sassy8
01-10-2008, 02:10 PM
:eek::eek:I'm probably just a wimp, but I don't like going to doctors. This one in particular. He's bearly 5 feet tall, but makes me feel like I'm only 3 feet tall. Some of how I feel is my own low self esteem. I see him Jan 17. He always makes some stupid comment about my weight. I've now lost 55 lbs since 2004 and still losing. Am I making something out of nothing. After all he did finally dx me with ms. Shouldn't I be grateful that I finally got an answer.:(
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MSJayhawk
01-10-2008, 02:33 PM
You are too hard on yourself and too hard on him. You are making great strides and should count your blessings.
Bearygood
01-10-2008, 04:46 PM
sassy, DON'T LET HIM GET TO YOU!!! If you can't shrug it off, two other ideas would be to go in and say "Hey, I've lost another 'x' pounds!" with a big smile on your face before he makes a comment or just confront him when/if he says something -- take a deep breath and let him that he makes you feel awful when he makes those types of remarks. I agree that you should be proud of what you've accomplished and positive feedback is a much better reinforcement! Doesn't sound like he has the best bedside manner in general but sometimes it's a matter of getting into a rhythm with your doctor. If he's not put on some type of alert this behavior might continue but it really might be as simple as him not being aware of how he's making you feel.
Let us know and good luck!
Let us know and good luck!
Tasia W
01-10-2008, 06:13 PM
sassy,
Like Bearygood says "Don't let him get to you". I used to be afraid of doctors but have wised up real fast. They are people just like you and me. You have lost weight, sounds like you are still loosing weight. Seems to me that you are accomplishing a goal here. One to be proud of!! Thats all that matters. You take care
T
Like Bearygood says "Don't let him get to you". I used to be afraid of doctors but have wised up real fast. They are people just like you and me. You have lost weight, sounds like you are still loosing weight. Seems to me that you are accomplishing a goal here. One to be proud of!! Thats all that matters. You take care
T
sassy8
01-11-2008, 02:10 PM
thanks for the replies and support. I'm just so nervous. I had another ms attack around christmas because of stress I lost two very dear friends. One to cancer and one to stroke. My sons and husband gave me alot of support through it all. my cat makes me feel happy when she cuddles next to me. Animals are so wonderful. God sure knew what he was doing when he made them. Now if I can just get through this appointment.:blob_fire
jlbrow7
01-11-2008, 04:41 PM
Sassy,
If you are under this much stress at the thought of an appointment you might consider changing docs. If you don't want to go elsewhere, maybe you can find another good doc in the same medical office.
Just a thought. Take care of yourself!
If you are under this much stress at the thought of an appointment you might consider changing docs. If you don't want to go elsewhere, maybe you can find another good doc in the same medical office.
Just a thought. Take care of yourself!
cyprian1
01-11-2008, 09:25 PM
:eek::eek:I'm probably just a wimp, but I don't like going to doctors. This one in particular. He's bearly 5 feet tall, but makes me feel like I'm only 3 feet tall. Some of how I feel is my own low self esteem. I see him Jan 17. He always makes some stupid comment about my weight. I've now lost 55 lbs since 2004 and still losing. Am I making something out of nothing. After all he did finally dx me with ms. Shouldn't I be grateful that I finally got an answer.:(
wow - sounded like my internist in florida .. he wanted me to quit smoking, told me i have COPD, and i don't , then while iwas quiting i put on 6 ilbs in a month and he basically called me fat .. i burst into tears and he sent his nurse in, and i said i can't believe he said that, it was his idea to attempt quitting smoking and now he is telling me i am gaining too much eight .. well, he came in with an attitude adjustment and even apologized .. need i tell you the rest ?
i found a nice female internist that understood my situation and she was great .. i did not have to explain any of my actions, her concern was with how i was feeling or doing .. she dicovered the GERD , she discovered the thyroid problem and she believed in me .. it makes a whole difference when the doc is on the same page ..
so glad you got your question answered , sorry you had to deal with a grouch ...
wow - sounded like my internist in florida .. he wanted me to quit smoking, told me i have COPD, and i don't , then while iwas quiting i put on 6 ilbs in a month and he basically called me fat .. i burst into tears and he sent his nurse in, and i said i can't believe he said that, it was his idea to attempt quitting smoking and now he is telling me i am gaining too much eight .. well, he came in with an attitude adjustment and even apologized .. need i tell you the rest ?
i found a nice female internist that understood my situation and she was great .. i did not have to explain any of my actions, her concern was with how i was feeling or doing .. she dicovered the GERD , she discovered the thyroid problem and she believed in me .. it makes a whole difference when the doc is on the same page ..
so glad you got your question answered , sorry you had to deal with a grouch ...
Sue56
01-11-2008, 09:34 PM
I guess I would actually tell him how I'm feeling (in other words speak up and let him know that his comments about my weight and all else are not appreciated). I would appreciate him noticing that weight I've lost and encouraging me.
All the best to you and know that we are with you!
Sue
All the best to you and know that we are with you!
Sue