HOw is everyone today? I am sure that some of you have gone through the following story that I am about to tell you.
I do not have a job. Therefore, I must apply for a new one. Where I live (and I am sure it is everywhere these days), these companies must get 50+ applicants. Then they have to narrow the applicants down to a few and call those up for an interview. Then from that list they have to make a descision on whom will serve their company the best. This is where I wish I could TOTALLY avoid. Here is why, when I get that negative rejection letter or call I feel worthless, so I try to do something to heal this awful pain that I may feel. Mothers way of dealing with the rejection pain is to drink. I do NOT want to do that however I have lately been getting high off of sleeping meds. When I told a doc this she asked how that was. I told her that I am exceedlingly sensitive to medication. Last night was one of those nights that I wanted to get high because of the rejection that I am feeling from these companies. So I took a nap until it was time for me to take my sleeping pills (right now advil PM for my arthitist in my fingers) anyway, I knew that cause of my nap I was gonna wake up and my pschiatrist told me that I can take some other sleeping meds for that reason of waking up at night or having a hard time to sleep. I got up early this morning and did so. Well I got even a bigger high from that pill. I dont know why I did maybe it was cause I had no food in my system. Anyway, I even blacked out some of the time. I do remember feeling numb the feeling that I have been looking for ever since the negative feelings that I am feeling from these rejection calls and letters. Would this be considered an addiction of some kind? Is there anyone here whom understands this? Please tell me your best advice how you dealt with the nagitive rejections of any kind!
Thank you kindly for your advice in advance. :)

Take care!

Hello, It sounds like you've just found this new way to get "high". If it scares you that it may be bad for you(which if you're blacking out I'd be real scared) then just stop buying them. Don't take anymore unless you know you'll sleep after. If you've only had this experience twice I don't think it's an addiction, yet!

As for the rejection, you just have to do some soul searching. Find what's in you that is strong enough to handle rejection. Ignore the part of you that makes it such a negative thing. Try to realize that this is something that's common if they can only hire a few ppl. Consider that they may have had you right at the top, but someone was just a little higher....and move on. It's easy to say, I know, but you just have to find your own way to move on. Work on your confidence. There are lots of books on self-help and web sites at your fingertips. Look up key words like "confidence" or "fear of rejection". I would just be careful of buying anything off of the internet, ya know? There are too many books you could check out at the library to really pay for anything unless it's counseling.

Best of luck to you.......

Hello hsp

Sorry about the tough time finding work. Same for many of us these days!

Friend, I need to tell you that you are displaying some serious addictive behaviour at the least. Popping a pill , or drinking, to avoid unhappiness is what ofetn leads us into full blown addiction. It does not matter whether the drug is legal, illegal, over-the-counter, or prescribed.

The initial issue for you seems to be how to handle rejection. Rejection is a part of life. Accept it, it happens many times. However, I don't think you are being rejected from these jobs. As 1st timer wrote, others are just more qualified. Doesn't mean you couldn't have done the job, just means the employer chose someone else to do it.

I am not sure how old you are. I do realize, though, that Mom's drinking bothers you, as it should if she is abusing alcohol. A caution to you... the same patttern is developing in you as you use these sleeping aids.

I don't know that you would need an addiction counselor at this point, but I surely do believe you need to seek counseling. A good place to start would be with a Licensed Clinical Social Worker.

I wish you well and stay healthy. The job that is meant for you will show up.

Good wishes
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