MSNik
01-15-2008, 03:09 PM
To anyone who is interested....didnt make it to the interview. Sitting here crying my eyes out over the lost opportunity. I know, its JUST A JOB, but after so many years of working for what may only be described as the worlds WORST boss, in what is one of the greatest jobs possible, the idea of having both the job and the company (boss) was too good to miss....and I missed it.
I called them and explained the situtaion, they were very understanding but still insisted that today was the only day of interviews as the company is in another state, and they were only having the interviews in my territory today- they basically said if I couldnt make it, there wouldnt be another opportunity unless this person they hire quits or doesnt work out....but if that happens they would keep me on file for one year.
Big deal. Im angry at myself for not being able to get thru the pain...im angry at my doctor for not fitting me in until Thursday to talk about why Im still in so much pain...Im angry at MS for making the pain worse then it was supposed to be. (and im angry at my husband who is angry at me for not "trying harder").
Thanks for letting me vent.
I really needed to let that go...if only it were that easy.
Hope all of you are having good days..
Nikki
I called them and explained the situtaion, they were very understanding but still insisted that today was the only day of interviews as the company is in another state, and they were only having the interviews in my territory today- they basically said if I couldnt make it, there wouldnt be another opportunity unless this person they hire quits or doesnt work out....but if that happens they would keep me on file for one year.
Big deal. Im angry at myself for not being able to get thru the pain...im angry at my doctor for not fitting me in until Thursday to talk about why Im still in so much pain...Im angry at MS for making the pain worse then it was supposed to be. (and im angry at my husband who is angry at me for not "trying harder").
Thanks for letting me vent.
I really needed to let that go...if only it were that easy.
Hope all of you are having good days..
Nikki
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sassy8
01-15-2008, 03:17 PM
:)I'm sorry about your big disappointment. I would be as angry as you are. There will be other jobs that will be good. You just had surgery it takes time to heal. Take care of yourself this truly sucks. hugs and prayers Sassy
duttin
01-15-2008, 03:36 PM
Nikki,
Now You Made Me Cry,i Am So Sorry That You Didn't Make The Interveiw,you Thought It Was A Possibility.it Was A Shame Under The Circumstances That They Couldn't Do A Phone Interveiw.
I Know You Have The Worlds Worst And Crappy Boss,but Sweetie This May Have Happened For Reasons Out Of Your Control A Higher Force.
My X Was Turned Down For A Job Years Back In Missouri,he Was Devastated,but If He Would Of Gotten The Job,that Summer It Flooded And Many In That Area Didn't Make It.
Sometimes Things Aren't Meant To Be And We Get Upset.
You Will Find That Right Job,when The Time Is Right.
I Wish I Could Take Some Of The Pain Away,its Not Fair When We Get The Double Wammy,surgery And The Extra Hightened Pain.
Don't You Get Angry With Yourself Because Of The Pain And Not Fighting It Harder,your A Very Strong Person,with Surgery And When They Use Them Scapals We Are Gonna Be Left With Pain.its Not Been A Week,you Were In Surgery For 6 Hours,you Need To Take Time To Let Those Wounds Heal.
Now For Hubby,he Needs To Build A Bridge And Get Over This.how Dare He Get Angry With You Over The Pain.thats Not Fair,he's Not Playing Fair.
Now You Don't Want Me To Cheer Ya Up,i'd Have To Sing To You And That Won't Be A Pretty Sight And It Wouldn't Help Your Pain Level.
You Vent All You Need.
We All Get Mad At The Ms,thats Okay We Can!!!!!!!!!!
T
Now You Made Me Cry,i Am So Sorry That You Didn't Make The Interveiw,you Thought It Was A Possibility.it Was A Shame Under The Circumstances That They Couldn't Do A Phone Interveiw.
I Know You Have The Worlds Worst And Crappy Boss,but Sweetie This May Have Happened For Reasons Out Of Your Control A Higher Force.
My X Was Turned Down For A Job Years Back In Missouri,he Was Devastated,but If He Would Of Gotten The Job,that Summer It Flooded And Many In That Area Didn't Make It.
Sometimes Things Aren't Meant To Be And We Get Upset.
You Will Find That Right Job,when The Time Is Right.
I Wish I Could Take Some Of The Pain Away,its Not Fair When We Get The Double Wammy,surgery And The Extra Hightened Pain.
