I just found out today I have both Type I and II herpes. I don't even know what this means. I just had a baby on Dec 10. I was soo happy and now this. I haven't even been active in 5 months I just don't understand. My heart dropped. I had only been with one person for 3yrs and you just don't know how I feel right now. I have been crying all day. We broke up shortly after I got pregnant and now all I can think about is how do you tell someone you are dating that you have herpes. Am I going to be single forever? Am I overreacting? I just have all of these emotions running through me and I dont know what to do. The doctor didn't talk to me long at all I have soo many questions now. When she asked if I had any then I was so hysterical I couldn't even think straight. I am only 26 yrs old I want to be married someday but how do I find someone who can accept me with this condition, disese I don't even know what to call it. today is not a good day at all

I just found out today I have both Type I and II herpes. I don't even know what this means. I just had a baby on Dec 10. I was soo happy and now this. I haven't even been active in 5 months I just don't understand. My heart dropped. I had only been with one person for 3yrs and you just don't know how I feel right now. I have been crying all day. We broke up shortly after I got pregnant and now all I can think about is how do you tell someone you are dating that you have herpes. Am I going to be single forever? Am I overreacting? I just have all of these emotions running through me and I dont know what to do. The doctor didn't talk to me long at all I have soo many questions now. When she asked if I had any then I was so hysterical I couldn't even think straight. I am only 26 yrs old I want to be married someday but how do I find someone who can accept me with this condition, disese I don't even know what to call it. today is not a good day at all

I know this feels like your whole world has been turned upside down right now, but believe me, It really is not that bad. No you will not be single forever. You would be amazed at the number of people that have our condition. Its not a death sentence and it will not ruin your life. The meds they have to control it work very well. I've had it for over 20 years now and have NEVER had a rejection from a partner (I have been honest with all). Nor have I ever passed it on to a partner. You do need to try to relax a bit, as stress can bring on outbreaks. If you need questions answered I'm sure your doctor will be glad to help or there are lots of folks here that can also help.
Please believe me.... it is not nearly as bleak as it seems.

Thanks so much I didn't get mucch sleep last night mostly because I have a beautiful new born that is a night owl. My mind was racing and I couldn't clear it. reading your post gives me some hope I didn't know about the effects of stress I guess I have a good excuse for a spa day I need some time alone to just relax. I do want to know how is it that you have had it this long and not passed it on to anyone that was my fear when I found this out. Also when is the time to tell a partner obviously before intercourse but when and I just don't see how I could find the words. Also I haven't talked to my ex fiance yet because I am so angry with him I wonder if I should just wait until I am dealing with all of this better. I talked to my best friend and she told me that her brother has had it for almost 5 years I would have never known he is to happiest guy. Today will be better than yesterday

I bet your friend's brother would be more than willing to help you deal with this. The bullentin board is wonderful, but sometimes talking to a real person makes a difference. Why don't take the time to sit down with him, and ask him how he has dealt with it etc. etc.

Your reaction to hearing that you have the virus is very normal. Most of us have gone through the crying, the depression etc. It's an acceptance phase, and for most people passes quickly. The best way to bring yourself out of it is to educate yourself, so that you know what to expect. Read some of the history on the board. I recommend downloading the Herpes Handbook by Terri Warren. It's free, an easy read, and answers a lot of really common questions.

You won't be single forever. 80% of the population has herpes in some form. 25% has genital herpes. You certainly aren't alone in this, and finding someone to accept you will really have nothing to do with the fact that you have herpes, and everything to do with being the person you are.

Incidentally, you said you've only been with one person in 3 years. Keep in mind that you may have had the virus for longer than that - you didn't necessarily get it from him. You can carry the virus for years and never know it.