Hello everyone, I am on some other boards here but felt the need to post here. I lost my sister in law a few days ago, she was so very young 44. Cancer. She moved out of state less then 2yrs ago & shortly after moving was diaganosed. I am a chronic pain sufferer at the time & she so understood, we could make each other laugh & that is what I will miss. I am recovering from surgery & could not fly out for her funeral & I am having a hard time dealing with it. I am angry & sick of this pain running my life. My husband, bless him is beside himself & when she was diagnosed flew out to see her so family would be there to comfort here, I could not go then because of this. I just told her a couple weeks ago I would come in june, no mattter what & we so looked forward to her showing me some of her favorite places, now june will never come for her & it is breaking my heart. My husband has cancer to along with her only daughter. I am fearful for them now. I am so afraid for my husband, I know it does not sound right but I am scared. His family has lost three member from cancer. I just don't know how to cope, & not being able to be there with the rest of the family is so hard, harder then I thought.
I so feel for you all who have had loses, I have lost my parents & along with others, & it just never is easy. It leaves such a hole in our lives. I hate the thought of having to go through this again, you know not being able to speak to her & hear here voice & most of all her laughter. My heart breaks for her husband & daughter.What do you say? I'm sorry just does not get it.
How do you handle this, I feel numb & just can't believe I will never speak to her again. Does it just get harder as we get older & start loosing more people in our lives? God bless you all & although I do not know you I am so sorry for your loses. Sammy

Hello,
Life is a wonferfull gift and I guess we take it for granted until someone we love has left us, then we realize how pecious it is. I know your are suffering great saddness right now, when my Father passed away I had a knot in my stomach for 3 months and I cried everyday, my daily cry helped me, it released all my saddeness that was building all day, he has been gone 7 years now and I think of him everyday, he will always be a part of me.
Your sister in-law was so young which makes it so unfair but this is the way I looked at it when my father died, they are up in heaven and they are not sick anymore, they are not suffering anymore. Hold you memories of you sister inlaw in your heart and keep them forever, she sounds like a very specail lady. We can control allot of things in our life, but when God decides it time to come home. it's in his hands.
Karen:angel:

I am sorry for the loss of your SIL as well as the others you have lost and am sending thoughts and prayers for strenght your way during this difficult time.

I lost my husband almost 8 months ago to cancer, he was 47. It has been a very difficult road for me. Before him the losses were more expected - grand parents etc.

Unfortunately through the years as we get older, there will be more and more losses. Death is a part of life. Every death is unique so I dont believe you can really get used to it? ea loss is different and we grieve for ea differently.

All we can do is take deep breaths and make the most of the time we do have with everyone while we can and after they go remember the time during which we were blessed to have them in our lives. As hard as their loss is, we can be happy that we got to spend what ever time we did have with them.

((((hugs)))

Sammy

I am so sorry about the loss of your Sister-in-Law. I have lost several members of my family. My faith is what gives me the strength I need to go on without them. I know they are in Heaven and are not suffering anymore.

You asked if we ever get used to losing loved ones? I haven't but time does help to heal the pain.

My prayers are with you Sammy. I hope you'll stay in touch.:angel:

Hugs Nadine

Hello,
Life is a wonferfull gift and I guess we take it for granted until someone we love has left us, then we realize how pecious it is. I know your are suffering great saddness right now, when my Father passed away I had a knot in my stomach for 3 months and I cried everyday, my daily cry helped me, it released all my saddeness that was building all day, he has been gone 7 years now and I think of him everyday, he will always be a part of me.
Your sister in-law was so young which makes it so unfair but this is the way I looked at it when my father died, they are up in heaven and they are not sick anymore, they are not suffering anymore. Hold you memories of you sister inlaw in your heart and keep them forever, she sounds like a very specail lady. We can control allot of things in our life, but when God decides it time to come home. it's in his hands.
Karen:angel:
I totally agree. Death is hard 2 years ago was the first time I had a lost of a loved one since then 2 years ago there have been many lost loved ones including my own little one at almost 5 years old.
I agree they are in paridise now or we can hop I know we all may have different beliefs but I know my sons with his creator and im blessed to know I can see him again. It just doesnt seem fair does it. Just pray and keep your faith All things done are for the greater of God. He has a reason though we may not understand it now.
Im sorry for your loss.

Sammy, I am so sorry for you losses, it has to be hard losing so many. I have only lost 2 people in my life (my father and my brother in law), and the people here are the ones who helped me get through my time of losing my dad, it was 3 years ago, I have not been able to step over the hump of that loss, it is inconcieveiable to me of how you can bear so many losses, I really feel for you and will keep you in my thoughts.