I recently broke up with my boyfriend, but we are still living together. We have still been messing around and sleeping together for the past almost month and a half. I never thought anything of it because I had been with him for 4 years and believed he wasnt messing with another girl.

Well, he has been spending a lot of time with a girl and I found out that she has herpes. I was also told that he had been very cuddly with her and that they have been sleeping in the same bed together in a lock room on the weekends they hung out. People have seen they kiss and be very friendly with each other as well.

I am not positive if he has had sex with her, but what are the chances, if he has, that I can get it? I have not noticed any symptoms on his end. I am not sure if he is aware that she has herpes. But if he has slept with her and she doesn't have any visible signs does that mean he can still get it? What are the chances I could contact it? How long does it take for herpes to be detected through tests? I am extremely upset and worried because I have no idea how likely the risk is for me to have it. Is it possible for him not to have it and still give it to me? I dont know how contagious this is. I have been searching, but not really finding the answers Im really looking for.

Thank you for you help!!!

I am in sort of the same situation as you, but at the same different. I have done a lot of research and I am scared also. I will tell you what I have found out so far from research of my own, my Dr. and my partner that is also going through this same scare with me.

I know that you can still get the STD (herpes in this case) even if there is no visual break outs. No break outs can mean that it is not as easily transfered but it can still happen.

I am not sure that if he doesn't get it that you can but I know that if he doesn't show symptoms that doesn't really mean he doesn't have it.

Maybe wait a few weeks because they say that you can show symptoms usually between 3-14 days after getting it. I have never showed any symptoms really but I did get tested and I am awaiting my results this monday (tomorrow) after 3p.m. I am very nervous because the person I am with now just recently had some signs and he has only been with 2 other people long term before me and he knew he was clean up untill recently.

I am very scared but I would check to see how long to wait but I would say after a few weeks you should for sure get checked to at least put your mind a easy and make sure you know the truth. This way you'll know your answer. It is always better to know for sure then to go on questioning this, you don't want to infect anyone else if you are unsure and never get tested.

Just a suggestion I am not sure how old you are, or how strong you are but I am a very independent person and i went for the test on my own and it was very difficult. If you have any1 at all you can go with and wait with it is probably for the best. I feel like I am going out of my mind waiting for my results. I wish I would of had somone to come with me. It is a very emotional time, very hard to deal with.

Hope this helps but sorry I did not have to many answers to your questions. I know what its like if no one posts to your questions. something is always better than nothing.

Take care and good luck.