ctr50863
03-03-2008, 04:11 PM
My husband and I are sure he has add. I've been doing some research and adult is very different than children add. My son also suffered, but grew out of it. My husband is willing to try "natural" add remedies. Has anyone out there experienced with any, or are there certain vitamins that help? All I know is that we are seperated now and am looking at divorce. He just brought this to my attention, if knowing in the past of this, we make not be in this predictament. Now that I've investigated, he has so many symptoms and it explains many of our marital problems.
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addprogrammer
03-05-2008, 08:54 AM
My husband is willing to try "natural" add remedies ... or are there certain vitamins that help?
Somebody has to do the deed and tell you the truth.
There aren't any.
Bob
Somebody has to do the deed and tell you the truth.
There aren't any.
Bob
rheanna
03-05-2008, 11:47 AM
ctr50863,
For most of us with ADD that isn't diagnosed until well into our adult years, we require at the minimum a fair amount of counseling and retraining to learn good brain habits to replace the scattered ones that we have lived with most of our lives. For many of us, that means also at least a period of time with meds to help us focus long enough to pay attention to our newly suggested habits long enough to learn them.
Some people claim that omega-3 fish oils help. My undersanding of the studies in this regard is that the results are "fishy" in terms of actually being able to help people with ADD. In other words, ADD is by definition a "different" wiring in the brain, not a nutritional deficiency.
I am sorry about your marriage. Please let your husband know that it might help to talk with a psychiatrist who is trained to treat ADD. Vitamins ain't going to help.
addprogrammer tells the truth.
--Rheanna
For most of us with ADD that isn't diagnosed until well into our adult years, we require at the minimum a fair amount of counseling and retraining to learn good brain habits to replace the scattered ones that we have lived with most of our lives. For many of us, that means also at least a period of time with meds to help us focus long enough to pay attention to our newly suggested habits long enough to learn them.
Some people claim that omega-3 fish oils help. My undersanding of the studies in this regard is that the results are "fishy" in terms of actually being able to help people with ADD. In other words, ADD is by definition a "different" wiring in the brain, not a nutritional deficiency.
I am sorry about your marriage. Please let your husband know that it might help to talk with a psychiatrist who is trained to treat ADD. Vitamins ain't going to help.
addprogrammer tells the truth.
--Rheanna
bullfrog71
03-16-2008, 12:10 AM
I'm sure my wife can sympithize with you more. I was just diagnosed with adult ADD. Unfortunately that is where I currently stand. My next visit we start working on what I am going to do about it.
My wife gets furious with me because I "leave everything up to her". It is not my intention, she seems to see things and go get them, or do them. If I even notice something it may take me a long time to act on it if at all.
I started going to a phychologist because my marraige has been very up and down, mostly down. For the most part it is because of my inability to get things done, even getting things started would be a big step sometimes. At the end of my first session he asked me if anyone had ever suggested that I might be ADD. I said that it had never been brought up. He handed me a list of 14 symptoms of ADD, HOLY CRAP!!! was my first response. 10 symptoms right on the nose, a good argument for 3 more, and I can't remember what the lonely one I didn't see in myself was.
Now my issue is not that I don't want to make things better, just that I can't seem to keep myself focused for much longer than a week on improving things. Then a few weeks later here we are arguing again and she is ready to leave.
Unfortunately I can't understand completely where you are coming from, but I do know that it must be painful for you to have to deal with him day in and day out. I hope she never does leave me, but I won't blame her if she does. She is as close to a perfectionist as you can get, then there's me, I drive her nuts.
Good luck to you. I hope you figure out what is best for you.
My wife gets furious with me because I "leave everything up to her". It is not my intention, she seems to see things and go get them, or do them. If I even notice something it may take me a long time to act on it if at all.
I started going to a phychologist because my marraige has been very up and down, mostly down. For the most part it is because of my inability to get things done, even getting things started would be a big step sometimes. At the end of my first session he asked me if anyone had ever suggested that I might be ADD. I said that it had never been brought up. He handed me a list of 14 symptoms of ADD, HOLY CRAP!!! was my first response. 10 symptoms right on the nose, a good argument for 3 more, and I can't remember what the lonely one I didn't see in myself was.
Now my issue is not that I don't want to make things better, just that I can't seem to keep myself focused for much longer than a week on improving things. Then a few weeks later here we are arguing again and she is ready to leave.
Unfortunately I can't understand completely where you are coming from, but I do know that it must be painful for you to have to deal with him day in and day out. I hope she never does leave me, but I won't blame her if she does. She is as close to a perfectionist as you can get, then there's me, I drive her nuts.
Good luck to you. I hope you figure out what is best for you.
SanyBelle
03-16-2008, 11:37 AM
He handed me a list of 14 symptoms of ADD....Hi bullfrog, do you have a list of the 14 symptoms of Adult ADD? Thanks!
bullfrog71
03-16-2008, 12:25 PM
Go figure, I misplaced my list. I did however find this list online, it only has 11 of them but they were all on the list I received from the Dr.. This is not THE list but a list of possible symptoms.
Often fails to give close attention to details.
Often makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities.
Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities.
Often becomes easily distracted by irrelevant sights, sounds and extraneous stimuli.
Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace.
Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities.
Often avoids tasks, such as schoolwork or homework, that require sustained mental effort.
Often loses things necessary for tasks or activities, like school assignments, pencils, books, or tools.
Often is forgetful in daily activities.
Rarely follows instructions carefully and completely.
Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly.
Often fails to give close attention to details.
Often makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities.
Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities.
Often becomes easily distracted by irrelevant sights, sounds and extraneous stimuli.
Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace.
Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities.
Often avoids tasks, such as schoolwork or homework, that require sustained mental effort.
Often loses things necessary for tasks or activities, like school assignments, pencils, books, or tools.
Often is forgetful in daily activities.
Rarely follows instructions carefully and completely.
Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly.