Gracefull07
11-15-2007, 01:19 AM
Dear members,
We cared for 4 family members over 10 years...at home.
Each unique, different...priceless. There are blessings. I would not change my decision to undertake what we did. Tears and laughter. The lessons my children learned. Our better understanding of the lives of our parents and grandparents...relatives we might have never met.
With each cloud you see a silver lining if you look for it.
I will post on this site to make you laugh between tears. Realize all cases are similar yet different.
How we yowled with laughter to discover grandpa had grown up with Scottish boys after he decided a dining chair was the "loo."
Life with grandma after she decided she was married to my husband and I was hence forth called Jezebel and the grandkids ill-be-got.
If you are reading this....you are afraid of the future you face.
Grace is the name of my new God Child. I will post here with stories I hope enable you to find your own silver linings...make you laugh with the tears.
The joy of a new baby yet you know she'll give her folks plenty of grief! Later they will all laugh. We found the same journey with dementia/Alzheimer's.
I will aways put Grace in my Title. Grace is with you if you don't close your eyes to it. There are blessings in pain. I want to share my story with you. I promise every story will give you a smile if not an out loud chuckle.
Heide
We cared for 4 family members over 10 years...at home.
Each unique, different...priceless. There are blessings. I would not change my decision to undertake what we did. Tears and laughter. The lessons my children learned. Our better understanding of the lives of our parents and grandparents...relatives we might have never met.
With each cloud you see a silver lining if you look for it.
I will post on this site to make you laugh between tears. Realize all cases are similar yet different.
How we yowled with laughter to discover grandpa had grown up with Scottish boys after he decided a dining chair was the "loo."
Life with grandma after she decided she was married to my husband and I was hence forth called Jezebel and the grandkids ill-be-got.
If you are reading this....you are afraid of the future you face.
Grace is the name of my new God Child. I will post here with stories I hope enable you to find your own silver linings...make you laugh with the tears.
The joy of a new baby yet you know she'll give her folks plenty of grief! Later they will all laugh. We found the same journey with dementia/Alzheimer's.
I will aways put Grace in my Title. Grace is with you if you don't close your eyes to it. There are blessings in pain. I want to share my story with you. I promise every story will give you a smile if not an out loud chuckle.
Heide
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Martha H
11-15-2007, 08:45 AM
Thank you Grace - I am looking forward to more of your funny stories!
DGabriel10
11-15-2007, 05:27 PM
As my Mom said for years... Laughter releases endorphins and they are our friends. We all need moments of humor to get through the day.....
BTW..... I am going to be a Great Aunt again!!! I am so excited!!! :-)
Love, Deb
BTW..... I am going to be a Great Aunt again!!! I am so excited!!! :-)
Love, Deb
brokenhearted2
11-15-2007, 07:16 PM
Thank you, Grace.
I wrote for the first time on this forum last night. I was so upset, so frustrated, so alone. After reading some of the responses and some of the other posts, I realized that I am not alone. I also realized that instead of becoming so frustrated with my mom's repeated questions that I should cherish the moments, laugh and enjoy our conversations and just work with it. Life is short. She is elderly and she has alzheimers (I'm guessing she is level 5 or start of 6). I do not have much support from other family members, but my dad and I are close and we have to work together to help my mom, help ourselves and enjoy each day. Like you said, Grace, there is a silver lining and that is what we need to look for each and every day...even if some days we need to search a little harder for it...it is there.
Thank you everyone for helping me get thru last night and turn my thinking to a more positive direction. I truly appreciate it. I may need a booster every once in a while....maybe sooner than that, but your kind words are sincerely appreciated.
I wrote for the first time on this forum last night. I was so upset, so frustrated, so alone. After reading some of the responses and some of the other posts, I realized that I am not alone. I also realized that instead of becoming so frustrated with my mom's repeated questions that I should cherish the moments, laugh and enjoy our conversations and just work with it. Life is short. She is elderly and she has alzheimers (I'm guessing she is level 5 or start of 6). I do not have much support from other family members, but my dad and I are close and we have to work together to help my mom, help ourselves and enjoy each day. Like you said, Grace, there is a silver lining and that is what we need to look for each and every day...even if some days we need to search a little harder for it...it is there.
Thank you everyone for helping me get thru last night and turn my thinking to a more positive direction. I truly appreciate it. I may need a booster every once in a while....maybe sooner than that, but your kind words are sincerely appreciated.
DGabriel10
11-15-2007, 10:52 PM
That's the spirit broken. Come back often and remember you are not alone. I am so thankful that I found this wonderful place!!!!!
