Hey, I am a 18 year old guy and for the last few years I have become extremely distressed and anxious about my appearance. I gaze at myself in the mirror on a daily basis, wondering how anyone could be born so ugly. I feel like I stand out like a sore thumb, that people are staring at my ugliness from every angle. Some people close to me say that I am not ugly but I feel that they are only saying this not to make me feel bad. I stare at the mirror for minutes on end in a kind of trance which I hope will end with me coming to assurance that I am not ugly. But that never happens of course. To get though daily life I continuously say to myself “I am not ugly, I am not ugly”, just to try and make the best out of my life. But by saying this I think it shows I am in a state of denial, it shows that I am actually ugly but I am trying to sweep the fact under the carpet. Is this true? , am I ugly or am I actually decent looking? Please assist me, I am trying to finally gain a true and honest understanding of myself. True Understanding of my physical appearance is something I have never had in my life and finding the truth, whether it be good or bad, is central to me. Thanks.

It doesn't matter how others see you it only matters how you see yourself, you could look like a male model but if you still see ugly in the mirrior that is what your going to think, whether or not we look good has very little to do with how a person sees him or herself at the ground level when it comes to self image

trg247

Hey Rabbit:

I wanted to tell you that many, many people struggle with their looks and are obsessed with thinking they're not attractive. I do from time to time. We live in a culture that not only prizes "beauty" over other traits like intelligence, empathy, creativity, but that also focuses on a particular kind of beauty and holds it up to a ridiculous standard that excludes 90% of the population.

The reality of it is that beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. I find lots of guys attractive that my friends think are ugly and vice versa.

Still, there are many things you can do to both improve your looks and feel better about your looks. You can get a good haircut that suits your face, dress for your body type, and other stuff.

If none of that helps, you may be suffering from body dysmorphic disorder. This is a kind of OCD where people are obsessed with their appearance and also can't see themselves clearly. You should talk to a therapist first.

feel better and keep us posted.

self esteem is a big one. Dont dwell on what is or is not true, simply make changes to help.
If u think youre ugly then your being self critical, and nothing is going to change that opinion but yourself is it??
Even if mum dad brother best mate say otherwise.
Thing is more look at self like that negative light more your reinforcing it.
No one is perfect and they may claim to be but no matter if their got looks to kill they will have their faults.
Stay positive remind self no matter what horrible think of self there is always some poor sod who is worse off.
Dont give self such a hard time.
Be careful aswell making this kind of post online while there are people christian personal self who want to help u others will just see it as a chance to ridicule and be make self esteem worse thats the kind of annoying superficial narrow minded that some people are like. Not trying to offend but remember if it pity u want your not necessarliy going to get it personally hate being judged and wouldnt post the post u posted in a million years for fear of ridicule and fear of hear something didnt want to hear.

Get a tan hair cut which always does wonders for confidence and love yourself your all youve got.

PEACE

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