Hi Everyone,

I need help...I'm pretty sure I have an eating problem. I've been overweight for pretty much my whole life and because of my weight I have a low self esteem. When I was 13, my father died and ever since then my problems have gotten much worse. I've always loved food but since he died, I go on binge's where I eat and eat and eat under my stomach hurts. I'll eat whatever I can find...[removed].

I have never purged, just bingeing. I'm pretty sure that my bingeing has caused some of my IBS problems and my weight is not healthy. I have been following this pattern for seven years and I want to find the cause of the problem and get healthy. I've tried to think about what triggers my behavior, sometimes I binge after a stressful day and sometimes the craving just comes after me and I can't say no.

I've never talked to a professional because I don't want them to laugh at me because I'm fat and I'm claiming to have an eating disorder. I'm not sure who I should talk to or what I should do to stop my behavior. I have gone a couple of weeks before without bingeing but then it would come back. If anyone has any advice or experience, please help me.

Thanks,

Daisy

All of us, regardless of weight, have been afraid of not being 'sick enough' to see a therapist....the really sick ones are the ones who won't see someone if they're troubled by something ! Getting help is a sign of courage, and is to be applauded- it doesn't matter for what. Overeating and compulsive eating are considered eating disorders. Only a professional can diagnose you, but if it's bothering you, no matter what, it's worth getting help with :)

Daisy,
You do not have to be professionally diagnosed to see that you do have an eating problem. You are binging. I have been binging all my life...
Why? Because I have been trying to fill up with food the empty hole in my HEART which was craving the LOVE that I have not been given...
Does this ring a bell?
If it does, it is well worth seeing a professional to sort the real causes of your binging. Binging will be sorted out by itself once everything else becomes clear. Do not worry, therapists have seen a lot worse than a young woman who only really craves love and understanding.
Please seek help. I have, and I have been tremendously different since.
God bless you:)

You are worth getting better ! You don't have to keep suffering in silence- there is help out there :)

Yes, definately sounds like an eating disorder to me, Very similar story to mine. Speak to a therapist. Also, if you have spent years over eating you will be addicted to 'food'. This is a REAL chemical addiction, so you will also need to deal with the physical implications of changing your eating patterns. [removed] Recovery is a long road, but feeling healthy and active again is definately worth the journey.

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