Love, Deb
PS.... I leave tomorrow to start clearing out Mom and Dad's house. Not looking forward to it but it has to be done......
Love, Deb
PS.... I leave tomorrow to start clearing out Mom and Dad's house. Not looking forward to it but it has to be done......
Dingoes
11-19-2007, 12:49 PM
OK, here's one that's good for a chuckle.
I asked the rehab place to re-check my Nana's UTI to be sure it had cleared up because she still wasn't acting quite right and I wanted to see if there was anything OTHER than AD that might be responsible. Turns out she has a persistent and antibiotic-resistant UTI (thanks to these boards I knew to look for it).
Well, the upshot is, the new antibiotics they're giving her are these big yellow and black things. She's convinced these pills are supposed to poison her. When I went to see her yesterday she pulled me close, whispered "You just wait and see...as soon as they give me one more of those black pills..." and she dramatically drew her finger across her own throat as if to say that's the end.
Maybe you had to be there, but I'm still giggling a little.
I asked the rehab place to re-check my Nana's UTI to be sure it had cleared up because she still wasn't acting quite right and I wanted to see if there was anything OTHER than AD that might be responsible. Turns out she has a persistent and antibiotic-resistant UTI (thanks to these boards I knew to look for it).
Well, the upshot is, the new antibiotics they're giving her are these big yellow and black things. She's convinced these pills are supposed to poison her. When I went to see her yesterday she pulled me close, whispered "You just wait and see...as soon as they give me one more of those black pills..." and she dramatically drew her finger across her own throat as if to say that's the end.
Maybe you had to be there, but I'm still giggling a little.
ibake&pray
11-20-2007, 12:07 PM
My mothers comment about "those pills" the last time she had a UTI. When I told her they were to take care of the urinary infection so it wouldn't hurt when she peed.... she looked at me and said...
"for all the good they do, they could shove them up their ###." Maybe they'd work better there?
"for all the good they do, they could shove them up their ###." Maybe they'd work better there?
DGabriel10
11-20-2007, 05:01 PM
lol Ibake.... My dad will just look at me and say.... if I die in 15 minutes you know they have poisoned me and pops them in his mouth. We just laugh and assure him that he will be around for supper time.
I laughed at Mom today. At some point this morning the facility phone system went out. I called this afternoon and Mom answered her phone. She was irrate on the phone with me. Told me she went downstairs and the main console was out but she chewed them out because nobody came to check her phone and it was still out. :::duh::: hello Mom... I'm talking to you on your phone so evidently it's working now!!!! Sometimes you just have to laugh!!!!
And I am making the 3 hour trip to see if I can be of help. My sister that runs errands for Mom and Dad is having an emergency hemorrhoidectomy as I type. Mom volunteered that her and Dad would go take care of my sister for a while. ::::NOT:::::: I assured Mom I would do that and also find the time to go to the grocery store for them. So I arrived home on Sunday from cleaning up Mom and Dad's house (8 hours of driving) and I will be leaving again tonight to take care of my sister until she can sit again (another 6 hours of driving). And somehow.... I can still laugh.......
Love, Deb
I laughed at Mom today. At some point this morning the facility phone system went out. I called this afternoon and Mom answered her phone. She was irrate on the phone with me. Told me she went downstairs and the main console was out but she chewed them out because nobody came to check her phone and it was still out. :::duh::: hello Mom... I'm talking to you on your phone so evidently it's working now!!!! Sometimes you just have to laugh!!!!
And I am making the 3 hour trip to see if I can be of help. My sister that runs errands for Mom and Dad is having an emergency hemorrhoidectomy as I type. Mom volunteered that her and Dad would go take care of my sister for a while. ::::NOT:::::: I assured Mom I would do that and also find the time to go to the grocery store for them. So I arrived home on Sunday from cleaning up Mom and Dad's house (8 hours of driving) and I will be leaving again tonight to take care of my sister until she can sit again (another 6 hours of driving). And somehow.... I can still laugh.......
Love, Deb
Dingoes
01-02-2008, 12:55 AM
A couple of days ago my husband was giving my grandmother her night pills. "Here's your memory pill," he said.
"What's a memory pill?" she responded.
He thought it was pretty funny.
"What's a memory pill?" she responded.
He thought it was pretty funny.
DGabriel10
01-02-2008, 03:16 AM
Thank you Dingoes!!! I truly needed that laugh tonight. Thank you again!!
Love, Deb
Love, Deb