Hi all, just need some advice or help from anyone who may be suffering/has suffered from this type of feeling. After someone has hurt me, embarrased me or made me feel upset. I instantly box them into a part of my mind and secretly plot to make them feel exactly how they made me feel, even its only for a second. Its like I have to show them I'm not a pushover but the thing is if I said something in the first place they wouldnt think that. Im so passive, and also have a lot of anxiety. I think and think and think about bad things way after they happen, guess this causes me to feel angry and resentful and I have this strong need to make that person pay. It sounds evil, i know but its mainly hurt. I just want them to not do or say what they said to me or anyone else ever again cos its hurtful. I dont know. Right now im feeling this anger towards someone whose hurt me recently and its taking all the strength inside me to NOT act on my anger and resentment. I wouldnt physically hurt anyone - But I would damage property no matter how valuable and verbal abuse or put them in a very embarrasing situation - like expose private information in front of friends or family. Anything that would cause emotional pain/anger. Its ruining my life I need help.

Hi Queen, do you think that you stand up and protect yourself enough? You don't have to take this treatment from anyone. To me it sounds a little passive aggressive. Maybe try being assertive right away? Remember, they don't have to agree with you on whatever it is. Trying to get someone to see your point of view is a huge can of worms. Just state your thoughts/feelings and tell them that they can't do this to you and don't expect them to agree, walk away.