Don't You Get Angry With Yourself Because Of The Pain And Not Fighting It Harder,your A Very Strong Person,with Surgery And When They Use Them Scapals We Are Gonna Be Left With Pain.its Not Been A Week,you Were In Surgery For 6 Hours,you Need To Take Time To Let Those Wounds Heal.
Now For Hubby,he Needs To Build A Bridge And Get Over This.how Dare He Get Angry With You Over The Pain.thats Not Fair,he's Not Playing Fair.
Now You Don't Want Me To Cheer Ya Up,i'd Have To Sing To You And That Won't Be A Pretty Sight And It Wouldn't Help Your Pain Level.
You Vent All You Need.
We All Get Mad At The Ms,thats Okay We Can!!!!!!!!!!
T
MSNik
01-15-2008, 04:47 PM
Hey Toni, did you ever hear the expression sister of the heart? You are, you know. Thank you. I needed to hear this from you right now....I really did. Im still very upset with myself, my surgery and my husband....you know the list is endless today. But, youre probably right about other jobs and opportunities and the reasons why things do or dont work out. This was my "dream' job, but in all honesty, im making more money at the one I have- and the only real perk I have is that I can pretty much set my own hours and come home early when things are MSey for me...that, and I can see Doctors when I have to, basically without clearing it with anyone, since most of my doctors are within my designated territory and no one knows exactly where I am anyway....I guess if I focus on that, my job isnt so horrible and things DO happen for a reason...
Husband, is tired of me complaining, tired of NOT working himeslf, he is laid off still and will be for some more time- I think its all adding up...but mostly he is confused not understanding how MS can affect us differently....he keeps saying "the doctor said you should be back at work" or "The doctor said youd feel better in 3 days", but he doesnt get it that that doctor ISNT my neuro- he's my surgeon (GYN) who just doesnt totally get the whole MS thing to begin with....
Okay, I think IM done venting..
thank you my friend for being there...needed to hear those words.
Hope you are feeling good today and that you arent freezing to death..its really cold today around here and we didnt get the snow they had anticipated last weekend..instead, we got the cold, damp, rain!
Hugs
N
Husband, is tired of me complaining, tired of NOT working himeslf, he is laid off still and will be for some more time- I think its all adding up...but mostly he is confused not understanding how MS can affect us differently....he keeps saying "the doctor said you should be back at work" or "The doctor said youd feel better in 3 days", but he doesnt get it that that doctor ISNT my neuro- he's my surgeon (GYN) who just doesnt totally get the whole MS thing to begin with....
Okay, I think IM done venting..
thank you my friend for being there...needed to hear those words.
Hope you are feeling good today and that you arent freezing to death..its really cold today around here and we didnt get the snow they had anticipated last weekend..instead, we got the cold, damp, rain!
Hugs
N
Bearygood
01-15-2008, 05:25 PM
Nikki, I'm betting that the other call you got is going to wind up being a better opportunity.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it. :D
That's my story and I'm sticking to it. :D
duttin
01-15-2008, 05:28 PM
Nikki,
Sweetie,if Someone Doesn't Experience Ms Then They Don't Understand.
With Your Experience Of Pain With Your Surgery ,it Scares Me To Death When I Have To Have My Back Surgery.
When I Have This Done I Have Decided To Go To The Cleveland Clinic And Stay 30 Days In A Rehabilitation Facility There.it'll Be Easier On My Children And I Can Be Monitored Properly For The Pain And The Ms.
The Only Reason I'm Having It Done Is Because Of The Spinal Fluid Leaking Into The Thecal Sac.it Looks Like A Balloon On The Mri.if That Ruptures I'm In Big Trouble.
All Will Be Fine,i Promise.
Sometimes We Look At Things Being Greener On The Other Side And In All Reality It May Not Be.
The Right Oppurtunity Will Come Along.
You Need To Concentrate On Getting Better.its Easier For A Dr To Say You'll Be Back To Work In A Few Days,lets Do Surgery On Them For 6 Hours And See How Long Its Gonna Take Them To Heal.
Try To Quit Stressing Or Your Gonna Be In A Major Flair And Theres Nothing Your Neuro Can Do For It As Steroids Will Prolong Your Healing.
Put In Agood Movie,get A Nice Blanket At Curl Up And Relax.
Yea Its Cold Here,but I Have The 2 Fireplaces So It Keeps It Pretty Toasty In Here.when I'm Home Alone I Turn The Blowers Off , I Enjoy The Cooler Temps.we Got A Little Snow,kids Had A 2 Hour Delay For School Today.
I'm Doing Okay,if I Could Get The Eyes Straightened Out.only Time Will Tell,just Avoiding The Stress On Them And Try Not To Get Overheated.
Sending Ya Gentle Hugs
T
Sweetie,if Someone Doesn't Experience Ms Then They Don't Understand.
With Your Experience Of Pain With Your Surgery ,it Scares Me To Death When I Have To Have My Back Surgery.
When I Have This Done I Have Decided To Go To The Cleveland Clinic And Stay 30 Days In A Rehabilitation Facility There.it'll Be Easier On My Children And I Can Be Monitored Properly For The Pain And The Ms.
The Only Reason I'm Having It Done Is Because Of The Spinal Fluid Leaking Into The Thecal Sac.it Looks Like A Balloon On The Mri.if That Ruptures I'm In Big Trouble.
All Will Be Fine,i Promise.
Sometimes We Look At Things Being Greener On The Other Side And In All Reality It May Not Be.
The Right Oppurtunity Will Come Along.
You Need To Concentrate On Getting Better.its Easier For A Dr To Say You'll Be Back To Work In A Few Days,lets Do Surgery On Them For 6 Hours And See How Long Its Gonna Take Them To Heal.
Try To Quit Stressing Or Your Gonna Be In A Major Flair And Theres Nothing Your Neuro Can Do For It As Steroids Will Prolong Your Healing.
Put In Agood Movie,get A Nice Blanket At Curl Up And Relax.
Yea Its Cold Here,but I Have The 2 Fireplaces So It Keeps It Pretty Toasty In Here.when I'm Home Alone I Turn The Blowers Off , I Enjoy The Cooler Temps.we Got A Little Snow,kids Had A 2 Hour Delay For School Today.
I'm Doing Okay,if I Could Get The Eyes Straightened Out.only Time Will Tell,just Avoiding The Stress On Them And Try Not To Get Overheated.
Sending Ya Gentle Hugs
T
MSNik
01-15-2008, 06:39 PM
Hugs back to you...lets get me well so that I can concentrate on worrying about you, ok? Your surgery is going to be difficult, but IM glad to hear you are going where you can honestly be taken care of and where they will monitor you 24-7. That is reassuring. Im so sorry you have to go thru this. You dont deserve more of this..
Get the eyes straightened out! I need you on here!
Sending hugs back and headed back to bed..
nikki
Get the eyes straightened out! I need you on here!
Sending hugs back and headed back to bed..
nikki
MSJayhawk
01-15-2008, 07:02 PM
Jobs come and go, but your health is more important. There will be other opportunities, I believe, so count your immediate blessings and mend in peace.
MSNik
01-15-2008, 08:01 PM
Thanks Jayhawk. Its good advice, and I will do my best to count each of them tonight...
Nikki
Nikki
cindys601
01-16-2008, 12:32 AM
Nikki~
I thought of you today, knowing you were contemplating making it to the interview. Knowing the shape you have been in, I was sure it would have been too much for you to make this one. But I thought, She's a tough cookie and so worried about her financial situation, she'll probobly do it!! But ya know what? That was expecting too much of yourself at this point.
I know your disappointed that you couln't go, but in my opinion, you did the right thing for yourself!! Recouping your strength was so much more important. Just imagine if you had gone, what it would have been like for you. Theres nothing worse than having to "fake" a smile when you feel like crap. I know that all too well these days and it takes so much energy to do that.
One thing I have learned to do in life is when I lose something that I really want (and believe me, it's happened quite a bit) I tell myself that everything definately happens for a reason and just let it go. I used to spend so much time and energy with the "what Ifs" but they are such a waste of time. This interview didn't happen for a reason because you have another destination heading your way, with better opportunities and in the end, you'll look back and say to yourself "i'm so glad I was not well enough to make that interview because I never would be where I am today" Chin up, Nikki!!
As far as your hubby goes, don't try to get better quickly because you have to. It only slows down the process. I just recently went through that myself, after that horrible lp and I wasn't well enough to get back up before I did, but I knew he needed to get back to his job and stop doing mine so I jumped back in full force before I was ready and it was a big mistake. remember, your surgery was supposed to be a couple hours and back to work in a few days, But the surgery turned out to be 6 hours so your recoup time is extended as well.
