Hi,

First I must say, this message board is flooded with the same type of questions and it is frustrating to find real help, like for those of us with HIV instead of those who are just wondering if they have it or not.

Anyway, I know I am HIV+. I have not been tested yet but have had unprotected sex with my Hiv+ partner many times. It has probably been a year since I was infected but I have not been tested yet. I am really scared to tell my mom to take me, even though she knows that I am most likely HIV+. It is just such an uncomfortable situation, and I know that is not an excuse to not go get tested. I haven't felt sick at all and have never had any symptoms, so it has not seemed urgent. Any advice on how to bring this situation up to my mom?

You must urgently be tested for two reasons. 1. If you ARE positive you will be able to get more information as far as the progression of the disease and damage it has/hasnt done. You will also be able to make an informed decision as far as whether or not to start taking medications. Just because you dont feel sick does not mean that the virus(given that you are infected) has not done damage to your body. It is better to know for sure and be able to take appropriate action if that is what you decide.... More importantly 2. YOU DO NOT KNOW FOR SURE THAT YOU HAVE HIV!! just because you have had unprotected sex with a positive person does not necessarily guarantee that you are positive.. If you in fact find out that you are NOT positive you can make the appropriate changes to ensure that you do not become positive in the future. You can protect yourself.. There is no reason to put yourself unnecessarily at risk like this!

As far as telling your mother.. I would tell her the truth, that you really want to go get tested because you have put yourself at risk and want to know where you stand.. I would also tell her that you desire to stop putting yourself at risk if you are in fact NEGATIVE!!

I really hope you are negative and I hope you go get tested soon.. Please do not put yourself at risk until you know the results of the test.. Then you can decide with a clear head what to do. If you have the choice to not get HIV, why put yourself through that?? I hope you get help soon. Good Luck to you.

I think you should do a test to find out your status. The more informed you are the better decision you could make in regards of your health. Please keep in mind HIV is a fragile virus and its not really easy to get even though you have multiple exposure with a positive person. So there's still chance you could still turn out fine. Good luck.

Thanks guys:) I am getting tested this week and will let ya all know how it turns out. Honestly, either way it does not matter to me. I mean, I definitely would be happy if it was negative, but I think I have gotten over the mourning and sadness and all that if I am positive. Thanks again guys:)

Please let us know how it goes.. If you do turn out negative, please start protecting yourself.. HIV is not a disease you want to have! It may not matter to you now bc you arent sick, however down the line you may become very sick and be unable to do everything you want to do... Good luck

It does not seem that people are understanding my reasoning. This is the man I am marrying. Before I met him I might as well have been dead. It does not matter to me for the fact that life without him obviously was not working for me. I don't want to have to be without him. Many would think this sounds ridiculous, but I don't think it does. I was bulimic from ages 9 to sixteen and he was the one who helped me through it. If I had not met him I probably would not be alive. The thought of my life without him makes me physically ill. He is my everything. He is the only person who has always been there for me even through my eating disorder.

I just do not understand your reasoning.Why on earth would you have unprotected sex with your Bf if you know he has aids? That is just mind boggling. You can stay with him but that doesn't mean you have to aquire aids from him. You can have safe sex...

you should go protected at all times! even if one or both of you are positive!
if only one of you is positive the reason is obvious.hiv isn't something that you should not care about getting.damhik!
it should matter alot to you about staying alive and staying healthy longer.
if you are both positive,you can keep transfering the virus back and forth between yourselves making it stronger and more drug resistant and that is not a good thing towards your long term health. it sounds like you should consider counsiling to get your priorities straightened out
good luck