petear
11-26-2007, 03:50 AM
Hi
I'm now 37 and been trying for our first baby for a few months, I went off the pill years ago and hoped that it would just naturally happen without having to try, I hate how unromantic it is to insist on it when the timing is right.
I have learnt all the signs to try, eg charting, mucous etc the problem is my husband is a shift worker and it's really hard to get the timing right, this month I decided to stop charting and just do it, every third or second day, I am due in 6 days and have started to feel a bit strange, dizzy nausea, the usuall signs of pregnancy.
Does anyone think that is too early?
Is anyone over 35 trying and have any advice?
Nicky :) (Crossed fingers)
I'm now 37 and been trying for our first baby for a few months, I went off the pill years ago and hoped that it would just naturally happen without having to try, I hate how unromantic it is to insist on it when the timing is right.
I have learnt all the signs to try, eg charting, mucous etc the problem is my husband is a shift worker and it's really hard to get the timing right, this month I decided to stop charting and just do it, every third or second day, I am due in 6 days and have started to feel a bit strange, dizzy nausea, the usuall signs of pregnancy.
Does anyone think that is too early?
Is anyone over 35 trying and have any advice?
Nicky :) (Crossed fingers)
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browneyed-babe
11-27-2007, 03:18 PM
Hi Nicky,
Nice to see I am not the only over 35 old trying for their first!
I am 37 also. We started Sept/06 (I was 36) for our first - I got pregnant in Jan/07 and subsequently miscarried in March/07. It was very traumatic for both dh and I so we decided to wait to try again. We have not been trying since the m/c but I am planning to start next month. We are in the middle of renovations and have too much going on at the moment but I have quit drinking altogether and still take my vitamins and preparing for the next.
Here is what I did the month I got pregnant and timed everything:
* Both dh and I started taking multi vitamins the month before although I had been taking folic acid for several months
* DH quit smoking and was on the patch, stopped taking hot baths - limited his baths to 20 minutes.
*I used ovulation sticks and bd 3 days before, the day before and the morning of ovulation.
* Each time we bd - afterwards I put my feet up in the air or pillow under my hips - sounds weird but it helps
*Drank some green tea before ovulation
Believe it or not we only bd those 3 times that month.
The doctors said that even though I miscarried the chances of a successful pregnancy next time were around 90% for me as I had a blighted ovum which is a random unpreventable thing.
My dh is also in his 40's - he is 43. We feel we are secure enough and obviously ready at this stage in our lives. Yes we know we should have done it maybe 5 years ago but we can't turn back the clock. Our success rate was in the 20 year range. So, don't believe in all that statistical crap that books say as it is not your age but your health and fertility which varies from person to person no matter how old you are. My dh' mom had he and his twin at 40 and she only had 1 ovary and was told she couldn't conceive any more children (already had 4). My aunt had twins at 38 and my mom had me (her 5th) at 36 yrs old.
As for early signs - yes you can feel symptoms within a week of ovulation. Sounds weird but I knew within the first week as my chart temps stayed high and level, had more cm, and was thirsty, I also had an acute sense of smell and taste. I did not have nausea or sore bb at all until much later in the pregnancy. I say if it is unusual for you then it could be a sign.
Take care and good luck. Maybe we will be on the pregnancy boards together.
Michelle
Nice to see I am not the only over 35 old trying for their first!
I am 37 also. We started Sept/06 (I was 36) for our first - I got pregnant in Jan/07 and subsequently miscarried in March/07. It was very traumatic for both dh and I so we decided to wait to try again. We have not been trying since the m/c but I am planning to start next month. We are in the middle of renovations and have too much going on at the moment but I have quit drinking altogether and still take my vitamins and preparing for the next.
Here is what I did the month I got pregnant and timed everything:
* Both dh and I started taking multi vitamins the month before although I had been taking folic acid for several months
* DH quit smoking and was on the patch, stopped taking hot baths - limited his baths to 20 minutes.
*I used ovulation sticks and bd 3 days before, the day before and the morning of ovulation.
* Each time we bd - afterwards I put my feet up in the air or pillow under my hips - sounds weird but it helps
*Drank some green tea before ovulation
Believe it or not we only bd those 3 times that month.
The doctors said that even though I miscarried the chances of a successful pregnancy next time were around 90% for me as I had a blighted ovum which is a random unpreventable thing.
My dh is also in his 40's - he is 43. We feel we are secure enough and obviously ready at this stage in our lives. Yes we know we should have done it maybe 5 years ago but we can't turn back the clock. Our success rate was in the 20 year range. So, don't believe in all that statistical crap that books say as it is not your age but your health and fertility which varies from person to person no matter how old you are. My dh' mom had he and his twin at 40 and she only had 1 ovary and was told she couldn't conceive any more children (already had 4). My aunt had twins at 38 and my mom had me (her 5th) at 36 yrs old.