I know all of this is miserable for you but don't feel bad or guilty about anything. Just go with the flow and take it as it comes. Maybe you can get back to work a few hours a day to start with until your feeling up to par. If your boss is in a hurry to see you back, then maybe you can work with that.
Get some rest!! Call an old friend. That always helps me... but be good to yourself and know I'm wishing you a speedy recovery!!
Cindy
I thought of you today, knowing you were contemplating making it to the interview. Knowing the shape you have been in, I was sure it would have been too much for you to make this one. But I thought, She's a tough cookie and so worried about her financial situation, she'll probobly do it!! But ya know what? That was expecting too much of yourself at this point.
I know your disappointed that you couln't go, but in my opinion, you did the right thing for yourself!! Recouping your strength was so much more important. Just imagine if you had gone, what it would have been like for you. Theres nothing worse than having to "fake" a smile when you feel like crap. I know that all too well these days and it takes so much energy to do that.
One thing I have learned to do in life is when I lose something that I really want (and believe me, it's happened quite a bit) I tell myself that everything definately happens for a reason and just let it go. I used to spend so much time and energy with the "what Ifs" but they are such a waste of time. This interview didn't happen for a reason because you have another destination heading your way, with better opportunities and in the end, you'll look back and say to yourself "i'm so glad I was not well enough to make that interview because I never would be where I am today" Chin up, Nikki!!
As far as your hubby goes, don't try to get better quickly because you have to. It only slows down the process. I just recently went through that myself, after that horrible lp and I wasn't well enough to get back up before I did, but I knew he needed to get back to his job and stop doing mine so I jumped back in full force before I was ready and it was a big mistake. remember, your surgery was supposed to be a couple hours and back to work in a few days, But the surgery turned out to be 6 hours so your recoup time is extended as well.
I know all of this is miserable for you but don't feel bad or guilty about anything. Just go with the flow and take it as it comes. Maybe you can get back to work a few hours a day to start with until your feeling up to par. If your boss is in a hurry to see you back, then maybe you can work with that.
Get some rest!! Call an old friend. That always helps me... but be good to yourself and know I'm wishing you a speedy recovery!!
Cindy
glamour girl
01-16-2008, 06:42 AM
Awww Nikki
Its a shame you didn't get the chance. Maybe the next one huh??
You need time to recuperate. No need to put on the fake face and smile for the interview. Don't forget instead of 3 hr surgery it took 6 hrs.. that sounds like a lot of healing honey.
(((So now you sit back and relax toots..)) That's what we say here..
As for dear hubby. Its a shame he cant experience the pain you go through, maybe he'd support more of what you say then the doctors..
Wish we could give you hugs and bring you bright flowers to brighten your days..
Sending you angels..:angel: :angel: :angel:
Its a shame you didn't get the chance. Maybe the next one huh??
You need time to recuperate. No need to put on the fake face and smile for the interview. Don't forget instead of 3 hr surgery it took 6 hrs.. that sounds like a lot of healing honey.
(((So now you sit back and relax toots..)) That's what we say here..
As for dear hubby. Its a shame he cant experience the pain you go through, maybe he'd support more of what you say then the doctors..
Wish we could give you hugs and bring you bright flowers to brighten your days..
Sending you angels..:angel: :angel: :angel:
MSNik
01-16-2008, 10:24 AM
Thanks GG. Appreciate your concern and your words....hows things down under? Still having fun in the sun? How much longer is summer there??
Its freaking FREEZING here this week, with the highs being only in the 20s and the wind chill making it more like 0....Im happy to be inside.
Husbands, how many times have we mentioned them over the months? This month, you can have mine---- but hes useless. I really had hoped for more out of him...vaccuming and doing laundry can only go so far. Id like one day or hour of TLC to get thru this whole ordeal! But you know I do get the support I need here...thank you.
Big hugs and happy days to you.
Nikki
Its freaking FREEZING here this week, with the highs being only in the 20s and the wind chill making it more like 0....Im happy to be inside.
Husbands, how many times have we mentioned them over the months? This month, you can have mine---- but hes useless. I really had hoped for more out of him...vaccuming and doing laundry can only go so far. Id like one day or hour of TLC to get thru this whole ordeal! But you know I do get the support I need here...thank you.
