frog96
12-27-2007, 12:55 PM
I am 20 and I weigh 308lbs. In the past 5 years I have gained about 120lbs. I can't go on this way but I am embarrassed to ask for help. I am tired and find it increasingly difficult to get around due to my size. My family seem to ignore how big I am and don't mention it which makes it more difficult to ask for help.
What can you suggest?
What can you suggest?
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smurfswifey
12-27-2007, 03:15 PM
You sound just like me. I have gained 135 in the past few years , mostly due to marriage problems and emotional eating I think. All I can suggest is going to the doctor. I have a appointment scheduled for myself for the same reasons. I also am embarassed, but I have come to the realization that if I don't do something about all this extra weight I am not going to see my kids grow up. Hopefully you have a good doctor that won't make you feel bad. And if they are rude, there are always other doctors! Good Luck!
leea1206
12-29-2007, 06:52 PM
At 20, you are at a great age to make the changes you desire, as your eating and exercise habits are not set in stone, as much as an older person.
Even though it will be hard and you are embarassed, I WOULD start by seeing your doctor. Tell them just what you have said here and that you really want to get started on this. Ask if they can refer you to a wt loss/obesity program.
Also, is there a trusted friend or extended family member that you discuss your concern's with, so you don't feel so alone with this problem, as if no one is willing to acknowledge the wt gain?
Also, have there been any major life events in the last 5 yrs that have caused you to emotionally overeat? -Just a thought, to explore any underlying issues.
Good luck to you and let us know how your doing.:)
Leea
Even though it will be hard and you are embarassed, I WOULD start by seeing your doctor. Tell them just what you have said here and that you really want to get started on this. Ask if they can refer you to a wt loss/obesity program.
Also, is there a trusted friend or extended family member that you discuss your concern's with, so you don't feel so alone with this problem, as if no one is willing to acknowledge the wt gain?
Also, have there been any major life events in the last 5 yrs that have caused you to emotionally overeat? -Just a thought, to explore any underlying issues.
Good luck to you and let us know how your doing.:)
Leea
gaffordp
12-30-2007, 04:29 PM
My husband went to the doctor to get a Ruen-Y by-pass done. In March when he had the surgery he weigh 376lbs and growing. Surgery was done on March 19th, 2007.
Today he weighs under 200 lbs. His waist size was at least a 52 back then. And 5X on his shirts. He now is in a 38 waist pant and 2X shirt. It works, but it is a life changing experience and you must be ready for that. Check with your medical insurance because it does take a while to get everything in place. Lots of documentation as to what you have done in the past to loose the weight. But it does work. My husband has always been large. Just never as big as he was.
Lots of luck to you!!
gaffordp
Today he weighs under 200 lbs. His waist size was at least a 52 back then. And 5X on his shirts. He now is in a 38 waist pant and 2X shirt. It works, but it is a life changing experience and you must be ready for that. Check with your medical insurance because it does take a while to get everything in place. Lots of documentation as to what you have done in the past to loose the weight. But it does work. My husband has always been large. Just never as big as he was.
Lots of luck to you!!
gaffordp
flynema
01-15-2008, 11:07 AM
Surgery is a quick way to lose weight, and after that, you don't change the eating, working lifestyle, it's also gain quickly ;)
I think the most important is changing lifestyle first, move more, eat less junk food. I haven't enough time for exercise, so I put water far from me, when I am thirsty, I have to move my obese body to go there. Instead of sitting and eating snack while watching TV, I stand or go around.
It's funny about my new lifestyle, my sister laughed at me on first days, but now, she just smiles and says "keep on!, bro".
I usually say that my reason to lose weight is to be able to look straight down and see my toes instead of bending over to see them!
Lots lucks to you!
I think the most important is changing lifestyle first, move more, eat less junk food. I haven't enough time for exercise, so I put water far from me, when I am thirsty, I have to move my obese body to go there. Instead of sitting and eating snack while watching TV, I stand or go around.
It's funny about my new lifestyle, my sister laughed at me on first days, but now, she just smiles and says "keep on!, bro".
I usually say that my reason to lose weight is to be able to look straight down and see my toes instead of bending over to see them!
