all have our issues and problems, and share them when we see fit. We also have tips and tricks (if you can call it that, it sounds better than "coping mechanisms" :) )to share, and welcome your contributions.
oh, and we like to hug a lot.
So again, welcome. Share as much as is comfortable for you, or just pop in and say hi every now and again.
Hugs,
Dustoff
Dustoffkid,
Thank you for the warm welcome!! I'll take all the tips & tricks I can get, also hugs!! I can't tell you how lucky I feel to have found this site!! I don't think this crazy thing ever goes away, but we do learn to cope, at least most of the time!
Thank you again
Hugs
Em
Welcome to the family. We all have our issues and problems, and share them when we see fit. We also have tips and tricks (if you can call it that, it sounds better than "coping mechanisms" :) )to share, and welcome your contributions.
oh, and we like to hug a lot.
So again, welcome. Share as much as is comfortable for you, or just pop in and say hi every now and again.
Hugs,
Dustoff
Dustoffkid,
Thank you for the warm welcome!! I'll take all the tips & tricks I can get, also hugs!! I can't tell you how lucky I feel to have found this site!! I don't think this crazy thing ever goes away, but we do learn to cope, at least most of the time!
Thank you again
Hugs
Em
emily43
07-13-2007, 01:07 PM
Emily:
I reiterate the sentiments of "the family" here.
Welcome to the family.
As a new family member, I ask that you not be shy and to post as often as you see fit.
Remember to share at your own pace; slow and steady can win the race too.
If possible, celebrate the 7th (by the way, it's a lucky number) year anniversary as a milestone.
The important part is that you are no longer in that relationship (thank God) and now, at this point in time, you have choices.
I used to write poetry, short stories and was completing a children's book.
If any of these seem appropriate for you, then by all means choose at your leisure.
Another method is what I call "walk therapy."
Go to the neighborhood track (make sure you stretch first and if there are any health concerns,consult your doctor prior to) start the first few laps slow; give your "self" time to absorb what is on your mind.
Once you ae warmed up, it's time to go into 2nd gear (remember that you are power walking, not running) and are now working out the day to day frustrations.
We'll stop there for now.
Take care of yourself.
Ryan
Ryan,(forthemasses)
Thank you also, for the warm welcome! I'm already proud to be a part of "the family"!! I love the idea about 7 yrs being a mile stone! It's my favorite number! Sometimes getting out of the house is hard for me as this is my safe place.Emdr really did work for me, off meds now, last psych appt. yesterday, & scared to death to do this alone. (Brief) Ex- husband, 16 yrs. totally controlling, guns in the mouth, stranglings, beatings, mind games, tried to leave 30 times, family would only put me and my 4 boys up for a couple days had to go back. I sing in a band with my present husband (wonderful guy) but doesn't quite understand, said I'd never marry again, then I met him!! Writing and singing helps!! I also paint. Anyway, Thank You again for the support, I'm sooo glad I found your site!!
Take care
Em
I reiterate the sentiments of "the family" here.
Welcome to the family.
As a new family member, I ask that you not be shy and to post as often as you see fit.
Remember to share at your own pace; slow and steady can win the race too.
If possible, celebrate the 7th (by the way, it's a lucky number) year anniversary as a milestone.
The important part is that you are no longer in that relationship (thank God) and now, at this point in time, you have choices.
I used to write poetry, short stories and was completing a children's book.
If any of these seem appropriate for you, then by all means choose at your leisure.
Another method is what I call "walk therapy."
Go to the neighborhood track (make sure you stretch first and if there are any health concerns,consult your doctor prior to) start the first few laps slow; give your "self" time to absorb what is on your mind.
Once you ae warmed up, it's time to go into 2nd gear (remember that you are power walking, not running) and are now working out the day to day frustrations.
We'll stop there for now.
Take care of yourself.
Ryan
Ryan,(forthemasses)
Thank you also, for the warm welcome! I'm already proud to be a part of "the family"!! I love the idea about 7 yrs being a mile stone! It's my favorite number! Sometimes getting out of the house is hard for me as this is my safe place.Emdr really did work for me, off meds now, last psych appt. yesterday, & scared to death to do this alone. (Brief) Ex- husband, 16 yrs. totally controlling, guns in the mouth, stranglings, beatings, mind games, tried to leave 30 times, family would only put me and my 4 boys up for a couple days had to go back. I sing in a band with my present husband (wonderful guy) but doesn't quite understand, said I'd never marry again, then I met him!! Writing and singing helps!! I also paint. Anyway, Thank You again for the support, I'm sooo glad I found your site!!
Take care
Em
emily43
07-13-2007, 01:14 PM
em
welcome, there are great people here to listen when you need it, i to was in 9 years of hell, its been 21 years out on my own and only 4 years since i reached out for help with the PTSD. still working on getting healthy my self. the boards help.
i will drop in now and then when i can,
k
Survivor1957,
Thank you for the support .It sounds crazy, but it's sooo good to know someone else has been thru it too!! I'm sorry for your pain also. I feel like I can really share here on this site. Also would like to help anyone I can.(if I can)!!
Take care
Hugs
Em
welcome, there are great people here to listen when you need it, i to was in 9 years of hell, its been 21 years out on my own and only 4 years since i reached out for help with the PTSD. still working on getting healthy my self. the boards help.
i will drop in now and then when i can,
k
Survivor1957,
Thank you for the support .It sounds crazy, but it's sooo good to know someone else has been thru it too!! I'm sorry for your pain also. I feel like I can really share here on this site. Also would like to help anyone I can.(if I can)!!
Take care
Hugs
Em
emily43
07-13-2007, 01:18 PM
Don't have any advice here, but just wanted to say WELCOME! Hope you find the support that you are needing here. Good luck!
Amber
Amber,
Thank you!! Sooo glad to be part of the family, & hope I can help others too!! This site is wonderful, and is already helping me just knowing there are others out there with this crazy thing!!
Take care
Hugs
Em
Amber
Amber,
Thank you!! Sooo glad to be part of the family, & hope I can help others too!! This site is wonderful, and is already helping me just knowing there are others out there with this crazy thing!!
Take care
Hugs
Em
emily43
07-13-2007, 01:21 PM
Hi, Emily and welcome to the board. I am struggling myself at the moment so don't have any advice to share but wanted to welcome you and let you know that there are wonderful people here...some will be able to relate to your situation...and many will care about you and offer support.....I just wanted to let you know we are here....even though the time all depends upon who is popping in......
i think i'm rambling...anyway..welcome and keep talking and keep fighting....
Lost
Hi Lost,
Thank you for your support, It's sooo good to know people are out there!!
Take care
Em
i think i'm rambling...anyway..welcome and keep talking and keep fighting....
Lost
Hi Lost,
Thank you for your support, It's sooo good to know people are out there!!
Take care
Em
Phoenix
07-14-2007, 05:40 AM
Ryan,(forthemasses)
Thank you also, for the warm welcome! I'm already proud to be a part of "the family"!! I love the idea about 7 yrs being a mile stone! It's my favorite number! Sometimes getting out of the house is hard for me as this is my safe place.Emdr really did work for me, off meds now, last psych appt. yesterday, & scared to death to do this alone. (Brief) Ex- husband, 16 yrs. totally controlling, guns in the mouth, stranglings, beatings, mind games, tried to leave 30 times, family would only put me and my 4 boys up for a couple days had to go back. I sing in a band with my present husband (wonderful guy) but doesn't quite understand, said I'd never marry again, then I met him!! Writing and singing helps!! I also paint. Anyway, Thank You again for the support, I'm sooo glad I found your site!!
Take care
Em
Em:
You are not alone here. I definitely understand the concept of "going it alone."
What comes to mind is the saying "no person is an island."
I, for one, cannot do this alone and am not afraid to post my issues here; whether big or small.
If it concerns or bothers me it is definitely worth noting.
Please remember that your "ex" is just that and your new husband couldn't have come into your life at a more opportune moment.
Writing, singing and painting(they always seem to come in 3's:)).
Good for you!
My site, no. This site is the property of healthboards, which is supervised by specific moderators.
"All the world is a stage and I am but an actor," so to speak.
This means that I have a specific role, so to speak; never to be interpreted as me being anything less than genuine.
Ryan
Thank you also, for the warm welcome! I'm already proud to be a part of "the family"!! I love the idea about 7 yrs being a mile stone! It's my favorite number! Sometimes getting out of the house is hard for me as this is my safe place.Emdr really did work for me, off meds now, last psych appt. yesterday, & scared to death to do this alone. (Brief) Ex- husband, 16 yrs. totally controlling, guns in the mouth, stranglings, beatings, mind games, tried to leave 30 times, family would only put me and my 4 boys up for a couple days had to go back. I sing in a band with my present husband (wonderful guy) but doesn't quite understand, said I'd never marry again, then I met him!! Writing and singing helps!! I also paint. Anyway, Thank You again for the support, I'm sooo glad I found your site!!
Take care
Em
Em:
You are not alone here. I definitely understand the concept of "going it alone."
What comes to mind is the saying "no person is an island."
I, for one, cannot do this alone and am not afraid to post my issues here; whether big or small.
If it concerns or bothers me it is definitely worth noting.
Please remember that your "ex" is just that and your new husband couldn't have come into your life at a more opportune moment.
Writing, singing and painting(they always seem to come in 3's:)).
Good for you!
My site, no. This site is the property of healthboards, which is supervised by specific moderators.
"All the world is a stage and I am but an actor," so to speak.
This means that I have a specific role, so to speak; never to be interpreted as me being anything less than genuine.
Ryan
isitme
07-14-2007, 07:02 PM
Survivor1957,
Thank you for the support .It sounds crazy, but it's sooo good to know someone else has been thru it too!! I'm sorry for your pain also. I feel like I can really share here on this site. Also would like to help anyone I can.(if I can)!!
Take care
Hugs
Em
I know what you mean. I feel the same. Welcome. I am also now married to a wonderful husband...........didn't stop the thoughts of the past creeping in though, (in the early years). It's taken me about 12 years to accept I have ptsd and actually do something about it!
Thank you for the support .It sounds crazy, but it's sooo good to know someone else has been thru it too!! I'm sorry for your pain also. I feel like I can really share here on this site. Also would like to help anyone I can.(if I can)!!
Take care
Hugs
Em
I know what you mean. I feel the same. Welcome. I am also now married to a wonderful husband...........didn't stop the thoughts of the past creeping in though, (in the early years). It's taken me about 12 years to accept I have ptsd and actually do something about it!
Phoenix
07-15-2007, 12:02 PM
Em,
How are you doing these days?
Ryan
How are you doing these days?
Ryan
emily43
07-16-2007, 11:54 AM
Dear Ryan,
Things are well, how about you? Good weekend, you? I work from home, so that makes it easier, far as weekdays go. Good days, bad days , I'm sure you know what I mean. Today so far , Good Day. How about you?
Thanks again for the friendship,
Hugs
Em
Things are well, how about you? Good weekend, you? I work from home, so that makes it easier, far as weekdays go. Good days, bad days , I'm sure you know what I mean. Today so far , Good Day. How about you?
Thanks again for the friendship,
Hugs
Em
emily43
07-16-2007, 12:06 PM
I know what you mean. I feel the same. Welcome. I am also now married to a wonderful husband...........didn't stop the thoughts of the past creeping in though, (in the early years). It's taken me about 12 years to accept I have ptsd and actually do something about it!
Dear isitme,
You're sooo right, (thoughts of the past) my poor husband! He's a great supporter. I didn't realize I had anything, until after the divorce, but probably had ptsd for 6 yrs, inthe marriage ,7 yrs out. Didn't really deal with it until 1 yr ago, thought I was by meds, but actually really being able to slow down and calm the mind didn't happen until this year.Doesn't always work but at least now I have a few tools to work with. Good days, bad days, today, good so far, how about you?
Take care
Hugs
Em
Dear isitme,
You're sooo right, (thoughts of the past) my poor husband! He's a great supporter. I didn't realize I had anything, until after the divorce, but probably had ptsd for 6 yrs, inthe marriage ,7 yrs out. Didn't really deal with it until 1 yr ago, thought I was by meds, but actually really being able to slow down and calm the mind didn't happen until this year.Doesn't always work but at least now I have a few tools to work with. Good days, bad days, today, good so far, how about you?
Take care
Hugs
Em
Phoenix
07-16-2007, 12:23 PM
Dear Ryan,
Things are well, how about you? Good weekend, you? I work from home, so that makes it easier, far as weekdays go. Good days, bad days , I'm sure you know what I mean. Today so far , Good Day. How about you?
Thanks again for the friendship,
Hugs
Em
Em:
It is your friendship that I say thanks to.
My day so far........it's a "to be continued" at the moment.
Will explain later.
Three words: Father and Relatives.
Ryan
Things are well, how about you? Good weekend, you? I work from home, so that makes it easier, far as weekdays go. Good days, bad days , I'm sure you know what I mean. Today so far , Good Day. How about you?
Thanks again for the friendship,
Hugs
Em
Em:
It is your friendship that I say thanks to.
My day so far........it's a "to be continued" at the moment.
Will explain later.
Three words: Father and Relatives.
Ryan
emily43
07-16-2007, 12:31 PM
Ryan,
I understand, good luck, looking forward to chatting later.
Hugs
Em
I understand, good luck, looking forward to chatting later.
Hugs
Em
Phoenix
07-16-2007, 05:49 PM
Em:
It appears that my father's plans for an October wedding may be fizzling.
Something is afoot and instead of relishing in the fact that he is a self-absorbed individual, I actually feel for him.
My cousin, whose marriage seems to be on the rocks, needed me to help him search for passport info.
It appears (at least that is what his wife says) that his wife claimed to have filed for passports for the 2 children,for a trip to Barbados on 8/1.
Passport agency has no such record of any applications.
I seem to be the family's source for info.
If they weren't such backstabbers, I wouldn't mind.
My family is just selfish.
I've got to distance myself from them before they become the death of me.
Ryan
It appears that my father's plans for an October wedding may be fizzling.
Something is afoot and instead of relishing in the fact that he is a self-absorbed individual, I actually feel for him.
My cousin, whose marriage seems to be on the rocks, needed me to help him search for passport info.
It appears (at least that is what his wife says) that his wife claimed to have filed for passports for the 2 children,for a trip to Barbados on 8/1.
Passport agency has no such record of any applications.
I seem to be the family's source for info.
If they weren't such backstabbers, I wouldn't mind.
My family is just selfish.
I've got to distance myself from them before they become the death of me.
Ryan
emily43
07-16-2007, 06:18 PM
Em:
It appears that my father's plans for an October wedding may be fizzling.
Something is afoot and instead of relishing in the fact that he is a self-absorbed individual, I actually feel for him.
My cousin, whose marriage seems to be on the rocks, needed me to help him search for passport info.
It appears (at least that is what his wife says) that his wife claimed to have filed for passports for the 2 children,for a trip to Barbados on 8/1.
Passport agency has no such record of any applications.
I seem to be the family's source for info.
If they weren't such backstabbers, I wouldn't mind.
My family is just selfish
I've got to distance myself from them before they become the death of me.
Ryan
Hi Ryan,
Sorry to hear about your Dad, and cousin. Sounds to me like you're the rock in all your families. Distancing yourself sounds like a good idea. As for me I accomplished next to nothing, except a little work [removed]. Not a bad day, I just hate it when I don't feel like I did anything. Sometimes this THING is downright debilitating.
