Okay, here is my problem. My hair is thick, stiff, and greasy.
What is anything I can use to make my hair soft and shiny, I have so much hair it's like a lions.

Is my hair always going to be naturally stiff? I seriously want it really soft.

I'm lost as to your hair being stiff. What do you mean by that? If it's somewhat long you may just be needing a good haircut. I would recommend going to a reputable beautician and see what they have to say. They should be able to answer your questions and help solve your problem.

My hair is stiff as in texture, it's not baby soft. I guess you could say strong hair? If you ran your fingers through my hair my hair would slow down your hand. I don't need a hair cut though either.

I see. You have more like coarse, thick hair. I would try deep conditioning and products to help give your hair a sleeker look. I recently tried Suave's sleek line, the creme you put in your hair before drying. I thought it worked as well as the creme I pay 5 x's more for at the salon! For a couple bucks it's worth a try. Good luck. And as I mentioned before, a beautician should be able to offer advice as well.