Hi My son who is 3 and half years old is due for his evaluation tomorrow by the county for his IEP. I have major concerns regarding his behavior , social interaction and his hyperactivity. He has not yet been diagnosed yet for autism but am taking him to Kennedy Krieger this month. I want him to get as much help in his school and the relevant therapies he needs. does anyone has any suggestions as how to talk to the county people . Also would it help if he has an official diagnosis. I feel lost as how to go about it.

I think his diagnosis really matters. If he can get an Austic diagnosis, he is entltled to much more. Our school is really discouraging, "A Label" for my son, but I think they are just trying to avoid the benefits a diagnosis would entltle him too. There are books about your rights. They should give you paperwork about your rights at the IEP. It won't do you any good because its too long to read in the meeting. My sons IEP's go quickly and the teachers and therapist do all the talking. They may encourage you to sign quickly. But if you have any questions, or concerns write them down. They have an obligation to your child to hear you and address your concerns. Hopefully your school officials will be courteous. It can be very stressful. I have one tomorrow. I requested it because I didn't get any resolution at the last one, a few weeks ago. Just remember that you are the best advocate for your child. Good Luck. And remember, what's best for your son is a good relationship with his teacher.

I am a special education teacher for middle grade students. It is important that you understand your child's diagnosis and his/her IEP. In my state, you must have a diagnosis or classification in order to have an IEP. Having an Autism diagnosis does entitle you to many things, at least for here in NY, the most important being Speech and Language services.
Ask as many questions as you need to ask. It is your right to know everything that has to do with your child. There should also be a parent advocate at your meeting to help you ask questions and explain certain things to you.

Good luck. Remember that although it can be overwhelming, it is your right to have questions answered. Go in with a list of questions so you don't get flustered.