Big hugs and happy days to you.
Nikki
murph15402
01-16-2008, 12:31 PM
Hey Nikki -
You take care of YOU, and we'll take care of being angry at your hubby!!!! I can't believe he's being such a jerk! i'm sorry! you deserve so much better than that!!
I'm sorry you didn't make it to the interview, but obviously it was meant to be. If they couldn't work with you on the interview, given the circumstances, it doesn't really sound like the perfect company anyway!!
Take care of yourself!!!
Erin
You take care of YOU, and we'll take care of being angry at your hubby!!!! I can't believe he's being such a jerk! i'm sorry! you deserve so much better than that!!
I'm sorry you didn't make it to the interview, but obviously it was meant to be. If they couldn't work with you on the interview, given the circumstances, it doesn't really sound like the perfect company anyway!!
Take care of yourself!!!
Erin
kimpossible67
01-16-2008, 01:10 PM
Awww Nikki, that stinks! Here is a hug ((((((((((Nikki)))))))))))). I had a situation similiar to yours back a few years ago. I had scope knee surgery and I didn't recover like I was supposed to. My knee atrophied (froze straight, would not bend) and I was supposed to start my special needs career but I had to jump out of the back of the bus, heck, I couldn't even walk flat on my foot! So, I had to wait another 2 months til I was able, I had to go to pt 3 days a week. Looking back, I truly think I had MS at the time and like you, it kicked it up. I was in horrible pain, so I understand. Long story short, I got another chance at the job, just as you will, it may not be this one but like my Mom is fond of saying "if it's meant to be, it'll happen." I so hope your having an improved day, even if that just means accomplishing something small like brushing your teeth.
To anyone who is interested....didnt make it to the interview. Sitting here crying my eyes out over the lost opportunity. I know, its JUST A JOB, but after so many years of working for what may only be described as the worlds WORST boss, in what is one of the greatest jobs possible, the idea of having both the job and the company (boss) was too good to miss....and I missed it.
I called them and explained the situtaion, they were very understanding but still insisted that today was the only day of interviews as the company is in another state, and they were only having the interviews in my territory today- they basically said if I couldnt make it, there wouldnt be another opportunity unless this person they hire quits or doesnt work out....but if that happens they would keep me on file for one year.
Big deal. Im angry at myself for not being able to get thru the pain...im angry at my doctor for not fitting me in until Thursday to talk about why Im still in so much pain...Im angry at MS for making the pain worse then it was supposed to be. (and im angry at my husband who is angry at me for not "trying harder").
Thanks for letting me vent.
I really needed to let that go...if only it were that easy.
Hope all of you are having good days..
Nikki
To anyone who is interested....didnt make it to the interview. Sitting here crying my eyes out over the lost opportunity. I know, its JUST A JOB, but after so many years of working for what may only be described as the worlds WORST boss, in what is one of the greatest jobs possible, the idea of having both the job and the company (boss) was too good to miss....and I missed it.
I called them and explained the situtaion, they were very understanding but still insisted that today was the only day of interviews as the company is in another state, and they were only having the interviews in my territory today- they basically said if I couldnt make it, there wouldnt be another opportunity unless this person they hire quits or doesnt work out....but if that happens they would keep me on file for one year.
Big deal. Im angry at myself for not being able to get thru the pain...im angry at my doctor for not fitting me in until Thursday to talk about why Im still in so much pain...Im angry at MS for making the pain worse then it was supposed to be. (and im angry at my husband who is angry at me for not "trying harder").
Thanks for letting me vent.
I really needed to let that go...if only it were that easy.
Hope all of you are having good days..
Nikki
MSNik
01-16-2008, 01:34 PM
Thanks for sharing that with me, Kim...youre right, and I know everything happens for a reason...in fact, my current boss is calling me, worried about me, and even offered me extra days off if I cant make it in by Monday as planned, so he's got me all confused....jerk one day and mr. nice guy while Im out?? I know- hes handling too much of my work and NEEDS me. lol. But, maybe hell appreciate me more when I get back to work...goodness knows, I need to make this job work until that something else happens!
