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shokrokmom
07-07-2003, 12:00 PM
Hello all,
I decided to go back in to see my doc this morning and get an opinion about the muscle spasms and more frequent falling. He got the letter from that whacked out neuro in Indianapolis. For those of you that haven't seen my previous post, it is titled "Just Dx'ed, Do Not Agree...."
Last night I wrote down all the things going on with the muscle spasms, the the CRS(can't remember s**t) is kicking in really bad. He looked at the paper and said to me "I am not going to medicate any of these symptoms" I told him I wasn't looking for more meds, I was looking for answers. Well, he decided to make an appointment for me with a psychologist, he thinks that is the best route now. He thinks that all my problems are nothing but stress. I have been treated for "Chronic Pain Syndrome" for 5 years and NOW he is deciding it is all stress? I didn't know that stress could produce abnormal blood test results.
As soon as I am done typing this, I am going to call a pain clinic and try to get in to see someone, I should have done that years ago.
Thanks all for letting me vent.
Take care,
Michelle

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"I am too damn young to be this old"
Michelle Age 36

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debabc
07-07-2003, 04:29 PM
So sorry! Docs can really be arrogant and cruel. They think they are gods, or they are just trying to cover when they don't know the answer. They are so happy to tell you what you don't have,overlooking the fact that you still have all these symptoms. One thing though, that my doc helped me with was getting help with depression. She said I could handle my symptoms better if I weren't depressed, and it made me really angry because I felt that if I was depressed I had good reason to be. But I went to the referral anyway and after being on antidepressants a while I did realize that I was very depressed, and yes, I can handle being sick better now. When you are depressed something happens in your brain so that you can't see it.I think you are making the right move going to a pain clinic. I hope they can make sense out of your test results for you. Apparently we just have to keep trying one doc after another until we meet someone who is competent in treating our conditions.But don't throw the idea of seeing a therapist in the meantime. It can't hurt, and it might help. I am NOT agreeing with you doc that your condition is all stress, but seeing a psych really helped me to get a handle on my emotions surrounding my illness so that I can function better. Just a suggestion...

shokrokmom
07-07-2003, 06:31 PM
debabc,
Thank you for replying to my post. You are absolutely right, docs can, indeed, be very cruel. I did, however, tell my doc today, to put himself in my position. I said "I only see you once a month or so. You only have to deal with my illness then, I have to deal with it 24/7, how do you think that feels? You doctors make me feel like I am bugging the crap out of you, even when I only come in once a month, all I am asking for is some answers. When I have to deal with this on a daily basis, I just want to know why." I called him back earlier and got him (to my amazement) on the phone. I asked him what he thought about me going to a pain clinic, he said he thought the psychologist would do better for me, so I told him that I would go to the psychologist if he would refer me to the pain clinic. He agreed. So, Now I FINALLY get to go to the pain clinic, probably not until next month as they are booked about 1 month ahead. But, hey, it's a start.
In the mean time, I will go see the psychologist and let them tell me that all my problems are because I hate my parents (just kidding). I guess I was so upset earlier becaue my doc has NEVER talked to me in that manner before. It took me by surprise, and I didn't like it. He had treated me the same way every other doc had treated me. I am about tired of everyone looking at me with one eyebrow raised when I mention pain and pain meds. My own family used to look at me that way until they realized I wasn't really a hypochondriac and there was something really wrong.
I have tried several different antidepressants, they either don't work or just zombie me out, I don't like that.
Sorry I made this so long, didn't mean to.
Take care.
Michelle

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"I am too damn young to be this old"
Michelle Age 36

Creeping Crud
07-07-2003, 08:56 PM
Originally posted by shokrokmom:
In the mean time, I will go see the psychologist and let them tell me that all my problems are because I hate my parents

At least you haven't lost your sense of humor.. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif Sorry to read about your bad experience with your doctor.. I think we've all been there before & there's nothing more frustrating than dealing with an arrogant fool with a god complex.. I would write more (because you already know about my diarrhea of the fingers), but it's been a really long day & I need some rest.. I hope things go better for you at the pain clinic..

Take Care,
Melanie

debabc
07-07-2003, 10:02 PM
Right ON!! So glad you stood up to your doctor! That can be really hard to do. I usually get so tense I start blubbering, which doesn't make a good impression! About the anti-depressants, I tried some that made me stare at the wall and drool too, http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif but got really good results with Welbutrin. I'm not trying to push you into taking anti-depressants, just want to let you know there are choices if it seems right for you.

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shokrokmom
07-07-2003, 11:20 PM
Thanks for responding.
I have to turn to humor because if I don't, I would probably cry all the time, therefore, I make a joke, can sometimes be a little inappropriate I know, but we all cope differently. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif
I think my doc is getting his God complex because he is graduating this year, I guess he is just practicing his less than desirable bedside manner that all those veteran doc already have. LOL
Melanie, I love the fact that you get diarrhea of the fingers, I love reading your posts. It gives me a sense of feeling not alone. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif
Deb, I had to stand up to my doc this morning because he has always been a little afraid of me LOL and suddenly he got an attitude with me. I just had to remind him that I pay HIM, he doesn't pay me to come in and see him. I had to put him in his preverbial place. LOL http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif
I have also tried Welbutrin, I loved the fact that there were no side effects, but it didn't help very much. Another doc wanted to couple it with Effexor, but my insurance don't cover it and it is quite expensive. So, my doc took me off of it.They couldn't raise the dosage , I was already on the highest dose(150 mg 2 X day). Maybe I will give it a try again, now that I have a different perspective on my depression.
We will see what happens, I will talk to the psychologist about it.
Take care all.
Michelle

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"I am too damn young to be this old"
Michelle Age 36

lovemythreeguys2002
07-08-2003, 04:07 PM
Michelle...I still think you need to find out what is going on what your thyroid....that will cause major brain fog....I have been on my thyroid meds for 7 weeks now and the brain fog is MUCH better http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif

and my aches and pains are just about gone...yay!

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Hashimoto's~Hypo
50 mcg's of Synthroid
DX'd in May 2003

 
 
 




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