I am very upset putting these feeling down into words.My story is so terrible,I have has four nervous breakdowns,lost everyone and everything I ever had.The people I loved in thid world betrayed and abdondened me.I am completely alone.My mother had a massive stroke on Sept 29 ,three years ago.I found her on the floor and shattered.I watched her in the hospital for three months in coma and shown by the doctors the extent of her stroke.Half her brain was gone.They wanted me to pull the plug but I could not make that decision on my own though was medical proxy.I have one other brother who said I was trying to kill her. In the middle of the night who took her to another state,and proceeded to take complete control.He put her a rehab nursing home and after only two of seeing a 20,000 monthly saw his inheritence disapearing.All of this time his wife who has extreme mental problems convinced him to take her home.The first day was at their they gave her too much insulin and she went into a coma,if I did not hear her struggling for breath she would be dead.They did not seem to care.she is completly disabled not able to move at all.I could not do this,I saw she needed professional they woulfd not let go of the money.They labled me crazy and turned my entire family against me.He disowned his own children and because they loved me and tried to show these people the pain and suffering they were causing.He would not let her grandchidren or only daughter near her.There were restraining orders,how did I survive through this.Now I'm the pariah,and mother thinks I hate her.The other side of caregiving.

I am so sorry. I've been through similar experiences as I come from a very dysfunctional family. You need to see your mom. Be there with her. I moved from Los Angeles to take care of my mom w/ cancer because my siblings (2) who LIVED here refused to. You have a right to see your mom and you need to tell her you love her and that you do not want to partake in family drama but you have always loved her and that you are there for her. In regard to your siblings, tell them you don't want to fight but you have a right to see your mom. I went through a lot w/ my siblings...they had her baker acted when she was in the hospital for a blood clot and low sodium....for which the side effects include emotional instability...instead of heeding her hematologist, they had her sent to the psych ward where they gave her haldol and she had grand mal seizures and almost died. Shortly after that experience, my mother had me legally named healthcare advocate. Does your mom have one?