Hi Ruby! As you mentioned your thread was getting a bit long so I thought I'd just get a new one started for you!

Pass along my birthday wishes to your DD! How cool that she choose Japanese for her B-day dinner! :cool: I also really like the tepan style dining... always a fun and social way to spend a meal!

Don't you worry about whether you'll have the chance to labor again sweetie. I know it's gonna happen for you and one day you'll be posting to tell us all about the birth of baby #3! I'm always praying hard for you friend!

Enjoy your dinner tonite!

Thanks Kari! I really appreciate your kind words and I think it's great that you started a new thread for me!

I hope you're having a nice evening and that you have had no more annoying lupron headaches.

Are you and DH still going on vacation soon? Have you decided where you are going? I am secretly hoping you won't be going anywhere due to a nice sticky BFP in a few weeks time!

Thanks again!

Ruby

Runy, no thanks needed! I just like being able to chat and trade support with my friends :)

So we decided against vacationing. Well it was more DH then myself who decided ;), but I see the good in staying put too. I just think he was trying to cheer me up when he said we'd take a trip after my last BFN... next time I will def hold him too it! :D Although, like you said, hopefully there will be NO travelling cause a BFP is in store for me! We'll know soon enough thankfully :angel:

My night is going good. DH just got home from work and I should prob venture in to see if he wants me to heat him something up for dinner. I hope the rest of your afternoon/evening goes well!

My DH just got home too! I will be logging off shortly to go and get ready for dinner.

I can understand why you have decided against going on holiday. It will be too difficult once you have your BFP anyway!

Talk tomorrow.

Ruby

What a sophisticated young lady you have there, Ruby! For her birthday she wanted Japanese... mm, I could go for Japanese :)

You sound liek you're doing well! :D I hope you are; you have a big BFP in waiting for you!! :D

*****babydust******

I hope you're right Princess!!!

We had a great time at dinner last night and DD got thoroughly spoilt by all the family. I still can't believe she's six........

As for me, nothing to report. I guess if AF doesn't show then I'll be testing in just over a weeks time. I'm not hopeful but you never know.... right?

Do any of you find that people can be so weird sometimes? I had lunch with my cousin today and she asked me if we were still trying for another baby. When I told her that we would be doing IVF later this year she looked really shocked and asked me if I knew what to expect and told me how involved IVF is. Does she really think I would go into something like this with my eyes closed? Of course I don't know what to expect but I've done my research and feel that DH and I have made an informed decision. Is the idea of someone doing IVF to have a third child really so unbelieveable? She then went on to ask if I have tried any special fertility diets. Come on......... I mean seriously, if I thought that eating sand was going to get me pregnant then I would do it. How could anyone think that we haven't already tried everything possible to get pregnant? I felt really annoyed as this is already a touchy subject with me and ended up cutting the conversation short. I really don't know where some people get their audacity from..... grrrrr.

Anyway, now that I've had a good moan and gotten that off my chest I'll stop typing before this turns into a novel.

Babydust to all!

Ruby

Oh my gosh Ruby, I"m so sorry you had to put up withthat. How absolutely ridiculous. I cannot believe that! The audacity of some people is just so shocking sometimes! :mad:

If there was an easier way to get pg, you would have already done it. And you HAVE been eating healthier lately (right?) and that is the ideal fertility diet. Obviously you wouldn't jump right into IVF without hearing/learning about it first. Some people... :rolleyes:

You will get that BFP if not now, then you have a wonderful back-up plan!! Good luck with testing this time around!!! :D

Now I am annoyed by your cousin. How rude. People dont understand that IF is such a touchy subject and for people who dont know try to offer flat out dumb advice will come accross wrong. I am sorry that you had to sit and listen to that. I dont have conversations with frends or family because fo thsi reason. I amde the error once of telling a friend that we were going to do IVF and I ended up geting a lecture abotu what god wanted and so forth. I was really perturbed to say the least.

