There is a pattern I seem to follow and I don't know why? When a man that isn't my type goes after me, trying to date me by complimenting me and charming me--I still don't have any attraction to him, but the second he starts avoiding me or I see him paying attention to another girl and quits giving ME that attention--I'm instantly drawn to him and begin to develop strong feelings for him. I even feel obsessive and hope his attention comes back on me--even if I have other men going after me that are way better than him--it doesn't matter--HE becomes my focus until he comes after me again. How do I change that about myself?