how do you get over your dad dying

Hi.

I lost my best friend, my dad about 5 years ago. Everyday I think of him..and everyday I miss him. However, he was suffering terribly, and I wouldn't want him to live like that just for my own satisfaction. I love to think of what Helen Keller wrote...as it helped me a lot. "What we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes a part of us."

If you have faith, that helps as it gives you hope of seeing your loved ones again...

I am sorry for your loss...truly.

[COLOR="Navy"]One day at a time. I lost my father on the 26th of September and my Mother on the first of November. So I m suffered from a double loss. IT is hard when you see their favorite things out for Christmas and you want to pick it up to have for them for the holidays. It hard when you hear their favorite Christas songs on the radio. Daddy used to whistle all the time and it's hard no hearing him whistle with the radio. What to do?

I try to get through each day withought falling apart. It's hard, but you take each day as it comes. Some days are easier than others, and then some days knock me off of my feet. I manage to get to work, with my make-up on, my dress clothes on and looking professional, but inside i'm 11 and i'm lost and calling for my daddy to come and find me. I don't much like being an orphan, but I guess that God needed my parents for someone upstairs......

you are in my prayers.........
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Time.

It's been almost three years and I miss him still only it's not as painful as it was during the first year.

Time is your best friend.

Time is not the only thing that will help but it does help a lot. I lost my dad at age 13, i'm 37 now. I still miss him and think about him. He was a great guy and i know that no matter what he'll always be a part of me. Talking and rehashing old memories kind of hurts at the beginning but it gets to feeling good after a while because you're keeping him alive in your heart. There is pain with every loss but it pays to remember that physical loss is not permenant. I don't believe in deities but I know that there is another plain of existance we go to after our bodies die. It helps to have some kind of faith in a hereafter, if for no other reason than just to give us hope and help us believe that our family is doing better now that they're not here suffering on this plain of existance. Hope this helps a lil. Shane:angel:

My dad died when I was 3, I am 33 now and I never got over it. I'm usually ok but there is a profound sense of loss that is in me. Sometimes (especially around the anniversary of his death) I get very depressed. Unfortunatly my family did not believe in talking about him so the loss is even worse since I know nothing. It helps to talk to people that have gone through it, but nothing will ever fill the void.

My dad died when I was 3, I am 33 now and I never got over it. I'm usually ok but there is a profound sense of loss that is in me. Sometimes (especially around the anniversary of his death) I get very depressed. Unfortunatly my family did not believe in talking about him so the loss is even worse since I know nothing. It helps to talk to people that have gone through it, but nothing will ever fill the void.

Dearest Judy,
my mum died when i was six years old i dont remember her sadly i feel your pain as i am 43 and still yearn for her my family would never talk about her or tell me stories it was never spoken about mum was 37 passed from cancer judy they never leave us and we can only learn to live with it,on the 22nd of this month my dad passed away from cancer i nursed him at home as he didnt want a nursing home so i was dads nurse-today judy i had to burrie him he went with mum it hurts so bad i know you would understand as we are grieving loving people thats why were on this board for support&understanding
iam sorry if iam letting it all out but i see what your experiencing and unless someone has walked our shoes how can they understand our etenal pain?god bless you judy i hope to here from you cheers casey7

how do you get over your dad dying

You don't.

You merely learn how to not allow it to cause you so much grief as to limit your life.

My mom died oh so many years ago and I still think of her often and much of the time it still brings a tear to my eyes.

I don;t want to get over the loss. I want to embrace the memories I have of her.

Was just going to reply like Gooby ... you dont ever... you learn to live with it... the pain lessens but the memories intensify and l wouldnt have it anyother way (Y) thinking of you all xxxx