Em
It appears that my father's plans for an October wedding may be fizzling.
Something is afoot and instead of relishing in the fact that he is a self-absorbed individual, I actually feel for him.
My cousin, whose marriage seems to be on the rocks, needed me to help him search for passport info.
It appears (at least that is what his wife says) that his wife claimed to have filed for passports for the 2 children,for a trip to Barbados on 8/1.
Passport agency has no such record of any applications.
I seem to be the family's source for info.
If they weren't such backstabbers, I wouldn't mind.
My family is just selfish
I've got to distance myself from them before they become the death of me.
Ryan
Hi Ryan,
Sorry to hear about your Dad, and cousin. Sounds to me like you're the rock in all your families. Distancing yourself sounds like a good idea. As for me I accomplished next to nothing, except a little work [removed]. Not a bad day, I just hate it when I don't feel like I did anything. Sometimes this THING is downright debilitating.
Em
Phoenix
07-17-2007, 10:55 AM
Em:
You are so right with the "THING" comment.
Not even like you can hide behind a rock; it's literally with a person.
A most unwanted passenger, if I ever had one.
Ryan
You are so right with the "THING" comment.
Not even like you can hide behind a rock; it's literally with a person.
A most unwanted passenger, if I ever had one.
Ryan
emily43
07-17-2007, 01:25 PM
Em:
You are so right with the "THING" comment.
Not even like you can hide behind a rock; it's literally with a person.
A most unwanted passenger, if I ever had one.
Ryan
Ryan,
exactly!!! I'm sooo glad to you logged on today, I've been in such a funk, and can't seem to get past it.
Em
You are so right with the "THING" comment.
Not even like you can hide behind a rock; it's literally with a person.
A most unwanted passenger, if I ever had one.
Ryan
Ryan,
exactly!!! I'm sooo glad to you logged on today, I've been in such a funk, and can't seem to get past it.
Em
Phoenix
07-17-2007, 01:43 PM
Em:
What is going on?
I'll start........
My birthday is July 23rd and i should be pleased but four days later marks the 2 year anniversary of my accident (as if it were something to celebrate).
Ryan
What is going on?
I'll start........
My birthday is July 23rd and i should be pleased but four days later marks the 2 year anniversary of my accident (as if it were something to celebrate).
Ryan
emily43
07-17-2007, 02:08 PM
Em:
What is going on?
Ryan
Ryan,
Last week my ex took me back to court to lower his child support,(the odassity sp?)as he stood there glaring at me, (What the ****??, grow up psyco)I handled it soooo well, gave a half smile, and grabbed on to my present husbands arm, and stood tall.I was soooo proud of myself!!! He has had no contact with my 4 boys in 7 yrs., which is best. The boys don't want it. My psych says by what I've told her he's probably a narsisstic psychopath, whatever that is. I looked it up and still don't quite understand it. Basically, it was 16 years of hell, & he still can't go away, he still scares the hell out of me!!! (death threats throughout the marriage) I just didn't realize that this event sent me into a downward tailspin. DUH??? My husband did, and has been trying to help, but he just doesn't understand how my mind works. He suggests to get out of our room and paint, or sit outside and read,or get out of the house, which yes, he's right but doing it is another thing!!?? Make sense??
Em
What is going on?
Ryan
Ryan,
Last week my ex took me back to court to lower his child support,(the odassity sp?)as he stood there glaring at me, (What the ****??, grow up psyco)I handled it soooo well, gave a half smile, and grabbed on to my present husbands arm, and stood tall.I was soooo proud of myself!!! He has had no contact with my 4 boys in 7 yrs., which is best. The boys don't want it. My psych says by what I've told her he's probably a narsisstic psychopath, whatever that is. I looked it up and still don't quite understand it. Basically, it was 16 years of hell, & he still can't go away, he still scares the hell out of me!!! (death threats throughout the marriage) I just didn't realize that this event sent me into a downward tailspin. DUH??? My husband did, and has been trying to help, but he just doesn't understand how my mind works. He suggests to get out of our room and paint, or sit outside and read,or get out of the house, which yes, he's right but doing it is another thing!!?? Make sense??
