tinymom05
01-07-2008, 02:20 PM
I need to sign my daughters invitation from her teacher to us her parents to the IEP meeting. However, it says in the letter that the therapists working with my daughter in school don't have to be at this meeting. I can sign i approve of the therapists not coming to the meeting or agree that they don't have to be there.
My question is for those of you with children with autism etc in your childs IEP meeting who comes to it?
I want to get my child potty trained she is 4 years almost and the aide takes her to the bathroom only on break. I want to take her to the potty at home more often and with underwear and shouldnt they follow through at school or am i wrong? My daughter talks but has apraxia so it is hard for her to get all her sounds out. I want to try at home to potty train her and try to get her speech moving along as well. Shouldn't everyone involved be at her meeting so we are all on the same page or am i wrong?
Please someone help i need to know what to do before i sign this.
My question is for those of you with children with autism etc in your childs IEP meeting who comes to it?
I want to get my child potty trained she is 4 years almost and the aide takes her to the bathroom only on break. I want to take her to the potty at home more often and with underwear and shouldnt they follow through at school or am i wrong? My daughter talks but has apraxia so it is hard for her to get all her sounds out. I want to try at home to potty train her and try to get her speech moving along as well. Shouldn't everyone involved be at her meeting so we are all on the same page or am i wrong?
Please someone help i need to know what to do before i sign this.
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meechieny
01-07-2008, 03:34 PM
I live in NY. At a IEP meeting in our district the people who are in attendence are: the chairperson of the Special Ed Dept., school psychologist, regular ed teacher, special ed teacher, additional parent and a speech language teacher. My son is currently in 2nd grade. Prior to elem school he was part of the school district's preschool program and had something similar; a CPSE meeting. I have always attended and the teacher that works closer with my child: the special ed teacher is always there. I know the IEP is not only based on testing, but the aides and teachers who work directly with your child reports and recommendations. Your voice is heard at these meetings and it is that time where you can make YOUR recommendations known and RECORDED. We have many educational laws and districts are so frightened that they usually go along with anything that is reasonable. Potty training at school is very reasonable.
Call your district special ed department if you still have reservations about signing the form. I would even ask them if they can have that particular person you want to be present. I would defiantely voice your disappointment if they don't do it or have a legitimate reason why. Good luck:angel:
Call your district special ed department if you still have reservations about signing the form. I would even ask them if they can have that particular person you want to be present. I would defiantely voice your disappointment if they don't do it or have a legitimate reason why. Good luck:angel:
ThreeBoys
01-09-2008, 10:31 PM
You really have a lot of rights when it comes to IEP meetings. I was potty training my son at home and his teacher and I put "Will go to the bathroom without requesting when needed", meaning if he has to go, he gets to go!!!! He was one of those running while pants being pulled down to make it to the potty type kids.
As far as who comes to the meetings....whoever you WANT. Where I live(washington state) you can invite anyone to the iep meeting. Especially those who know your daughter. When we have a meeting, which you can have more than one a year at YOUR request, the teacher,speech and occupational therapist and me and my husband are the only ones that come. If you WANT the therapists to be there, request that they come! There is nothing like face to face explanations from them, or their experiences with YOUR child.
If you go to private speech and OT, THEY can come. If your grandparents babysit, they can come too. Whoever you think has POSITIVE input for your childs education and can help write goals for them to reach, can come.
My son does different things for his teacher than he does for me at home. And also for his other therapists, so they all have valuable input for his future educational goals.
Hope I've helped and good luck. :D Not easy, but you are the advocate...
As far as who comes to the meetings....whoever you WANT. Where I live(washington state) you can invite anyone to the iep meeting. Especially those who know your daughter. When we have a meeting, which you can have more than one a year at YOUR request, the teacher,speech and occupational therapist and me and my husband are the only ones that come. If you WANT the therapists to be there, request that they come! There is nothing like face to face explanations from them, or their experiences with YOUR child.
If you go to private speech and OT, THEY can come. If your grandparents babysit, they can come too. Whoever you think has POSITIVE input for your childs education and can help write goals for them to reach, can come.
My son does different things for his teacher than he does for me at home. And also for his other therapists, so they all have valuable input for his future educational goals.
Hope I've helped and good luck. :D Not easy, but you are the advocate...
Mossflower
01-10-2008, 07:40 AM
Hi there
OK the invitation is just a confirmation saying that you will either attend the meeting or not attend. It tells the school whether ot not to assemble the team, get coverage for people and have things ready to go on that date. This IEP invite is simply asking if you really want the therapists at th meeting or not. Do NOT panic :) If you would like the therapists to be present, simply check 'do not agree'. I might even highlight it to be sure it gets noticed.
How an IEP works is, in advance of the meeting, the teacher surveys
the child's teachers and compiles their information into the report. This includes the therapists and an observation from guidance. They may also call the parents in advance to hear their concerns and get their input. They then draft/ write the report and hold the meeting. Generally its good to have the therapists at the meeting because they may answer questions that the teacher can't, even though their information is already in the report.
You are entitled to bring anyone you would like to the meeting. It is a courtesy to inform the school and tell them who you are bringing (mainly to make certain they have enough seats in the meeting room and so the teacher doesn't feel blind-sided if you're bringing in another professional, para-professional etc.)
Parents are not required to sign in agreement to the paperwork and the forms if they don't agree. Even if parents do sign the paperwork, if they change their minds, they can request that the team be reconvened to review the IEP if you think some changes need to be made in the future (IEP review). The team may or may not agree with the proposed changes, but the point of doing a review of the IEP is to reach that determination. The input of six other professionals assists in determining if its a valid request or not. Most parents have reasonable, appropriate requests.
ALSO- with IEPs parents can have ten days to review it, and then sign the agreement part later (NOREP). This generally is the exception and not the rule, though. The reason for assembling a team of professionals is to answer the questions at the meeting so that the paperwork can get signed.
Get in touch with the special ed teacher if you're not already, and keep in touch with her via email or check in via phone every so often.
one more thing- did they do an evaluation on your daughter? An evaluation usually drives the IEPS but I *think* some states may not do this until first grade.
In sum, as this sounds like it is your first IEP meeting, I would request that all of the therapists be in attendance for the meeting. This may require some schedule juggling but don't worry, they'll get it set up :) This will give you peace of mind, answer ALL of your questions, and give you some control over the situation from your end.
If you have the meeting and things just aren't going right or well, or you feel that the school is giving you the run-around (highly unlikely), get in touch with an advocate. If you need help with this, I can give you some links to sites that list advocates. I am not an advocate but I have net friends who use them in their districts across the nation.
Regards,
MF
I need to sign my daughters invitation from her teacher to us her parents to the IEP meeting. However, it says in the letter that the therapists working with my daughter in school don't have to be at this meeting. I can sign i approve of the therapists not coming to the meeting or agree that they don't have to be there.
My question is for those of you with children with autism etc in your childs IEP meeting who comes to it?
I want to get my child potty trained she is 4 years almost and the aide takes her to the bathroom only on break. I want to take her to the potty at home more often and with underwear and shouldnt they follow through at school or am i wrong? My daughter talks but has apraxia so it is hard for her to get all her sounds out. I want to try at home to potty train her and try to get her speech moving along as well. Shouldn't everyone involved be at her meeting so we are all on the same page or am i wrong?
Please someone help i need to know what to do before i sign this.
OK the invitation is just a confirmation saying that you will either attend the meeting or not attend. It tells the school whether ot not to assemble the team, get coverage for people and have things ready to go on that date. This IEP invite is simply asking if you really want the therapists at th meeting or not. Do NOT panic :) If you would like the therapists to be present, simply check 'do not agree'. I might even highlight it to be sure it gets noticed.
How an IEP works is, in advance of the meeting, the teacher surveys
the child's teachers and compiles their information into the report. This includes the therapists and an observation from guidance. They may also call the parents in advance to hear their concerns and get their input. They then draft/ write the report and hold the meeting. Generally its good to have the therapists at the meeting because they may answer questions that the teacher can't, even though their information is already in the report.
You are entitled to bring anyone you would like to the meeting. It is a courtesy to inform the school and tell them who you are bringing (mainly to make certain they have enough seats in the meeting room and so the teacher doesn't feel blind-sided if you're bringing in another professional, para-professional etc.)
Parents are not required to sign in agreement to the paperwork and the forms if they don't agree. Even if parents do sign the paperwork, if they change their minds, they can request that the team be reconvened to review the IEP if you think some changes need to be made in the future (IEP review). The team may or may not agree with the proposed changes, but the point of doing a review of the IEP is to reach that determination. The input of six other professionals assists in determining if its a valid request or not. Most parents have reasonable, appropriate requests.
ALSO- with IEPs parents can have ten days to review it, and then sign the agreement part later (NOREP). This generally is the exception and not the rule, though. The reason for assembling a team of professionals is to answer the questions at the meeting so that the paperwork can get signed.
Get in touch with the special ed teacher if you're not already, and keep in touch with her via email or check in via phone every so often.
one more thing- did they do an evaluation on your daughter? An evaluation usually drives the IEPS but I *think* some states may not do this until first grade.
In sum, as this sounds like it is your first IEP meeting, I would request that all of the therapists be in attendance for the meeting. This may require some schedule juggling but don't worry, they'll get it set up :) This will give you peace of mind, answer ALL of your questions, and give you some control over the situation from your end.
If you have the meeting and things just aren't going right or well, or you feel that the school is giving you the run-around (highly unlikely), get in touch with an advocate. If you need help with this, I can give you some links to sites that list advocates. I am not an advocate but I have net friends who use them in their districts across the nation.
Regards,
MF
I need to sign my daughters invitation from her teacher to us her parents to the IEP meeting. However, it says in the letter that the therapists working with my daughter in school don't have to be at this meeting. I can sign i approve of the therapists not coming to the meeting or agree that they don't have to be there.
My question is for those of you with children with autism etc in your childs IEP meeting who comes to it?
I want to get my child potty trained she is 4 years almost and the aide takes her to the bathroom only on break. I want to take her to the potty at home more often and with underwear and shouldnt they follow through at school or am i wrong? My daughter talks but has apraxia so it is hard for her to get all her sounds out. I want to try at home to potty train her and try to get her speech moving along as well. Shouldn't everyone involved be at her meeting so we are all on the same page or am i wrong?
Please someone help i need to know what to do before i sign this.
Monkey7935
01-11-2008, 03:07 AM
I agree with what the others all said. I have Asperger's myself. I had speach trouble while young too. Dad taught me how to do sign language. Perhaps for going to bathroom have a sign your child can do to an adult to say I need to go to bathroom. Just a thought is all. It makes the communication easier if you can find a way to communicate in both worlds. In my case, I talk and signed. I still slur some words now. Cant say water, bottled, etc... those darn t's!
hev11
01-11-2008, 12:58 PM
hi as far as i no u can invite who ever u like. i mean its your childs future and if u think someone should be there than its up to you.as for potty trainin the school should be following the routine that is best for you and your child.
MOM23ANGELS
01-11-2008, 02:08 PM
if you have specific questions to ask the therapists, then i would suggest asking for them to be present. i agree with recording the meeting. you would be surprised at how quickly people deny saying certain things at a meeting and with a recorder running you will protect your childs rights. i have had a few unfortunate experiences at meeting, as far as placement, and when i received the IEP in the mail i couldn't believe that i was in attendance at that same meeting. i will now always bring a recorder to any future meeting (although, i now have an attorney working for me). you do, however, have to inform the Board of Ed (via a letter) that you will be recording the meeting. also, i see no point in having a parent member there. i always excuse these individuals from my meetings. they are of no use but to be nosey. never makes any sense to me. if they do open their mouths, they will just back up what the board suggests. (not always the best for your child) they are not specialists.
good luck and be strong. you are an equal participant in the IEP meeting and have just as much say as anyone else in that room. be prepared to ask for exactly what your child needs. the school looks out for budget, not necessarily what's appropriate for your child (unfortunately)
good luck and be strong. you are an equal participant in the IEP meeting and have just as much say as anyone else in that room. be prepared to ask for exactly what your child needs. the school looks out for budget, not necessarily what's appropriate for your child (unfortunately)
tinymom05
01-12-2008, 01:32 PM
the meeting went well and no this wasnt our first meeting.
