I wish the hot flashes would disappear after a year...I remember my best friend would fan herself for a minute and indicate she was having a hot flash. Well, I wish that was all I experienced. It is like a bucket of water being thrown at me. My face and neck gets all red. My neck itches. I have sweat that runs down my face. It is just lovely. People looking at me have their eyes bulge when they see what I am going through. I can't hide it so I just simply say I am having a little hot flash. Ugh. I have to sleep on a towel at night because I sweat so much. I dont wear solid color shirts in case I start sweating. I do have to admit the last month it hasn't been too bad but I did go through an easier time about a year ago and then the sweats returned. I am in my third year. I won't take anything as I have heard it only delays the symptoms, my mom had breast cancer and I am not active enough to prevent blood clots so I just grunt how easy men have it and carry on.