Em
emily43
07-17-2007, 02:16 PM
Em:
What is going on?
I'll start........
My birthday is July 23rd and i should be pleased but four days later marks the 2 year anniversary of my accident (as if it were something to celebrate).
Ryan
Sorry I Missed This One!
Em
Sorry I missed this one, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! & I'm sooo sorry!!! May I ask what happened??
Em
What is going on?
I'll start........
My birthday is July 23rd and i should be pleased but four days later marks the 2 year anniversary of my accident (as if it were something to celebrate).
Ryan
Sorry I Missed This One!
Em
Sorry I missed this one, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! & I'm sooo sorry!!! May I ask what happened??
Em
Phoenix
07-17-2007, 02:49 PM
Ryan,
Last week my ex took me back to court to lower his child support,(the odassity sp?)as he stood there glaring at me, (What the ****??, grow up psyco)I handled it soooo well, gave a half smile, and grabbed on to my present husbands arm, and stood tall.I was soooo proud of myself!!! He has had no contact with my 4 boys in 7 yrs., which is best. The boys don't want it. My psych says by what I've told her he's probably a narsisstic psychopath, whatever that is. I looked it up and still don't quite understand it. Basically, it was 16 years of hell, & he still can't go away, he still scares the hell out of me!!! (death threats throughout the marriage) I just didn't realize that this event sent me into a downward tailspin. DUH??? My husband did, and has been trying to help, but he just doesn't understand how my mind works. He suggests to get out of our room and paint, or sit outside and read,or get out of the house, which yes, he's right but doing it is another thing!!?? Make sense??
Em
Em:
Heard that term before; narcissistic psychopath.
You're definitely in a healthier relationship.
Remember that woman in court who "stood tall?" Not to mention had me put on shades because her smile was so bright that the screen glared when saying "I was soooo proud of myself?" She's in there.
Just food for thought,
Ryan
Last week my ex took me back to court to lower his child support,(the odassity sp?)as he stood there glaring at me, (What the ****??, grow up psyco)I handled it soooo well, gave a half smile, and grabbed on to my present husbands arm, and stood tall.I was soooo proud of myself!!! He has had no contact with my 4 boys in 7 yrs., which is best. The boys don't want it. My psych says by what I've told her he's probably a narsisstic psychopath, whatever that is. I looked it up and still don't quite understand it. Basically, it was 16 years of hell, & he still can't go away, he still scares the hell out of me!!! (death threats throughout the marriage) I just didn't realize that this event sent me into a downward tailspin. DUH??? My husband did, and has been trying to help, but he just doesn't understand how my mind works. He suggests to get out of our room and paint, or sit outside and read,or get out of the house, which yes, he's right but doing it is another thing!!?? Make sense??
Em
Em:
Heard that term before; narcissistic psychopath.
You're definitely in a healthier relationship.
Remember that woman in court who "stood tall?" Not to mention had me put on shades because her smile was so bright that the screen glared when saying "I was soooo proud of myself?" She's in there.
Just food for thought,
Ryan
isitme
07-17-2007, 02:51 PM
Ryan,
Last week my ex took me back to court to lower his child support,(the odassity sp?)as he stood there glaring at me, (What the ****??, grow up psyco)I handled it soooo well, gave a half smile, and grabbed on to my present husbands arm, and stood tall.I was soooo proud of myself!!! He has had no contact with my 4 boys in 7 yrs., which is best. The boys don't want it. My psych says by what I've told her he's probably a narsisstic psychopath, whatever that is. I looked it up and still don't quite understand it. Basically, it was 16 years of hell, & he still can't go away, he still scares the hell out of me!!! (death threats throughout the marriage) I just didn't realize that this event sent me into a downward tailspin. DUH??? My husband did, and has been trying to help, but he just doesn't understand how my mind works. He suggests to get out of our room and paint, or sit outside and read,or get out of the house, which yes, he's right but doing it is another thing!!?? Make sense??