Feeling alittle better today, less pain..last night I had the headache from Heck...I cried it hurt so bad...my doctor said that its probably the anesthesia causing it, and not to worry....worry isnt on my list of things to do, but the pain is pretty intense...it only went away slightly during the night....I keep hopng tomororow will be the day when i feel better...one can hope, right?
hugs
Nikki
Feeling alittle better today, less pain..last night I had the headache from Heck...I cried it hurt so bad...my doctor said that its probably the anesthesia causing it, and not to worry....worry isnt on my list of things to do, but the pain is pretty intense...it only went away slightly during the night....I keep hopng tomororow will be the day when i feel better...one can hope, right?
hugs
Nikki
Tasia W
01-16-2008, 01:54 PM
Hi Nikki,
i just logged in and I am so sorry about your huge upset! Don't be angry with yourself, you did nothing to provoke any of this including an angry husband. He should be more concerned with your health and well-being then not trying harder to make it to an interview!
Sometimes missed opportunities are blessings in disguise. Something much better for you is on its way, I am certain of that. I wish that your husband was more supportive and understanding. What is it going to take for him to realise your courage and strength.
MS sucks!! I am so sorry that you are having so much pain! You are a strong lady Nikki and you inspire more people than you realize. I hope you are feeling better soon
Much hugs to you
T
i just logged in and I am so sorry about your huge upset! Don't be angry with yourself, you did nothing to provoke any of this including an angry husband. He should be more concerned with your health and well-being then not trying harder to make it to an interview!
Sometimes missed opportunities are blessings in disguise. Something much better for you is on its way, I am certain of that. I wish that your husband was more supportive and understanding. What is it going to take for him to realise your courage and strength.
MS sucks!! I am so sorry that you are having so much pain! You are a strong lady Nikki and you inspire more people than you realize. I hope you are feeling better soon
Much hugs to you
T
MSNik
01-16-2008, 03:48 PM
Hello My friend Tasia..
How have YOU been? Thanks for the kind words....what is it going to take for him- got no idea! I only know that this board is the place I come to get what I need...thank you for being part of that.
I do know that everything happens for a reason, including not going to that job interview....so Im trying to be ok with that..its just tough. I was so excited to finally get an interview with that particular company...Id be trying for so long...but thats the way it goes.
MS does suck sometimes...I see the doctor tomorow, and my neuro next week..I have so many questions this time around about whats happening to my body...im hoping its all just temporary due to the surgery..but ill keep ya posted.
Hugs to you!
N
How have YOU been? Thanks for the kind words....what is it going to take for him- got no idea! I only know that this board is the place I come to get what I need...thank you for being part of that.
I do know that everything happens for a reason, including not going to that job interview....so Im trying to be ok with that..its just tough. I was so excited to finally get an interview with that particular company...Id be trying for so long...but thats the way it goes.
MS does suck sometimes...I see the doctor tomorow, and my neuro next week..I have so many questions this time around about whats happening to my body...im hoping its all just temporary due to the surgery..but ill keep ya posted.
Hugs to you!
N
Tasia W
01-16-2008, 06:31 PM
Hi Nikki,
I may be lacking cooth when I say, I hope the person that they interviewed and hired for the job that you wanted decides not to take it after all. Then they could take your stupendous resume that is currently on file, call you, and then wonder how they ever managed without you!!! Of course this would all take place once you are healed and feeling much better. During this time your hubby will have an epiphany and will become the supportive and understanding person that you so deserve! Sorry.....sometimes I let my imagination get the better of me but it helps.
Good luck with your Dr. appointment tomorrow and your neuro appointment coming up.
As for me, I am hangin in there and taking whatever comes at me.
Take Care Nikki, thinking of you
T
I may be lacking cooth when I say, I hope the person that they interviewed and hired for the job that you wanted decides not to take it after all. Then they could take your stupendous resume that is currently on file, call you, and then wonder how they ever managed without you!!! Of course this would all take place once you are healed and feeling much better. During this time your hubby will have an epiphany and will become the supportive and understanding person that you so deserve! Sorry.....sometimes I let my imagination get the better of me but it helps.
Good luck with your Dr. appointment tomorrow and your neuro appointment coming up.
As for me, I am hangin in there and taking whatever comes at me.
Take Care Nikki, thinking of you
T
MSNik
01-16-2008, 07:53 PM
Tasia-
lacking cooth? NO!! Absoutely the best thing I could hope for...dont think it will happen, but like I said earlier, its nice to hope! Thanks pal...appreciate your support more than you can know.
