Anyone else feel like your almost invisible to others? My family, friends etc are fine, altho even my friends can be quite ignorant at times, but mainly the problem is from others, i.e. job applications, Ive been told by a few employers that they would definately be getting back to me about a job, yet I then get no response what so ever, this isso damn frustrating, I feel like Ive done something to upset or annoy these people yet I cant understand what ive done wrong.

Its as if people just hate me for no reason. It can include anything, i.e. people saying they'll let me know if they have an item available in a shop in a few days, people that might be interested in buying an item I have for sale, walking in a busy enviroment and just being walked into as if invisible, im really sick and tired of this and its getting me down big time, I feel like im hated but for no reason.

I think everything you described is somewhat normal. People are into themselves and their own lives for the most part. You might want to think of a way to make yourself remembered or stand out more. But really, this kind of thing happens all the time, I wouldn't take it too personally.

I kinda agree w/lucky but can't help wonder how you carry yourself. Do you slouch when you walk or do you exude confidence? How do you feel about yourself, do you have a good outlook? How do those closest to you interact with you?

I kinda agree w/lucky but can't help wonder how you carry yourself. Do you slouch when you walk or do you exude confidence? How do you feel about yourself, do you have a good outlook? How do those closest to you interact with you?

Thats described me very well, I generally walk very slouched and i usually walk staring at the ground, dont know why, just feels easier and comfier to walk that way.

Im a very shy/un-confident person, I generally feel like women do not find me attractive (even tho i have a good looking girlfriend).

Speaking wise i dont talk clearly and sometimes struggle to get words out wen im talking to someone i dont know, it takes me a while to speak outright to people after ive got to know them.

Being shy can be difficult at times, the good news is that you can work on it. Was wondering if you are in therapy to help yourself with the confidence issue? You deserve to feel good about yourself, not to find it comfortable to slouch and stare at the ground. I'm guessing depression plays a part in this? When I was young shy could describe me, now I'm rather outgoing when I'm feeling okay. It took practice and growing pains to change. I also had people put in my life to help me with this.

Sounds like you are projecting whether you know it or not to those people around you. For me, I was always so painfully shy that often times I wanted just to crawl away from the human race. I believe I projected that as well and others picked up on it. Since then with time and effort I have moved up from that and it wasn't easy. Building self confidence sounds like something you could do much with. But you can do it and you know thouogh it is easier to look at the ground the sky is prettier. When you look people directly in the eye somehow it is making a connection to them. When you stare at the ground they tend to feel invisible even to you.

Hugs and I hope that this will be something that will get better. Just know that you aren't the only one and it doesn't have to be this way.
Deb

Speaking wise i dont talk clearly and sometimes struggle to get words out wen im talking to someone i dont know, it takes me a while to speak outright to people after ive got to know them.

This kind of behavior does make you invisible actually. I also used to do it and wondered why I wasn't noticed. Now that I don't do it anymore I notice others doing it. I was at a party once and the guy was so quiet I couldn't hear him. I wasn't going to struggle to converse with him so I figured in my mind if he wants to be heard he should speak up then!

I feel like Ive done something to upset or annoy these people yet I cant understand what ive done wrong.

Its as if people just hate me for no reason.

People don't respond to you one way or the other because they hate you or are annoyed or upset with you. They probably have many other reasons and these reasons probably have to do with them, not you. You know, thinking that you cause a lot of stuff is common with us folks who have had these issues to deal with. I did it to. This is actually child's thinking (you know how children think that they cause divorces/deaths etc), and when we have all of these problems in life it causes us to not develop emotionally so we are kind of stuck back in development (sorry, this was probably more than you wanted to know but when I understood this I was so fascinated and wanted to share here!). I was liberated when I stopped that self-centered thinking. I am not saying that you only think of yourself. What I am saying is that you might think that the world revolves around you (like children do). I actually am at the point now where I know that I am not the center of the universe and that people do not do whatever because of me. I hope I have made myself understood. I think that it is really fascinating stuff!