My thread was getting a bit long so I started another one which is a bit more updated.

Firstly I have been experiencing problems on the boards with my posts not getting posted and it is really frustrating:mad:. My page opens but it tells me done but with errors:mad::mad:. I do not know what is going on.

Anyway the reason for me wanting to post it that a good friend of mine in South Africa email me this morning and it read as follows:

There isn’t really an easy way for me to say this Charlene, but we are having a baby. I don’t want to upset you or rub it in your face, I am sure you’re faced with this often enough.I am thinking of you and I hope that you are ok. I really do pray that 2008 will be your year too!!!

I just crumbled and burst into tears. They only got married in March last year, it s just not fair. I am trying to stay strong but I have not had the courage to email her back yet. I just feel so down. I know I am in my 2ww and hopefully I have my miracle growing inside me but I cannot help how I feel.:confused: I think she broke the news in a very nice way but I still feel cheated:(. I am just praying that I will get my miracle:angel: this cycle.

Everyone around me seems to be getting pg:(:mad: around me.

I feel much better now that, that is off my chest.

Charlene

Oh Charlene I am so sorry sweetie.I know its so hard to hear of a pregnancy no matter what.Just the other day my BF told me this girl we know is pregnant but she has struggled for 7 years so I was happy but couldent help feeling jealous as well.Its so natural sweetie to feel the way you are feeling.The email was very nice and its better she told you cause I think if she tried to hide it,it would make it worse.She must be a great to care so much about your feelings.I am praying you get that BFP and then you can go through pregnancy along with your friend.That would be great.Sending you big comforting hugs sweetie and know we are always here for you.

Love ya,

Mapia

Charlene, I'm really sorry for your frustration. I think we've all gone through this, but I'm thankful that your friend told you in a very respectful and kind way. I know writing her back will be difficult, but at least you don't need to speak to her. I would congratulate her and tell her you are truely happy for her. And maybe thank her for the way she told you. You really don't need to go into a long expansive e-mail. You can ask her questions later when you're feeling up to it. But I think it's important for you to tell her you're happy for her. Plus, I know you'll be writing her again soon with news of your very own BFP!!! Good luck! - April

Charlene,

I know we all can relate to this, and it doesn't seem to get any easier. I am glad that she told you in a very respectful way, but it's impossible to not think that it should be you. I agree with the girls that I'd email her back and tell you you really are very happy for her, and thankful that she understands your feelings. I'd tell her also that you hope that she understands if you initially aren't in a frame of mind to talk a lot about her pregnancy.

I am sorry. :(

Your BFP is coming, and it won't be long until YOU will be the one sending out emails and announcing to everyone that you are pg. Hang in there!! I'm really hoping this 2ww is the one!!!

Love,
Kelley

I think this is one of the toughest challanges when TTC and batteling IF is when everyone around you is walking around PG and you are trying everything under the sun and its not working. With the exception of BPN, I think this is the next in line for being the worst. It is so hard. You want to be happy for someone, you dont want their pitty, like"poor broken Amy, I dont know how to tell you this, since your broken and all". Thats exactly how I hear things, even tho that is not how they are said.

My heart goes out to anyone how has to go through this, its the most emotionally draining process ever and I curse the powers that be for making us go through this.

I hope you are feeling better today and was able to enjoy the rest of your evening.

((hugs))

Oh Char, you poor thing. I know we can al relate to your feeligns and situation... I don't know if that makes it any easier. But we do. :)

I am thankful she did it in a kind way....but sometimes, that way is harder, it seems. If she did it in a mean way, then at least you could be angry. But this way...you don't have anger to shield you from the blow. :(

You don't have to write a long letter, just write "Congratulations, I know that you must be very happy and I wish you a healthy pregnancy and a safe delivery!" You can add a note to thank her for the way she told you the news as well.

I knwo you want to stay strong and not cry, but honestly, I htink that keeping your sadness inside will do more harm than good. Release a few tears, and then in an hour, you'll be fine. :) Do your nails, watch The Simpsons or even (this is going to sound crazy) sing Hush Little Baby. I don't know. It always calms me down, and in a way, it's thinking REALLY positive that you're singing to baby inside of you. :)

Anyway, dearest, I really hope youstart feeling better soon. It WILL get better. And you WILL get your BFP!

Thanks to everyone for your words of wisdom. I am feeling much better now thank you. I will definatley email her back to congratulate her and wish her a happy and healthy pg. I think I just had a moment of weakness, but I am truely happy for her.

I really hope that I can send her an email at the end of the month with good news about my BFP.

Thanks again to everyone I would not beable to do this without all of you. You ladies are my rock when I feel I'm going to cumble.