My husband isnt really the problem here- Im just overwhelemed again with all that is going on and his lack of understanding....as soon as I learn that he isnt going to change, or understand, as soon as I start realizing that I have to depend on ME, and not anyone else to get thru the day to day stuff- and as soon as I realize he is TRYING the only way he knows how- he and I will be fine...Ive got some learning to do too...
Hugs to you...headed to bed.
Nikki
lacking cooth? NO!! Absoutely the best thing I could hope for...dont think it will happen, but like I said earlier, its nice to hope! Thanks pal...appreciate your support more than you can know.
My husband isnt really the problem here- Im just overwhelemed again with all that is going on and his lack of understanding....as soon as I learn that he isnt going to change, or understand, as soon as I start realizing that I have to depend on ME, and not anyone else to get thru the day to day stuff- and as soon as I realize he is TRYING the only way he knows how- he and I will be fine...Ive got some learning to do too...
Hugs to you...headed to bed.
Nikki
cindys601
01-16-2008, 08:34 PM
Hi Nikki~
Just wanted to say I hope your feeling better today. You sound like me, miss independent!! Just depend on youself and you can't be let down. I know that all too well.
Just remember, sometimes we do need a little pampering in life. Especially when were down. Hope hubby does offer a little here and there!!;)~ Cindy
Just wanted to say I hope your feeling better today. You sound like me, miss independent!! Just depend on youself and you can't be let down. I know that all too well.
Just remember, sometimes we do need a little pampering in life. Especially when were down. Hope hubby does offer a little here and there!!;)~ Cindy
MSNik
01-16-2008, 10:21 PM
hey Cindy...yup, we are very much alike. Thats why I identify so strongly with you..husband is trying, in his own way, to show me that he is "taking care of me'...but remember, Im the one with the job and paycheck right now- so hes pushing me to get my butt back to work and feel better faster, faster, faster. Its getting alittle old....his lay off is starting to drive us both nuts and his unemployment is being garnished for his child support so that leaves my paycheck as the only paycheck! Empowering, isnt it? LOL.
I agree with what you said about counting on yourself and no one else, and not getting hurt...thats very true. Sad, but true...
I am feeling better today. Alittle stronger, alittle less pain..but the side effects of the anesthesia are killing me. Bathroom issues (MS?) as well as unbelieveable headaches (MS Or post surgery, im not sure) are my biggest complaints today....tomorrow I get my stitches out and find out exactly what is going on....I look forward to yelling at this doctor for not forewarning me of what to expect! Good thing he likes me;)
Hugs to you.
Nikki
I agree with what you said about counting on yourself and no one else, and not getting hurt...thats very true. Sad, but true...
I am feeling better today. Alittle stronger, alittle less pain..but the side effects of the anesthesia are killing me. Bathroom issues (MS?) as well as unbelieveable headaches (MS Or post surgery, im not sure) are my biggest complaints today....tomorrow I get my stitches out and find out exactly what is going on....I look forward to yelling at this doctor for not forewarning me of what to expect! Good thing he likes me;)
Hugs to you.
Nikki
cindys601
01-16-2008, 11:07 PM
Nikki~
My!! I so relate to what your going through. Many years ago, when my kids were babies, I had sinus surgury. It was horrible!! When I went into recovery, I couldn't get out of bed or drink. I'd start throwing up. All I wanted to do was sleep of the effects of anastisia (sp?) until I fealt better. My ex was there waiting for me so we could go home. I just couldn't, it was horrible. They told me once I could get up and go to the bathroom, I would be able to go home. My ex kept telling me to just get up. I'd try, then spill my guts. I was comepletly miserable!! Finally, knowing he wasn't going to shut up and let me rest until I got myself going, I pushed myself to the bathroom and went home but it took the better part of the day.
Then, it gets better!! I got home and was in pain, so I took the prescribed pain medicine, which made me very sleepy and I went to bed. My ex actually had to nerve to ask me why I needed to take the medicine, instead, he wanted me up to care for our kids. He figured if I didn't take it, I wouldn't be sleepy and he'd be let off the hook.
My situation is definately ENTIRELY differant than yours, of course. Thats why he's now my ex. But the similarity is when all you need is a little compasion and time to heal, and you have someone putting pressure on you to just suck it up and get back to life, it makes you so anxious and never even get the rest you need. If we could be left alone and relax, we'd recover much more quickly.
