jelena
11-14-2007, 12:48 PM
Hi everyone,
I'm new here, and hopefully I won't stay too long in TTC forum. :) My DH and I have been TTC for about 4 months now. After month 3, I felt really sad and low, but then I decided that I will face this problem like a warrior, and defeat it any way I can. So I bought an oral ovulation kit, which is kind of hard to read. I think I misread it, and I think we didn't baby dance on the day I was ovulating. So, I don't expect anything this month. Besides, I have been feeling like AF is coming for almost a week now. I am still having hopes though. I wonder sometimes, why does it seem like everyone else is getting pregnant so easily? Is it that a lot of them are actually having unprotected sex all the time, or what? You laides are actually the first people that I've confided in. Nobody else knows that we;ve been TTC. And I guess that kind of adds to the pressure. Especially because my DH's sister had her baby in March, and now everyone is looking at us, and pointing out that it's our turn now. And since we got married recently, a lot of people have asked me if I'm pregnant. And that also adds to the pressure. Every time I get my AF, I feel a little bit more like a failure. Here's another thing you suck at, I think to myself. It's hard to confide in the people arround me and tell them openly what's going on. Would doing so make me feel better or worse?
cheers!
I'm new here, and hopefully I won't stay too long in TTC forum. :) My DH and I have been TTC for about 4 months now. After month 3, I felt really sad and low, but then I decided that I will face this problem like a warrior, and defeat it any way I can. So I bought an oral ovulation kit, which is kind of hard to read. I think I misread it, and I think we didn't baby dance on the day I was ovulating. So, I don't expect anything this month. Besides, I have been feeling like AF is coming for almost a week now. I am still having hopes though. I wonder sometimes, why does it seem like everyone else is getting pregnant so easily? Is it that a lot of them are actually having unprotected sex all the time, or what? You laides are actually the first people that I've confided in. Nobody else knows that we;ve been TTC. And I guess that kind of adds to the pressure. Especially because my DH's sister had her baby in March, and now everyone is looking at us, and pointing out that it's our turn now. And since we got married recently, a lot of people have asked me if I'm pregnant. And that also adds to the pressure. Every time I get my AF, I feel a little bit more like a failure. Here's another thing you suck at, I think to myself. It's hard to confide in the people arround me and tell them openly what's going on. Would doing so make me feel better or worse?
cheers!
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lost_n_confused
11-14-2007, 03:48 PM
I understand how you are feeling. my dh and i have been trying now for 6 months, his sister is now on her second child.. We were fortunate to get pg last march but in may we lost our twins (talk about feeling like a failure) it still gets to me but we want children badly and i dont really think the family understands that it hurts when they say we need to hurry up and get pg again. we are trying and i dont want to rush things and loose another. also it hurts watching his sister run around pg, especially when she does not take care of the child she already has... i know what you mean about getting your period and thinking that, i did it to... but i have decided recently to just go with it being stressed out doesnt help so i am TRYING not to think about it as much as possible, i still plan and know when i ovulate but i am not just focusing on that, as much as i want a child.. as for all the people in your life and mine they dont understand what you are going through, you could try and talk but i dont know how much that will help. you just kind of have to shrug it off and avoid it.. just the other day my sister and step sister got into a convo about there boys. born on the same day a year ago, they were comparing how they walked and words they said and different things all i could do was go into the bathroom and cry, who am i to take away their happiness just because im sad.. but any way just know someone is thinking of you and feeling the same way. Best of luck to you!
nalphee
11-14-2007, 09:04 PM
I totally understand not telling people. It is bad enough the everyone comments and questions about kids when they don't even know you are trying. I have only told about 5 people (plus all of you wonderful ladies on the boards!) because I don't need anyone asking me, did it happen yet? It's hard enough without everyone else prying into your business...
Best wishes to you! You are not alone here...
Best wishes to you! You are not alone here...
jelena
11-15-2007, 03:37 AM
Thank you for your replies.
last night was horrible for me. I went to see a friend, and she told me that she just found out she was pregnant. I asked her how long they've been trying, and she said they just started last month. This blew me away. I cried my eyes out when I got home, even though I am happy for her. It's so hard to deal with this. And no matter how my DH is trying to understand how I feel, I think this is a piece of every woman that a man cannot understand.
cheers all! ;)
last night was horrible for me. I went to see a friend, and she told me that she just found out she was pregnant. I asked her how long they've been trying, and she said they just started last month. This blew me away. I cried my eyes out when I got home, even though I am happy for her. It's so hard to deal with this. And no matter how my DH is trying to understand how I feel, I think this is a piece of every woman that a man cannot understand.
cheers all! ;)
cashahn
11-15-2007, 09:24 PM
I know how you feel, Im starting IVF with ICSI in Jan and I havent told anyone not even my family. I feel as though if I dont end up with a baby that everyone will see me as a failure. But try not to worry too much it's only been 4months and it takes the average healthy couple up to a year to conceive. I really wish you the best of luck and hope to see you posting your BFP very soon.
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