I hope you all have a wonderful day.
Lots of love
Charlene

Hey Char, I know I'm a little late as I'm just now getting caught up on everyone's threads. But I wanted to tell you I'm so sorry for the recent news of your friend's pregnancy. It is something that we all can relate to and I have to tell you it's normal and understandable for you to cry and be upset. We've all been in your shoes sweetie and it's difficult.

I really do think you are gonna be calling her later this month sharing the news of your recent BFP! I've got everything crossed for you and I'm praying for you real hard. Hang in there sweetie. Big (((hugs))) to you!

Hi Char,

I am glad you are feeling a little better, it's a tough situation when you truly feel happy for someone but you're also down about it as well.

But, you are in the 2ww which means that there is a good chance that you're going to be one of the next girls on this board to be posting your amazing news for us!!!

Just wanted to wish you good night (although for you, you're probably still deep asleep!)!! Will talk to you tomorrow!

Kelley

I email my friend this morning to congratulate her on her pg and I feel much better now that I have done that. I think I just had a moment of weakness. I am just holding on to the fact that I could indeed be pg myself. Only one more week till beta and then I will know for sure. I really hope that I can call her next week with some excellent news.

Still have nothing to report regarding symptoms or anthing and maybe it is better so I do not stress myself out.

I am having a much better day today than yesterday.

Love
Charlene

Charlene, I'm glad you are feeling better today. I know it's difficult to share in someone else's happy news even when we are sincerely happy for them. Keep your chin up and have faith that you will be sharing your excellent news with everyone soon. I really hope you get your miracle this cycle and you can send your friend an e-mail celebrating your BFP.

Sending you lots and lots of sticky babydust
Joann

Good for your Charlene. You came through the situation like a trooper. I am proud of you:angel: I am glad your feel better.

I can remember a time when I got so angry about IF, it was about 3.5 years ago. I hated everyone and everything. I was so mean to people, I had no compassion. I belonged to another board at one time it got the point where alot of young girls would post who just started TTC, for like a month or two and they would get so upset that they were not pg yet. I would post nasty stuff. I fnally sat back and thought, Amy, thats horrible!! No matter how long or what your situation is, it still hurts and who's to say that they are seriously not effected by not getting pg by the 3rd month and who am I to judge them. I upset myself so abd about who I had become that I totally dropped TTC for about a year because it consumed me and made me a really ugly person. I've grown up so much in the last 7 years since TTC, that it breaks my heart when I hear someone say they are pg and sometimes the way the tell me, but I've done real good this time around by not bitting heads off:)

I'm proud of you, pat yourself on the back:)

Joann thanks for the encouragment I really do hope I will be emailing her news of my BFP.

Amy, I felt exactly the way you did just before i joined this board. I was angry with everyone and everything. My sister and I came to a conclusion that I was a raging lunatic last year...LOL:jester: Now I can laugh about it but then it was sooooooo not funny.

I am proud of myself for emailing to congratulate her. I know that when it is my time to announce my BFP she will be over the moon as she knows what journey i have been on to get there.

Thank you to each and everyone of you for you support.
Love you all
Charlene

Hi Charlene I am so glad you emailed your friend back it is so hard I know.We do have to think though that its not their fault we are going through IF.I really hope you will be emailing her real soon about your BFP.Hope you are having a good day sweetie and remember we are here to listen to you and to help you through everything.Take care.

Mapia

Hi Charlene,

I'm so glad to see you are feeling better today. As happy as we are for others, we still can't help feeling sad for ourselves. I really think you will be announcing your own good news very soon, though. This was a wonderful cycle for you w/ lots of bd'ing, and I think your chances are great!!! Only one more week to find out. :D

Holly

Oh Char, I'm so very proud of you!! Good fo ryou for emailing your friend back!! It's hard sometimes to show how happy we are for a friend, even though it hurts at the same time. But I am so proud of you not only being strong and doing it, but for also knowing thatyou only had a wek moment. And those moments are so normal in IF. :)
Next week, you will be emailing her reagrding your BFP and plannng on having joint baby showers, I am so sure! :angel: I hope the 2ww is treating you really well!! :D

Also, about the problems you were haivng with this site, I've had them too. :mad: They are so frustrating...but maybe since the mods are shutting down long threads it will help? I odn't know, but i hope so!

******babydust********

Hi Charlene,

I'm happy you emailed your friend back, and that you're feeling good about it.

I hope that your day went well, and of course I'm getting excited more and more for you as the 2ww continues!!

Kelley

Hey Char, I'm so glad you had a much better day! Good luck with the last week of waiting..... Really hoping your beta brings news of BFP!!!!