I then had to get myself to a follow-up appointment with the ENT a few days later, with my babies in tow. I had asked his grandmother to come with me just in case. On the way out of the dr's office, I litteraly passed out on his steps. A horrible experiece Nikki!!
So I do feel your frustration and know exactly where your coming from. If your hubby is unable to understand what your going through, know that I do...so REST!! and try to ralax!! ~ Cindy
My!! I so relate to what your going through. Many years ago, when my kids were babies, I had sinus surgury. It was horrible!! When I went into recovery, I couldn't get out of bed or drink. I'd start throwing up. All I wanted to do was sleep of the effects of anastisia (sp?) until I fealt better. My ex was there waiting for me so we could go home. I just couldn't, it was horrible. They told me once I could get up and go to the bathroom, I would be able to go home. My ex kept telling me to just get up. I'd try, then spill my guts. I was comepletly miserable!! Finally, knowing he wasn't going to shut up and let me rest until I got myself going, I pushed myself to the bathroom and went home but it took the better part of the day.
Then, it gets better!! I got home and was in pain, so I took the prescribed pain medicine, which made me very sleepy and I went to bed. My ex actually had to nerve to ask me why I needed to take the medicine, instead, he wanted me up to care for our kids. He figured if I didn't take it, I wouldn't be sleepy and he'd be let off the hook.
My situation is definately ENTIRELY differant than yours, of course. Thats why he's now my ex. But the similarity is when all you need is a little compasion and time to heal, and you have someone putting pressure on you to just suck it up and get back to life, it makes you so anxious and never even get the rest you need. If we could be left alone and relax, we'd recover much more quickly.
I then had to get myself to a follow-up appointment with the ENT a few days later, with my babies in tow. I had asked his grandmother to come with me just in case. On the way out of the dr's office, I litteraly passed out on his steps. A horrible experiece Nikki!!
So I do feel your frustration and know exactly where your coming from. If your hubby is unable to understand what your going through, know that I do...so REST!! and try to ralax!! ~ Cindy
kimpossible67
01-17-2008, 08:17 AM
Husband often expect us to be strong and it's hard on them when we aren't. It upsets the equilibrium of the household and they don't know what to do. Of course I don't mean all men, just the ones in my experience, lol. If he's trying, thats a good thing. At least he isn't curled up on the carpet in the fetal position, rocking back and forth, right?!
Tasia-
lacking cooth? NO!! Absoutely the best thing I could hope for...dont think it will happen, but like I said earlier, its nice to hope! Thanks pal...appreciate your support more than you can know.
My husband isnt really the problem here- Im just overwhelemed again with all that is going on and his lack of understanding....as soon as I learn that he isnt going to change, or understand, as soon as I start realizing that I have to depend on ME, and not anyone else to get thru the day to day stuff- and as soon as I realize he is TRYING the only way he knows how- he and I will be fine...Ive got some learning to do too...
Hugs to you...headed to bed.
Nikki
Tasia-
lacking cooth? NO!! Absoutely the best thing I could hope for...dont think it will happen, but like I said earlier, its nice to hope! Thanks pal...appreciate your support more than you can know.
My husband isnt really the problem here- Im just overwhelemed again with all that is going on and his lack of understanding....as soon as I learn that he isnt going to change, or understand, as soon as I start realizing that I have to depend on ME, and not anyone else to get thru the day to day stuff- and as soon as I realize he is TRYING the only way he knows how- he and I will be fine...Ive got some learning to do too...
Hugs to you...headed to bed.
Nikki
jlbrow7
01-17-2008, 12:51 PM
;)Being mad at MS is oh so understandable.
Another job will come along that will be great for you (for reasons you don't even think about or know about now).
For the most part your poor husband is getting whacked on this board. Talk to him about it and you'll discover he had his reasons for really wanting you to interview for that job - more money, less stress on you, better future for you . . . He probably was disappointed for the same reasons you were and maybe b/c you talked it up so much?
Give him the benefit of the doubt; he feels horrible that he can't make you better or at least feel better and now this.
Another job will come along that will be great for you (for reasons you don't even think about or know about now).
For the most part your poor husband is getting whacked on this board. Talk to him about it and you'll discover he had his reasons for really wanting you to interview for that job - more money, less stress on you, better future for you . . . He probably was disappointed for the same reasons you were and maybe b/c you talked it up so much?
Give him the benefit of the doubt; he feels horrible that he can't make you better or at least feel better and now this.