If you test pos for HIV, and you know the person who infected you (but lied and told you they were clean) what can you do about it?

The reason I ask is because I've been with a total of 3 people which includes the one I'm currently dating. The first person was my ex of 4 yrs, who I knew was a virgin. I know he is neg. The second person, a military guy, told me he was clean. But I'm having doubts all of a sudden b/c i keep getting sinus infections this yr. Plus the guilt and all of sleeping w/ someone I didnt love is settling in.

I'm just so scared to get tested and end up pos b/c im soo afraid my current bf would think im cheating or something. I NEVER would and never had...it's just I dont know how rational he would be. We're always together so it would be almost impossible for me to cheat if i was the kind to try. I just wouldnt want him to have any kind of reservations about me. It'd not worth living in this fear, but I'm scared to step up to the plate.

I swear I'm not trying to sound mean or anything, but why are you putting yourself through all these "what if's" and worrying about what "might" happen?

Just go get tested! Get it over with and then you won't need to worry about all of this. If you are afraid of what your BF might think then don't tell him you're getting tested. Assuming it comes back negative (which it most likely will) then there is no reason he should know.

There is nothing that anyone on this message board (or others) could say to you that would help alleviate your fears. The only thing that is going to do that is getting tested.

Oh yeah and to answer your question, you'd have to show that the person had reason to believe they were living with HIV at the time of sexual relations.

I know I know....Im just scared, and I'll get over it. Im just afraid to get tested b/c I dont want the ppl there thinking Im some kind of ****, not to mention that i will be paranoid out of my mind.

All I can say is, worse case scenario...if he did have hiv...being in the military he probably is getting treatment, since they pay for all health related things. So maybe, he could have a very low viral count if he had it at all.

Im just trying to keep myself calm until the day i go get tested.