I recently purchased a condo, and I am now having major anxiety issues about moving out from home.

My symptoms: Nervousness, Unable to sleep, Can't eat even though i am hungry, Gagging/throwing up, Can't concentrate (Symptoms are worse first thing in the morning, and at night after it gets dark)

I thought about what makes me anxious. I believe it has to do with the fact that I have never lived on my own (i'm 29) and i'm afraid of feeling lonely. Also - i can't really cook, so it's gonna be hard to figure out what to eat for dinner every night.

If I say to myself that I will just stay at home, and turn my condo into an investment property - i start to feel alot better. However, I really dont want to do this because it feels like i am chickening out and if i dont go through with this, i will always wuss out when other big changes come into my life.

I'm really not sure what to do. I really dont like how i am feeling, and i am unsure on what to do to not make me feel this way.

I was completely freaked out when I was leaving my mother's house and I was moving in with my boyfriend. I was very anxious for the first couple of weeks that we lived together. Do you have any friends you can invite to sleep over when you move in? That might help you adjust.

Feel better.

Hello-

I feel like I could have written this post myself! I'm 26 and live at home with my parents. I did move out for college, but then back home after that. Right now I can't really afford my own place, and I also feel really nervous when I think about living on my own. I'm just like you... I think I would feel lonely. However, my parents don't have any problems with me living at home, and I will be starting grad school next year.

I'm probably not the best person to be giving advice about this, since I have the same issues. However, I don't feel that you should force yourself to do something you are not comfortable with. What do your folks think about you living at home - do they want you out or ? If they don't mind you staying at home, you might ask their advice. Tell them you are really nervous about living on your own. Maybe you could try living at the condo for awhile, (say 6 months), and evaluate how you feel after that time. You may have adjusted and feel fine continuing. If you are still feeling lonely, move back home and pay rent. Like you said, you can always use the condo as an investment property.

I think there are a lot of lonely people living in the western hemisphere, just because of pride. In our culture, it is expected that people should move out at a certain age, whether or not they are married. Independence and achievement are stressed, and people are very judgemental. A lot of eastern cultures keep everyone under the same roof until they marry, and even after that.

Let me know your thoughts, and keep in touch. You are definately not alone in your feelings: I am going through the same thing. Take care.