Em
Just wanted to say, I discovered x was (probably) a psychopath, 12 years after seperating. It is possible to recover from the effects they have on us. It took me so long to acknowledge I had ptsd 'just because I married the wrong man'!!! Accept your x is as he is, (he'll never change his ways). You can however and having another hubby will enrage him. (Mine gave out the death threats too). Forgivr yourself for choosing the 'wrong man'. I accepted I had the time with him, because if I didn't, that would be saying my 2 children shouldn't be here. Hope that makes sense. Be thankful he is not in your childrens lives. Money comes and goes. Love remains forever. :)
Last week my ex took me back to court to lower his child support,(the odassity sp?)as he stood there glaring at me, (What the ****??, grow up psyco)I handled it soooo well, gave a half smile, and grabbed on to my present husbands arm, and stood tall.I was soooo proud of myself!!! He has had no contact with my 4 boys in 7 yrs., which is best. The boys don't want it. My psych says by what I've told her he's probably a narsisstic psychopath, whatever that is. I looked it up and still don't quite understand it. Basically, it was 16 years of hell, & he still can't go away, he still scares the hell out of me!!! (death threats throughout the marriage) I just didn't realize that this event sent me into a downward tailspin. DUH??? My husband did, and has been trying to help, but he just doesn't understand how my mind works. He suggests to get out of our room and paint, or sit outside and read,or get out of the house, which yes, he's right but doing it is another thing!!?? Make sense??
Em
Just wanted to say, I discovered x was (probably) a psychopath, 12 years after seperating. It is possible to recover from the effects they have on us. It took me so long to acknowledge I had ptsd 'just because I married the wrong man'!!! Accept your x is as he is, (he'll never change his ways). You can however and having another hubby will enrage him. (Mine gave out the death threats too). Forgivr yourself for choosing the 'wrong man'. I accepted I had the time with him, because if I didn't, that would be saying my 2 children shouldn't be here. Hope that makes sense. Be thankful he is not in your childrens lives. Money comes and goes. Love remains forever. :)
Phoenix
07-17-2007, 02:52 PM
Sorry I Missed This One!
Em
Sorry I missed this one, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! & I'm sooo sorry!!! May I ask what happened??
Em
Em:
Long story short, I made a left onto the main street and a commercial delivery truck ran into me.
Driver denied everything and even got a "witness" to fabricate the events.
Ryan
Em
Sorry I missed this one, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! & I'm sooo sorry!!! May I ask what happened??
Em
Em:
Long story short, I made a left onto the main street and a commercial delivery truck ran into me.
Driver denied everything and even got a "witness" to fabricate the events.
Ryan
emily43
07-17-2007, 03:02 PM
Em:
Long story short, I made a left onto the main street and a commercial delivery truck ran into me.
Driver denied everything and even got a "witness" to fabricate the events.
Ryan
Ryan,
I'm soooo sorry!!! I can understand why you have ptsd,if you do. But are you ok phisically? I know for a fact I probably wouldn't ever drive again.
Em
Long story short, I made a left onto the main street and a commercial delivery truck ran into me.
Driver denied everything and even got a "witness" to fabricate the events.
Ryan
Ryan,
I'm soooo sorry!!! I can understand why you have ptsd,if you do. But are you ok phisically? I know for a fact I probably wouldn't ever drive again.
Em
emily43
07-17-2007, 03:06 PM
Em:
Heard that term before; narcissistic psychopath.
You're definitely in a healthier relationship.
Remember that woman in court who "stood tall?" Not to mention had me put on shades because her smile was so bright that the screen glared when saying "I was soooo proud of myself?" She's in there.