Lots lucks to you!
zeytun
01-15-2008, 10:03 PM
I am 20 and I weigh 308lbs. In the past 5 years I have gained about 120lbs. I can't go on this way but I am embarrassed to ask for help. I am tired and find it increasingly difficult to get around due to my size. My family seem to ignore how big I am and don't mention it which makes it more difficult to ask for help.
What can you suggest?
Well, I agree with everyone else. You should pay a visit to your doctor to see what he or she can suggest for you. Then, I think you should try and find something you are interested in, activity-wise. I think that a lot of people think that going to the gym is the best way to go but…to be honest...it's boring to stand on a machine and do the same motion for a long time while staring at a blank wall. Maybe you can try running, joining a recreational sports-team, swimming, or joining a club.
What can you suggest?
Well, I agree with everyone else. You should pay a visit to your doctor to see what he or she can suggest for you. Then, I think you should try and find something you are interested in, activity-wise. I think that a lot of people think that going to the gym is the best way to go but…to be honest...it's boring to stand on a machine and do the same motion for a long time while staring at a blank wall. Maybe you can try running, joining a recreational sports-team, swimming, or joining a club.
CaringMom
01-17-2008, 05:40 PM
Just want to say that I have a daughter who is overweight so I kind of know what you are going through. Regarding your family; could it be that they are just being sensitive to your weight? I know with mine, if I would bring up to my daughter her weight issues, she would probably go through the roof! The fact is we know she knows she has a problem but she is the one who needs to put her mind to it and do something about it. She knows she would have our full support. We do try subtly saying things like "we all need to diet", or "we all need to eat better". I even keep snacky things to a minimum in the house. She is 16 and drives so I'm sure there's plenty of junk food stuff I'm not aware of when she is out with friends. I pray someday she will do what you are doing. You can do it!!!!! Good for you!!!!
loopylou6
02-15-2008, 08:25 AM
Hey frogman, it would be nice to get to know you maybe we could help each other im 25 and overweight probably same amount as you, so get in touch with me if you would like to :)
MistieZ
02-20-2008, 02:13 PM
You are young and change is possible. You may be like most overeaters and eat due to emotions and stress. You can find a place inside you that is stronger then the outside influences that you hope will make your life ok. My suggestions would be to start using what drives you into the food, to find out why you are eating and then find a more healthier way to cope with the things you have learned about yourself.
shawna68
02-21-2008, 09:34 PM
I feel where your coming from. I need to change too. The diffarence between us is you are 20 and I am 39. You are still young and easier for you to lose it. Your family is just trying to be nice, lucky you. My family critisizes me dailey making fun of me. They think it will help me but it makes it that much harder.You sound like you have a caring family who will positively motivate you in whatever you choose to do. I know its hard believe me I do but now is the best time for you to try to lose weight. From the age 18 til about 34 I went back and forth in weight. Before 18 I was a skinny 115 lbs.
Around 18 I started gaining weight, I was about 140 lbs then between 18 to 21 I went down to 120 lbs then back up to 150 then 165 then by 29 I was 205 lbs. By age 31 I was back down to 125 lbs. By 33 I was at 155 lbs.
By 34 I was 176lbs. By 35 I was 205lbs and from there I kept gaining now at 265lbs. I dont lose it like I did when I was toung. Now I regret letting myself go. Now I am desperate for surgery. Dont let yourself get to this point.
You got the go in you right now to take that fat someplace and drop it off and leave it there forever. You got youth, its the biggest winning tool.
Good luck in your journey to freedom
Around 18 I started gaining weight, I was about 140 lbs then between 18 to 21 I went down to 120 lbs then back up to 150 then 165 then by 29 I was 205 lbs. By age 31 I was back down to 125 lbs. By 33 I was at 155 lbs.
By 34 I was 176lbs. By 35 I was 205lbs and from there I kept gaining now at 265lbs. I dont lose it like I did when I was toung. Now I regret letting myself go. Now I am desperate for surgery. Dont let yourself get to this point.
You got the go in you right now to take that fat someplace and drop it off and leave it there forever. You got youth, its the biggest winning tool.
Good luck in your journey to freedom