I am married, 41 yrs old, we've been together 5 years, married for 4 years. I'm ashamed to say I never had an HIV test before. I felt I was in a low risk category. However, 8 1/2 years ago I had a relationship for a brief period of time, where the man did not use protection. I don't know if he had HIV or not. I didn't think he was a high risk category person at the time. Now I'm paranoid about this and maybe I caught something? I don't have any HIV symptoms that I've read about on the internet. I rarely get sick. I've never had any other STDs. But I'm terrified I have the disease, and that if I test positive, my husband will walk out on me. We had dreamed of having a child or adopting a child, and now I don't think any adoption agency would give a child to an HIV+ mom, would they? Finding out I am HIV positive would be a tragedy for me, especially for that reason. How do I go about telling me husband I've not been tested for HIV? He has never asked me about this, btw. Please help me figure something out. If I take this test, I want my husband to be there with me when I get the results back. I can't handle it on my own.

You have nothing to worry about and I think I can safely say that. 8 years should definately be showing symptoms. You would've noticed SOMETHING. You are fine, I mean, you CAN get tested but I wouldn't worry. If you haven't shown symptoms yet then don't plan on ever. Get tested if you are worried. But to be honest, I really wouldn't worry, and that's coming from me, a hypochondriac.

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You have nothing to worry about and I think I can safely say that. 8 years should definately be showing symptoms. You would've noticed SOMETHING. You are fine, I mean, you CAN get tested but I wouldn't worry. If you haven't shown symptoms yet then don't plan on ever. Get tested if you are worried. But to be honest, I really wouldn't worry, and that's coming from me, a hypochondriac.