I need sime support from anyone who can help me.
My husband was killed in a horrific car crash on the 11/2/08 and i cant seem to stop grieving. My stomach aches everyday i feel like im lost and there is no purpose for me here anymore, although am young i really am struggling to get through life at the moment.
If there is anyone with some word of wisdom please help me now.
I don't want to go through life with out my husband by my side.

Im So sorry and I feel your pain. I wish I could give you a hug right now. Your still grieving and its still so fresh. I love my 4 year old son last summer with a tragic way also. It was in June. I still am having trouble moving forward there are many days I don't want to wake up. But I do and I realize this is Gods plan.
I don't know your beliefs but I have my faith and I know God had his reasons. I for a while tried to figure out my sons purpose in life and in death. I did just that then I moved on to how it can better my life in some way. I do this to keep me from going insane. Now im concentrating on my weightloss and being healthy. You need to maybe see someone to help you deal with this.
Your griev will come in many stages. I pleeaded to God to give him back to me. There was a time when I actually was trying to think of ways to rewind time. Its all grief. I went and talked to my pastor and he helped me feel at ease some.

Im sorry for your loss and I hope in time you will heal. it wont be fast and it wont be easy but im here for you. HUGS

jo jo - first of all I am so sorry hunny.

Its natural for you to be grieving, grief is different for everyone, really it is, and there is no cure but time. It honestly does get easier - believe me. I lost my boyfriend last year, after he was killed in an RTA on his bike, that was November, and I wanted to die too - but with the loving and caring of my friends and our families, I am coming to terms with it.

Do you have people there to turn to, to talk to or to just give you a hug? Please hunny, be kind to yourself, give yourself lots of time and take it one day at a time.

JoJo, I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 3 years ago, and thought I'd go out of my mind with grief. At my Drs. suggestion, I contacted our local Hospice and they connected me with a Grief Support group which met once a week. It was a very small group of people whom had recently lost a loved one. It was led by 2 very well trained counselors, whom listened, provided support, and helped all of us go through the stages of grief. I can't say enough on how much this helped me. Please reach out, you are not alone.

Thankyou 4 all the support you have provided, i think i might have to get help now, i cant handle everything, i just begin to go numb and noting matters anymore.Thankyou very much.

I'm so sorry to hear of your lose
but are you sure the accident happened on 11/2/08?
Just wondering?
Please take care

I'm so sorry to hear of your lose
but are you sure the accident happened on 11/2/08?
Just wondering?
Please take care

In Australia dates are written dd/mm/yy, unlike USA which is mm/dd/yy.
This means he passed 11th Feb 2008.

I'm so sorry to hear of your lose
but are you sure the accident happened on 11/2/08?
Just wondering?
Please take care
yes I am positive it happened on the 11/2/08 it is a date that will be forever burned into my mind, why would you ask that???

While I've never lost a hubby I have lost two people that were very close to me. when I was 15 I witnessed my father's death that was due malpractice. Then November 29th 2006 my cousin passed away at the age of 25. He was like my brother. He married my best friend, our kids were born one week to the day apart and we lived together. I miss him so much. Until today his wife, who is a bitter person, wouldn't tell anyone what killed him. Finally, I called and got an autopsy report. He died from Hyper trophic cardiomyopathy. It is good to have a closing part to that chapter, but I have a form of the same disease. Talk about scary.

jojo, so sorry for your recent loss. Your hubby only passed 2 months ago. You need time to grieve. I will be praying for you on the 11th. I would think that it's going to be a tough day for you. I agree with susan, a grief support group might help a lot.
Take care

Well it's been over 4 months since my husband died, so far I have had 2 suicide attempts the seconed was almost successfull. I have been out of hospital for 1 month now and to tell you the truth things seem to be getting harder.
I seem to have no feelings for the people around me and it doesn't matter what they say, nothing seems to help me.
All I want now is for people to leave me alone, I just want to be alone and not talk to anyone.
I know I'm not handling it very well but for some reason I don't care.

jojo, first of all, I am glad you were not successful with your suicide attempts. I do not blame you for not wanting to talk to anyone and wanting to be alone. You must be feeling so angry, lost, hopeless, to say the least. If I may say so, please try to be easy on yourself and allow yourself to go through whatever feelings and emotions you have. Nothing I or anyone else can say will help, but I hope that just knowing that you have a place here to vent or say whatever you want helps at least a little. Sometimes it is easier to "talk" online than with people face-to-face.

LaurieBelle

I think you need to seek counseling to help you get through this. Does your local hospital have any services? It's normal to go through stages when a death happens and it can last a very long time. You must be feeling overwhelmed and I think sometimes we shut down as a defense mechanism so that we can cope with the enormous stress.

Please know that suicide is permanent and will hurt so many people; your numbness and grief may be getting in the way of being able to think rationally. There are suicide support groups and hotlines, I hope you will try those support agencies.

I can't imagine what you are going through but I hope you will allow time to help lessen the effect of what you have been through. Time does change how we feel and cope when a death occurs. Take small steps.