Sorry If this question doesnt belong on this board. Wasnt really sure what board was appropriete to ask. I'm wondering if anyone can tell me what age or how many kids you have to have to get your tubes tied. I'm 25, with my fiance of 6 years. And as of now and for as long as i can remember I dont want or ever wanted children. I know a dr. wont do the procedure if your too young and so on, so just wondering if any ladies know the answer to this. Its definitly something I'm planning to do as soon as I'm able to.

Thank you in advance.

Well.. i was speaking with my boyfriends mom (shes in her 50's now) and she got her tubes done a very long time ago.. she had only 2 kids.. but when she got hers done, she had a lot of probelms and ended up getting an entire hystroectomy (sp?) but her daugher had 2 kids as well (shes 33) and she got her tubes done a few years ago. i say talk to your dr. :)

Guess I don't understand why a doctor wouldn't tire your tubes....You are not too young. Go to a planned parenthood clinic and get it done.

You always face the risk of your tubes growing back together as well as complications with the recovery from surgery.

Why not get an IUD? They are good for 10 years and their success rate is equal (if not better) than getting the surgery.

oh jeez, dont do it just yet...you never know what life throws your way...wait!!!!

Thanks for the responses everyone. Very helpful as I personally dont know anyone who has had this done, and I just may reconsider. As far as an IUD. Ive just reached a point where I dont want to be on anything hormonal.

Have you talked to your fiance about having HIM get surgery done instead of you? There are less risks involved.

Thanks for the responses everyone. Very helpful as I personally dont know anyone who has had this done, and I just may reconsider. As far as an IUD. Ive just reached a point where I dont want to be on anything hormonal.

There are no hormones in the Paraguard IUD

As far as going to Planned Parenthood to get it done, not a single PP that I've been to will do it, to me anyway. I'm 26 and have no kids and have already had one abortion and will probably never want kids. You are probably going to be stuck having to get an IUD, which I hear that the guy can feel during sex and it can also cause horrid cramps.

Generally speaking, at least where I live, doctors prefer you to be 30 or older. I have several friends who've had their tubes tied and guys who've had vasectomies. Thirty seems to be the magic age.

I feel the same way you do about being young but knowing for sure you don't want kids. Forget tube tying I want it all removed so I don't have to mess with any of it!

Ziala, I knew from a very early age (like 8 or 9) that I never ever wanted kids. Everyone told me I'd change my mind. Here I am at 40 years old and still don't want them. Some people innately know they never want them. I say that if by now if you have not had even a twinge of that biological clock ticking and can't even fathom what that feels like when your friends talk about it, then you probably are a true child free by choice person. I just think some women truly are meant not to have children by their own choice.

There are, of course, those who are your age and state they don't want them and then at 30 want them badly or accidentally get pregnant and think it's the best thing in the world. I know a couple women who vowed they never ever wanted children and when accidentally became pregnant (one forced by her husband under threat of divorce) they loathed being mothers. While she takes very good care of her child she knows deep down she resents it and her husband has most of the custody.

Anyway, back to my point. Not all women are meant to have children (even if we are physically/mentally perfect to do so). It is a life choice. It's not something you must chose to do because you are a woman or because society forces you into it. You should do it because you truly want to.

Back in my 20's no doctor would tie my tubes, though thought I was too young, blah blah blah. Even in my 30's they would not! I was married for 8 years and he knew I never wanted children but about 7 years in he decided he wanted kids. We divorced after 8 years. And still no one wanted to give me a tubal. If I'm serious enough in my mid-30's to divorce over not wanting kids, then I don't know how serious is serious.

Finally, last year, when I was 39 I had to have an endometrial ablation and my doctor said he'd do a tubal with that procedure (actually he required it since it is extremely dangerous to get pregnant after an ablation). I thought, finally, thank goodness!!!

All I can offer is to either try different doctors for a tubal or maintain your position over and over. It might take a few more years but if it's what you really want, you will find a doctor who will do it for you. Good luck!