As for early signs - yes you can feel symptoms within a week of ovulation. Sounds weird but I knew within the first week as my chart temps stayed high and level, had more cm, and was thirsty, I also had an acute sense of smell and taste. I did not have nausea or sore bb at all until much later in the pregnancy. I say if it is unusual for you then it could be a sign.
Take care and good luck. Maybe we will be on the pregnancy boards together.
Michelle
MaggiesFarm
11-28-2007, 01:44 PM
;)
just a thought, regarding your feeling "trying" is "unromantic"... think about how unromantic it is when couples who barely know eachother and/or who are in no way ready or want a baby conceive...
... it think a planned pregnancy between two people who are ready to give their baby a family IS romantic! :)
i know what you mean, but i thought i'd let you know how i think of it! :)
just a thought, regarding your feeling "trying" is "unromantic"... think about how unromantic it is when couples who barely know eachother and/or who are in no way ready or want a baby conceive...
... it think a planned pregnancy between two people who are ready to give their baby a family IS romantic! :)
i know what you mean, but i thought i'd let you know how i think of it! :)
petear
11-28-2007, 08:21 PM
Good point
brook65
12-06-2007, 07:59 PM
Hi Petear
Well if I can give hope to you and any other more mature ladies, I have just discoved that I am pregnant at the grand old age of - 42!!:angel:
So don't give up, I was just about to give up, and so glad I didn't:)
Well if I can give hope to you and any other more mature ladies, I have just discoved that I am pregnant at the grand old age of - 42!!:angel:
So don't give up, I was just about to give up, and so glad I didn't:)
cashahn
12-06-2007, 08:50 PM
Hi Im not over 35 but not far off it Im 32 and trying for my 1st. I have had to take my journey to a fertility specialist and I start IVF with ICSI in Jan 08. There are many people who have there 1st in their 30's these days. I wish you all the best.
Cashahn xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Cashahn xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
H20Goddess
12-07-2007, 03:47 PM
So glad there are others like myself. I too am 37 and am trying to conceive my very first child. I'm in a panic afraid it might never happen for me. I turn 38 in a weeks time and had hope to have gotten pregnant long before now...oh well, positive thoughts only. Good luck to everyone in the same boat. There's always hope. : )
H20Goddess
12-20-2007, 03:23 PM
Scratch that - I am now 38 years old and ttc my very first child. Celebrated my 38th last week. The clock is ticking very, very loudly in my ears now and I'm very worried. : (
petear
12-21-2007, 02:32 AM
Have you ever read or seen the secret?
Stay positive the worst thing you can do is worry or think it wont happen, you may create that with your own thoughts, visualise getting pregnant and holding the baby in your arms everyday and feel the feelings of happiness you will have, remember the mind and body is connected.
It will happen for you and it will happen for me too...
Stay positive the worst thing you can do is worry or think it wont happen, you may create that with your own thoughts, visualise getting pregnant and holding the baby in your arms everyday and feel the feelings of happiness you will have, remember the mind and body is connected.
It will happen for you and it will happen for me too...
H20Goddess
12-21-2007, 10:52 AM
Petear - thanks so much for those positive words. I really needed to hear them. I will take what you said to heart.
Lots of baby dust to everyone... :)
Lots of baby dust to everyone... :)
sgchick
01-17-2008, 12:37 PM
Hello ladies, may I join you?
I've been "spying" on this site for awhile now and I'm really glad I found you ladies in the 30s group. Just a brief history about me...
My name is Jennifer :wave:and I had my first DS when I was 16 (now THAT was easy time, all I needed to do was blink! ;)) married, divorced 10 yrs later...
I was married again after 4 yrs with DH (he just turned 33 and I just turned 38)this past May 07 and pregnant right away after many many yrs on the pills (I took 2 months off to prepare - folic acid, et..) We were shocked and so excited. Sadly it ended in m/c after 11.5 weeks, we were sooooo sad. :(. After first cycle we tried again, the innocence and joy of pregnancy was hindered and we weren't expecting anything. The 2ww was an eternity and I was on every single website about 2ww and checked EVERY symptom, aches and pains and it drove my DH nuts! I was utterly obssessed. :D I even tested early so many times. Finally I missed my pd and still tested negative! Finally I got a BFP and we were shocked again! Of course very happy but so nervous. This time we monitored the beta, had u/s every other week and I began to feel like a guina pig. Spotted at 6.5 wks but the beta looked good. Anyway, it all came to an end when there was only a getational sac, no fetal pole, nothing. Mean while my HCG went all the way up to 69,000 and I was 9 wks, no sign of m/c. They finally decided that it was blighted ovum and I'd miscarry. I felt betrayed, so hurt, frustrated and sad. I was pregnant yet wasn't! Dec 1 came ( I was 12 wks) and I took the pills from my OB to speed things along as my body was holding on and we were going on a cruise so that weekend I miscarried. It was sad but a relief for me however, I couldn't stand looking at pregnant women and they seemed to be everywhere! To make things worse, my sister had her baby when I miscarrried the 1st time, my brother and his wife just had one last week, most my g/fs are on their second child. I know I already had one and feel very blessed but it doesnt make my heart aches any less.:(
Moving forward to the New Year, I got my AF end of Decemeber and lasted only 4 days. We ttc right away and I'm again on 2ww... I truly hope this is my month - AND all you ladies out there!!! I'm not as anxious or excited. It's sad to feel that way but I'm so afraid that it'll be the same as the last few times. The positive part is I got pregnant quickly the last 2 times so I'm hanging on to that for my dear life...