Just food for thought,
Ryan
Thanks Ryan , You're an ANGEL!!!!!!!
Em
Heard that term before; narcissistic psychopath.
You're definitely in a healthier relationship.
Remember that woman in court who "stood tall?" Not to mention had me put on shades because her smile was so bright that the screen glared when saying "I was soooo proud of myself?" She's in there.
Just food for thought,
Ryan
Thanks Ryan , You're an ANGEL!!!!!!!
Em
Phoenix
07-17-2007, 03:11 PM
Ryan,
I'm soooo sorry!!! I can understand why you have ptsd,if you do. But are you ok phisically? I know for a fact I probably wouldn't ever drive again.
Em
Em:
I'm having trouble driving but i have to get around.
Cervical and lumbar herniated discs.
Surgery last August 1st.
CT myelogram tomorrow of the lumbar region; possibly a second surgery; left side weakness increases and the pain, OH the pain.
Guess you can say i have a literal "pain in the neck."
Ryan
I'm soooo sorry!!! I can understand why you have ptsd,if you do. But are you ok phisically? I know for a fact I probably wouldn't ever drive again.
Em
Em:
I'm having trouble driving but i have to get around.
Cervical and lumbar herniated discs.
Surgery last August 1st.
CT myelogram tomorrow of the lumbar region; possibly a second surgery; left side weakness increases and the pain, OH the pain.
Guess you can say i have a literal "pain in the neck."
Ryan
emily43
07-17-2007, 03:15 PM
Just wanted to say, I discovered x was (probably) a psychopath, 12 years after seperating. It is possible to recover from the effects they have on us. It took me so long to acknowledge I had ptsd 'just because I married the wrong man'!!! Accept your x is as he is, (he'll never change his ways). You can however and having another hubby will enrage him. (Mine gave out the death threats too). Forgivr yourself for choosing the 'wrong man'. I accepted I had the time with him, because if I didn't, that would be saying my 2 children shouldn't be here. Hope that makes sense. Be thankful he is not in your childrens lives. Money comes and goes. Love remains forever. :)
isitme,
Thank you, you're right, it is possible to recover. I've been doing sooo good the last few months and this sent me into such a whirlwind, just having a hard time right now. And yes, I always am so thankful for my boys(always said they were the only GREAT thing that came out of that marriage) Thanx Again!!
Em
isitme,
Thank you, you're right, it is possible to recover. I've been doing sooo good the last few months and this sent me into such a whirlwind, just having a hard time right now. And yes, I always am so thankful for my boys(always said they were the only GREAT thing that came out of that marriage) Thanx Again!!
Em
emily43
07-17-2007, 03:19 PM
Em:
I'm having trouble driving but i have to get around.
Cervical and lumbar herniated discs.
Surgery last August 1st.
CT myelogram tomorrow of the lumbar region; possibly a second surgery; left side weakness increases and the pain, OH the pain.
Guess you can say i have a literal "pain in the neck."
Ryan
WOW!!!!! That's horrible!!! Good luck tomorrow,PLEASE update me afterwards, and thanks for the kind words! it's amazing what effect words have on us!!
Em
I'm having trouble driving but i have to get around.
Cervical and lumbar herniated discs.
Surgery last August 1st.
CT myelogram tomorrow of the lumbar region; possibly a second surgery; left side weakness increases and the pain, OH the pain.
Guess you can say i have a literal "pain in the neck."
Ryan
WOW!!!!! That's horrible!!! Good luck tomorrow,PLEASE update me afterwards, and thanks for the kind words! it's amazing what effect words have on us!!
Em
Phoenix
07-17-2007, 03:27 PM
Just remember EM, that you are worth every word, alright?
Definitely will update.
Take care
Ryan
Definitely will update.
Take care
Ryan
emily43
07-17-2007, 04:26 PM
Thanks guys, I'm gonna go paint now
Take Care
Em
Take Care
Em