As far as potty training my daughter only does a few signs. She uses pecs but has apraxia and says what she wants but cant get all the sounds out. At home she will say potty afteri say potty for going, but i cant catch the times she will go and most often she will just go pee in her underwear and tantrum when i try to take her at times.
As far as potty training my daughter only does a few signs. She uses pecs but has apraxia and says what she wants but cant get all the sounds out. At home she will say potty afteri say potty for going, but i cant catch the times she will go and most often she will just go pee in her underwear and tantrum when i try to take her at times.
lisaontheloose
01-12-2008, 08:05 PM
If this is how you feel about it, then you should definitely tell them that you want all the therapists there at the IEP meeting. Is this your first meeting? You can have them put a bathroom schedule for your child under the modifications/accomodatins part of the IEP. And you are completely right it is better if everyone is on the same page.
Lisa
Lisa
tinymom05
01-12-2008, 09:06 PM
[QUOTE=tinymom05;3387175]the meeting went well and no this wasnt our first meeting.
As far as potty training my daughter only does a few signs. She uses pecs but has apraxia and says what she wants but cant get all the sounds out. At home she will say potty afteri say potty for going, but i cant catch the times she will go and most often she will just go pee in her underwear and tantrum when i try to take her at times.[/QUOTE
No this wasnt our first meeting
As far as potty training my daughter only does a few signs. She uses pecs but has apraxia and says what she wants but cant get all the sounds out. At home she will say potty afteri say potty for going, but i cant catch the times she will go and most often she will just go pee in her underwear and tantrum when i try to take her at times.[/QUOTE
No this wasnt our first meeting
Mossflower
01-18-2008, 10:59 PM
Glad to hear the meeting went well! Thats always a relief. In my district, we have legal representatives who represent the district. Most of the parents are poor and can't afford attorneys; the advocates in this area are very well-versed and know the law inside and out. They do an excellent job of speaking up for the rights of the kids so please don't be dissuaded from using them as resources if need be. Sometimes parents bring recorders, but more often than not, the teachers have the recorders on the table. They are there as an option, not mandated and are seldom used. I guess the teachers & the district, too, have been burned.
Its unfortunate that people on both sides of the table can be unreliable & difficult, but I'm glad things seem to have worked out for you and your daughter at this most recent meeting :)
Just remember to keep in touch and that thr squeaky wheel gets the oil :)
I won't be back to this board anymore, time to move on, so good luck for a wonderful future with your darling little girl :)
I need to sign my daughters invitation from her teacher to us her parents to the IEP meeting. However, it says in the letter that the therapists working with my daughter in school don't have to be at this meeting. I can sign i approve of the therapists not coming to the meeting or agree that they don't have to be there.
My question is for those of you with children with autism etc in your childs IEP meeting who comes to it?
I want to get my child potty trained she is 4 years almost and the aide takes her to the bathroom only on break. I want to take her to the potty at home more often and with underwear and shouldnt they follow through at school or am i wrong? My daughter talks but has apraxia so it is hard for her to get all her sounds out. I want to try at home to potty train her and try to get her speech moving along as well. Shouldn't everyone involved be at her meeting so we are all on the same page or am i wrong?
Please someone help i need to know what to do before i sign this.
Its unfortunate that people on both sides of the table can be unreliable & difficult, but I'm glad things seem to have worked out for you and your daughter at this most recent meeting :)
Just remember to keep in touch and that thr squeaky wheel gets the oil :)
I won't be back to this board anymore, time to move on, so good luck for a wonderful future with your darling little girl :)
I need to sign my daughters invitation from her teacher to us her parents to the IEP meeting. However, it says in the letter that the therapists working with my daughter in school don't have to be at this meeting. I can sign i approve of the therapists not coming to the meeting or agree that they don't have to be there.
My question is for those of you with children with autism etc in your childs IEP meeting who comes to it?
I want to get my child potty trained she is 4 years almost and the aide takes her to the bathroom only on break. I want to take her to the potty at home more often and with underwear and shouldnt they follow through at school or am i wrong? My daughter talks but has apraxia so it is hard for her to get all her sounds out. I want to try at home to potty train her and try to get her speech moving along as well. Shouldn't everyone involved be at her meeting so we are all on the same page or am i wrong?
Please someone help i need to know what to do before i sign this.