I am a completely heterosexual male. My girlfriend and I have been together and monogomous for over a year. I recently had an issue on my anus, which is only used for oral sex. A rash showed up and was herpes. I dont know if it is hsv1 or 2, but my girlfriend has hsv1. However, three years ago, I had an issue on my penis, which was tested for herpes and came back negative. Now, this is positive, on my anus and the same issue from 3 years ago has also come up on my penis. at the same time. She is convinced I cheated on her and I have not. I have not gotten tested yet to see if I have hsv2, but she has and it was negative. I dont know what to do. Could my episode be from HSV 1, whcih she has and could have been contracted anally from oral sex, or is it possibly just HSV1. I dont know what to do. She is convinced whatever i have is from her or I cheated on her. She will not believe that i did not think I had anything, or atleast thought not before.

Thanks,

Clay

'A rash showed up and was herpes.'
How was that determined? By a swab, just a doctor's opinion or ? Get a swab and a blood test and make sure it is a IgG type specific i.e. HerpeSelect. None of that IgM crap.

"I dont know if it is hsv1 or 2, but my girlfriend has hsv1."
If she has type 1 (cold sores), it can be spread to genitals via oral sex.

"She is convinced I cheated on her and I have not. I have not gotten tested yet to see if I have hsv2, but she has and it was negative."
Fidelity issues often come up with a new herpres diagnosis. Until you get tested and know your 'status' and type there is not much you can do. Many people have it for years with no symptoms or things that get attributed to other issues - pimple, alergic reaction to soap, shaving, yeast infections etc. If they swab and it comes back positive for herpes but your blood test comes back negative then it usually means you have a new infection. Start with the tests and go from there.

Also have you read the herpes handbook that is widely available for free on the net? There is lots of great information that you should read and have your girlfriend read.

The two of you need to go to a health clinic or doctor to sort things out for you. Perhaps all this rash stuff is something entirely not what you think it to be. And lastly herpes can lay dormant in your body for years so at some point one or both of you have contracted something and are passing it back and forth. The smartest thing for the two of you to do is go together so you aren't blaming each other for things beyond your control.

She has HSV1. I'm assuming that you mean she has cold sores. Just so you know, cold sores is not HSV1. Both HSV1 and HSV2 can live in either location.

Yes, she could have given you genital herpes via oral sex. Since she already has herpes, and you tested negative before, I'd say it's pretty much guaranteed this is what happened.

I highly recommend getting a swab from the affected area so they can get it cultured and they can then tell you exactly what you have and if it's herpes they will tell which type.

All of my o/b's, save for about 3, have been at my anal area and i am female. Why the anal area and not vaginal i have no idea!! Firstly i visited my gp, who did a visual exam and sent me off, telling me to forget about it as it was only a sweat rash. I had never had a sweat rash in my life!! next stop was the sexual health clinic, they did a swab and it came back positive for type 2 herpes.

If your current g/f gets cold sores at her mouth, then she could most definitely have passed the virus to you genitally if she performed oral sex on you. She needn't have had a cold sore present at the time she gave you oral sex either for it to have been passed on.