Thank you so much for reading. Please keep us all posted who's ttc and got a BFP, or even when AF showed her ugly face. We ttc sisters need to stick together and we will get through, one month a time!:D:bouncing::bouncing:
Much love to all.
Jennifer
I've been "spying" on this site for awhile now and I'm really glad I found you ladies in the 30s group. Just a brief history about me...
My name is Jennifer :wave:and I had my first DS when I was 16 (now THAT was easy time, all I needed to do was blink! ;)) married, divorced 10 yrs later...
I was married again after 4 yrs with DH (he just turned 33 and I just turned 38)this past May 07 and pregnant right away after many many yrs on the pills (I took 2 months off to prepare - folic acid, et..) We were shocked and so excited. Sadly it ended in m/c after 11.5 weeks, we were sooooo sad. :(. After first cycle we tried again, the innocence and joy of pregnancy was hindered and we weren't expecting anything. The 2ww was an eternity and I was on every single website about 2ww and checked EVERY symptom, aches and pains and it drove my DH nuts! I was utterly obssessed. :D I even tested early so many times. Finally I missed my pd and still tested negative! Finally I got a BFP and we were shocked again! Of course very happy but so nervous. This time we monitored the beta, had u/s every other week and I began to feel like a guina pig. Spotted at 6.5 wks but the beta looked good. Anyway, it all came to an end when there was only a getational sac, no fetal pole, nothing. Mean while my HCG went all the way up to 69,000 and I was 9 wks, no sign of m/c. They finally decided that it was blighted ovum and I'd miscarry. I felt betrayed, so hurt, frustrated and sad. I was pregnant yet wasn't! Dec 1 came ( I was 12 wks) and I took the pills from my OB to speed things along as my body was holding on and we were going on a cruise so that weekend I miscarried. It was sad but a relief for me however, I couldn't stand looking at pregnant women and they seemed to be everywhere! To make things worse, my sister had her baby when I miscarrried the 1st time, my brother and his wife just had one last week, most my g/fs are on their second child. I know I already had one and feel very blessed but it doesnt make my heart aches any less.:(
Moving forward to the New Year, I got my AF end of Decemeber and lasted only 4 days. We ttc right away and I'm again on 2ww... I truly hope this is my month - AND all you ladies out there!!! I'm not as anxious or excited. It's sad to feel that way but I'm so afraid that it'll be the same as the last few times. The positive part is I got pregnant quickly the last 2 times so I'm hanging on to that for my dear life...
Thank you so much for reading. Please keep us all posted who's ttc and got a BFP, or even when AF showed her ugly face. We ttc sisters need to stick together and we will get through, one month a time!:D:bouncing::bouncing:
Much love to all.
Jennifer
cashahn
01-18-2008, 01:39 AM
Hi Jennifer and welcome Im so sorry you have had to go through the pain of M/C but it is great to see you still have a positive attitude. My TTC has not been an easy one I had a M/C at 25 and I havent been pregnant since Im now 32. In 7 weeks time I will be starting my 1st IVF cycle it was meant to start in 11 days but because they couldnt fit me in for the education appt until the 6th Feb it has now been put back until the end of Feb to start the cycle. I really hope you get your BFP very soon. Wishing you the stickiest babydust.
Cashahn xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Cashahn xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
LISAMCGEE
01-18-2008, 02:41 PM
Hi girls, I want to join this thread also. I am 32, I have a 9 year old DS from a previous marriage (23 , got my BFP the very first month) years later I remarried and my DH and I started TTC about 16 months ago. After 13 cycles with BFN's everytime we finally conceived last October only to lose the baby to M/C at 9.5 weeks. We were devastated. The whole m/c process took about a month as I had retained some tissue and was bleeding for 3 weeks straight, finally had a d&c the last week of Dec. and 26 days later AF showed up. So I know my body is back to normal now and I have started temping again... lets hope we all move to the PG board soon. I am so worried it is going to take me another 13+months to conceive.. and I hear my clock ticking....
best of luck to you all!
best of luck to you all!