what is a good birth control pill/patch/type that won't cause spotting,moodiness or decreased libido???

Knowing that every woman is different, what worked for me might not work for you. But I am on pills, Avianne, and I am very happy since I had no side effects besides some morning sickness at the begining, and some sore breast for the 2 first months.

yeah. I realize every woman reacts differently. But I was wondering if they actually may have made a pill that didn't have those side effects at all. (wishful thinking I know :)

Well, I have to say that after being on other type of BC those side effects were just nothing. Morning sickness was very slight (as opposed to not being able of leaving the bed till 9) and tender breasts for 2 months I can deal with.
Also I am emotionally stable and my libido is just fine. I used to be miserable on another brand and I am very happy with this one.

I agree that all pills are different! I am on Yasmin and LOVE it but some people have negative effects with it. I guess it's something you just have to try and see if it works for you. I got lucky on the first try. I have never had spotting in my life and Yasmin has definitely not affected my libido. I struggled with mood problems years before taking Yasmin, but it hasn't made them any worse or anything.