I hope your having a better day.

Now I am annoyed by your cousin. How rude. People dont understand that IF is such a touchy subject and for people who dont know try to offer flat out dumb advice will come accross wrong. I am sorry that you had to sit and listen to that. I dont have conversations with frends or family because fo thsi reason. I amde the error once of telling a friend that we were going to do IVF and I ended up geting a lecture abotu what god wanted and so forth. I was really perturbed to say the least.

I hope your having a better day.

Oh my gosh, the God lecture. :rolleyes: how many times have I heard that. My stance on it is that if God wants me to be pg, I will be whether I go through the treatments or not. The one I REALLY despise is the "You're only 21, you still have plenty of time!" I'm not like every other 21 year old, and to be honest, I htink that my interest in starting a family with the man I love; rather than being out getting stoned on the beach, is commendable.

Sorry, I ddin't mean to hijack your thread!! I really do hope you feel better soon--- and I'm sorry that she couldn't have been a bit more supportive.

Ruby, yeah I know just what you are talking about. There's a part of me that really wants to open up to others and my friends about what I'm doing, but then sometimes when you get those ignorant comments it seems it's hardly worth the effort. Your cousin really should know you better than to think you'd go into IVF not knowing what to expect.

You know I was recently talking to a friend about my doing IVF and she said to me that my DH and I should try the rhythm method if we really wanted to get pregnant. I seriously don't even know what my response was. I don't think I had one. Talk about somebody "not getting it". I mean, seriously... I'm talking about IVF and you're talking about the rhythm method???? Do you even have a clue how educated I am on when the best time of the month is to get pregnant?!?!?!!!!! And how effective is the rhythm method when DH has been diagnosed with very poor morph??? :mad: Oh my gosh seriously, just b/c you were using that method to try and NOT get pregnant with the guy you had been dating for two months and then of course ended up GETTING pregnant, doesn't mean squat when it comes to a couple battling IF. :rolleyes: Okay, whoa, sorry I went off on a little rant there... didn't see that coming, but I just want you to know that we can all relate to those dumb comments that sometimes seem judgemental.

I hope you are having a good day, and I really look forward to celebrating a BFP with you in a week! I'm gonna keep lots of hope alive for you my friend!!!

Hi Ruby, I'm so glad you and the family had such a good time celebrating your DD's 6th birthday. She does seem very mature for her age;) I'm also sorry about how your cousin made you feel at your lunch, but I kinda used to be like her. My best friend has been dealing with IF for years. I didn't used to want to have any kids, so I just didn't relate to her and her disappointment regarding kids and IF. It wasn't until I started to want a baby that I could understand her a whole lot better, and finally be a good support system for her. I don't know for sure, but maybe your cousin is similar, and doesn't have or want to have kids right now. And regarding IVF, my very same friend used to say she would not do IVF, how invasive it was, how taking so many meds would be difficult, and so on. Well, if this last IUI didn't work for her, next cycle she will be starting IVF. She's 35, and realizes she isn't getting any younger, her eggs aren't getting any healthier, so if she really wants a baby, she's willing to go all the way now.

I guess my whole point in all this is I myself couldn't relate to my best friend dealing with IF for a long time, until I started to go through it myself. And lots of people think that IVF is this radical, extreme procedure, and people don't consider it unless they run out of other options and are "forced" to go that route. I firmly believe people shouldn't talk about things they don't know about, so I agree that your cousin was out of line there. But that doesn't stop people from having opinions (however wrong they may be) about things they really don't know anything about. I'm really sorry she made you upset, and probably is best to avoid this topic with her, or even talking with her for a while because she may just upset you more.

(((Hugs)))
Christin

Hi Ladies

It's hard to believe that there are so many people out there who feel it is their duty to set us straight on such topics. Luckily my cousin doesn't live in NZ and is returning home in a few days so I won't be seeing her for a while.

I hope you all are well.

Babydust!

Ruby