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Marilyn Monroe
10-01-2003, 09:15 AM
Lonliness is swallowing me into the abyss. I have left everyone because I have abandonment issues from watching my father have an anuerism and drown in a bathtub at 5 years old. i have been to Europe,i'm american, i've been lucky and had people falin love with me and i ran away!!!!

I ran....

Some people run away from love because they do not feel they are worthy of it, I ran away from it many times, and am alone.
Back in america, living in hell, a private hell of lonliness. i can't burden the 3 people who love me, as they have their own huge issues to deal with, so I'm left, this morning, i drank all night and wrote to a person I believe is my lost love /soulmate.

I had to leave the country to get over him, it's been 2 years and I'm back and cannot still forget him, didn't meeet anyone who compared to him, but he is with his ex before me who he claims is more like his sister than romantic or true love.

Has he settled, and is that what life is about? pretending and setling because the really great things are to hard and so why bother?

I have no one, NO ONE to call or talk to, please someone be up this early and see this and reach out, help me see some hope or at least just talk to me. PLEASEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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~~NatureLovers~~
10-01-2003, 02:30 PM
I also have a fear of abandonment. I dont know why or where it has come from. The only real thing I can pinpoint it too is the uprooting that my parents did when I was 15. We moved far away from the only friends I had, the only school I knew, and all my family. I then 3 yrs later lost my granny to death. My only real experience with losing someone I love so greatly. I also went thru a pretty dramatic and traumatizing (to me anyway) divorce, from the only man Id ever loved. Had just gone thru postpartum depression after having our child, then he kicks me out for another 'girl', who was 16, he was 20.
I have ruined a few relationships , even married again soon after divorce, yet left him due to fear of abandoment. I figured, why not leave him first, before he can hurt me. Though, those were never his, or the few others that have come into my life, intentions. I am kinda like numb to any emotions. EXCEPT anger. I am very cold at times, yet deep inside I am in need of so much love, attention, and security.
Im not much help on 'what to do'........yet wanted you to know that you are not alone in this.
:wave:

Marilyn Monroe
10-02-2003, 09:52 AM
Thank you for replying, you don't know how much it meant to read that someone else is like me in that cold thing, i feel like i am the most horrible ***** with ice running thru my veins in relationships because it's just easier to not have to work, not have patience and flee for the fear that "they" may flee before. I just can't take being smothered in relationships, but then i can't take NOT being in a relationship and being alone..........Does that make sense?

I feel it is a father issue, or mother, any parent leaving you at an early age for good or for any length of time can damage a person for life in how they go about treating people in their adult life. It dosen't seem to matter how much i love someone i can be incredibly hurful and cruel to them, like daring them to leave me, yet I'm ALWAYS the one who leaves.

Then, I wonder why i'm so alone and why i have such bad luck in love and how come I have to resort to self destructive behavior such as drinking at 8 in the morning to cut out the thoguhts of th past in which I continue to tell my 'self' how horrible I was and that I deserve to be alone because I'm a hateful human being.
I know i'm not, I know i'm extra super plus sensitive, but maybe for that reason alone I have become hard, sullen and mean......... Oh god, I don't want to be this person. :(

sleeptweedledee
10-17-2003, 08:18 PM
I hope you are not against this but because I have felt this way however never experienced your situation reading that made me cry you were too young to go through that. But now you are here and you have to find strength in yourself to cope with this and it sounds like your whole problem is your past and you are a perfect candidate on why drug companies make antidepressants (POST TRAUMATIC STRESS SYNDROME) you can suffer your past for your whole life through and like I said you were way too young going through this. Please consider help even if it is antidepressants and Good Luck!

Marilyn Monroe
10-21-2003, 11:08 PM
Originally posted by sleeptweedledee:
I hope you are not against this but because I have felt this way however never experienced your situation reading that made me cry you were too young to go through that. But now you are here and you have to find strength in yourself to cope with this and it sounds like your whole problem is your past and you are a perfect candidate on why drug companies make antidepressants (POST TRAUMATIC STRESS SYNDROME) you can suffer your past for your whole life through and like I said you were way too young going through this. Please consider help even if it is antidepressants and Good Luck!

I'm sorry that I made you cry. I'm really losing it. I've been on every anti depression pill including Lithium, and nothing helps, I had a very expensive cocaine problem when I was in england and now that i'm home I have to take many Xanax and ambian to sleep and keep from imploding.
But, I thank you for replying, because I feel that I have no one, even the 4 family members I do have do not have a CLUE to how bad it really is now, and how alone I really feel without a solution in sight, and believe me, I'm a thinker, so I have indeed tried to come up with a workable solution to getting over this and be a normal person.

sleeptweedledee
10-22-2003, 03:19 PM
I JUST WANTED TO SEND YOU A BIT OF INSPIRATION AND IF YOUR LIKE ME IT MAY HELP FOR A DAY IF THAT BUT EVERYTIME YOU FEEL THIS WAY READ THIS AND DAY BY DAY WHAT EVER IT TAKES MAYBE WHEN YOU AND ONLY YOU ARE READY TO HEAL YOURSELF YOU WILL. PLEASE READ IT, IT IS BEAUTIFULL!
Empty Pages
One evening a young woman went alone to walk barefoot by the ocean after the sun had set. She stopped in her path and turned so she could see the footsteps she had left in the sand. But they had already been washed away by the waves. When she turned to continue her walk, she was startled by the presence of an old woman wrapped in a blanket who out of nowhere appeared sitting by a fire, slowly paging through the leaves of a leather covered book.

She walked up to the woman and asked. "Where did you come from? I didn't see you here a moment ago. And how did you start this fire so quickly?"

Her questions went unanswered but were instead met with a reply in a serene voice, "Sit with me, child. I have something to show you."

As the young woman sat down beside the fire, the mysterious stranger handed her the book. She curiously turned the pages one by one and was amazed to discover they contained the story of her whole life from the early days of childhood to the present. She then came to the page telling of her encounter with the old woman by the fire during her walk on the beach, but upon turning to the next page, she found it empty. She frantically began to turn the rest of the pages in the book only to find that they, too, were all empty. In bewilderment, she looked to the old woman and pleaded with her to explain.

"Does this mean my life ends this night?"

"No, my child. It means tonight your life begins."

At that moment the old woman took the book into her own hands and began to tear out each of the pages with words, throwing them one by one into the fire until all that was left were blank pages.

She handed the book of empty pages to the young woman.

"You see," she said, "just as the waves washed away your footsteps in the sand, your past is forever gone, never to return. The only moment you ever truly possess is here and now. Each new moment is the beginning of the rest of your life and is to be lived to the fullest, for you will not have a chance to live that moment a second time. Most important of all, each new day brings an opportunity to love--one that may never come to you again.

"As for your future, you are free to shape it as you wish, for it has not yet been written."

Then, as mysteriously as she had appeared, the old woman stood to walk away and disappeared into the darkness of the night.

you are not alone!

sugaredwillow
11-22-2003, 02:38 AM
You do have someone JESUS, I was in the same boat as you if not worse I won't get into it but I was bad off for years (a alcoholic) but I read the bible and everything changed. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE read the bible it will help you good luck and GOD BLESS,

jinglebts
11-26-2003, 03:45 PM
suggest counselling, if antiD's don't work ... i too have abandonment issues (dad left when i was 8, aunt and g-g'mother died when i was six, g'father when i was 12) ... i've had some success w/ADs, but am getting counselling now, and feel better even if it's just someone to talk to ...

jb





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