Hello,

My name is Leon, im a 20 yr old college student. My GF and I (who is also 20) have been dating for a while and are very serious. We are currently away from eachother due to school vacation. She called me the other day and told me that she had gone in for a check up about a week ago and had been called back in. The test had shown abnormalities that are similar to Cervical Cancer, this runs in her family. Sadly she has not had the HPV vaccination, so she thinks if she did have HPV it was from her previous BF. She will not be going in for testing for a week or two, as of right now what can I do?

She is very worried about it being HPV, although we do not plan to have kids, she is okay with getting the surgery. Ive looked into this a bit but id like to know more. Are there things I should know? Like if its possible im now a carrier of HPV not to have sex? Any feedback would be very helpful seeing as this is a rather stressful time for us. Thank You.

-Leon

I may sound old fashioned, but these are reasons people should wait until marriage to have sex, these STD's wouldn't be as rampant as they are now. You can still get cancer without the HPV. There are over 100 strains of HPV and some come out as warts and others effect the tissue in the cervix, etc. I don't know if you are at risk for being a carrier now, maybe someone else will know.

Also, Gardisil, the shot, does not prevent you from getting HPV or cancer. There are no miracle shots and there are always negative risks with drugs and vaccines and they are not nor will ever be never be a cure.

Marrige is irrelivant seeing as getting married wont stop cancer or an STD...

Although we are engaged, as of right now our financial situation will not allow us to have a wedding.

Anyways, I was aware that the shot is not a merical shot, and it does not really matter anymore. We are not planning on having kids, and if the test deduct positive for cancer, is the surgery simple? Id like some feedback if possible, thanks again.

Its 2007...People are NOT waiting to have sex so that argument is meaningless. Divorce rates only go up when people wed for the wrong reasons.

Leon, so sorry to hear about your GF. You have to wait for test results. HPV can cause different problems for different people, mainly because there are so many different strains. Help her stay positive, eat healthy, stay active. A good immune system is the key. I am battling this myself and have not had a normal pap in almost two years. I have had several procedures now and am currently waiting to do a follow-up test in the end of Jan. My doctor told me to stay healthy, sleep 8 hours, take vitamins and be stress-free. Thats where I am right now. Waiting for good test results.

The procedures can remove the abnormal tissue so it doesn't develop into cancer, which isn't always the end result. No worries yet, I'm sure with your excellent support she will be fine. Take care, let us know how it goes.

We recently had a discussion about how to take care of yourself in another thread: Dylsplasia again after LEEP. In there we discussed natural ways of healing. The body has the ability to heal itself if you give it the proper tools and women have success with that without being cut or having anything removed. They take herbs, a lot of vitamins, do a tampon soak, castor oil packs on the abs in a sitz bath, etc. So, that is another option to help your girlfriend. Normally when we develop diasese, sickness, etc. it stems from not being healthy and off balance inside of your body. Nutritional deficiencies are most common, that is why people have success with a lot of vitamins. Herbs also have a great healing power. Just read about your options, whether it is going the traditional route with a medical doctor or seeking a naturopathic doctor. Best of luck to your girlfreinds situation.

Thanks for the feedback, I am giving her all the support I possibly can at a long distance location. Next month on the fourth she is going in for testing, so we can see exactly whats up with her, I will be around then so im planning on going with her for support.

Thank you again for your suggestions. Id like to know what strain she had of HPV, if she had it. I know there are no tests for men to tell if they are carriers, but would being affectionate hurt her in anyway at all?

Anyways ill let you all know any updates, thanks again.