what is it and can it spread to other family members

That's a very complicated question, that we'd have to write pages and pages about to answer properly.

I'm guessing you probably have reason for asking... my suggestion is that you download the "Herpes Handbook" by Terri Warren. It will give you all information you need to define the virus and explain about the possibilities of transmission to others. It's an easy ready - plain English.

Thanks Catherine for sending me to Terri Warrens book. I am a primary according to him which means that I did not have Herpes prior to my contact with Paul. My symptoms were so severe that I cried for a week because urinating was so painful. I am printing up the book to give to my Ex. so that he can process his part and that he is a carrier and that he must disclose this information to future partener.