I was going to post this in a thread to someone who recently lost her father but, after reading before final post thought better of it, thought it would be to harsh for someone who just lost someone.

Then decided to copy and post it here. Here it is


I am so sorry for your loss, and to the rest of the posters here, I to have gone through what you have, only my father died 3 years ago, everything that has been said I have gone through exactly.
And in hopping to not make it worse for any of you, I am still going through it. I can honestly say, atleast for me, the pain the anger the fear the blame the selfeshness the guilt, none of it goes away, but you have or I have learned to accept the feelings and for show to move on normally. The pain lessons atleast untill you read something, like the post or see a memory in a special photo or here talk from someone who did love him the way you did, but you learn to move on.
But Always in the back if your mind, atleast in mine those feelings are always there holding me back to some point.
Healthboards and its posters helped me through the months following his death, more then anyone will ever know but, nothing can help with the life long anguish. Again, atleast not for me...
Sorry this is not the best post with telling it will all be ok in time. Live for the memorys, remember the life that was lived and appriciate the time that you did have and always remember, that it was not your fault, so dont live on the guilt that you did not say the extra I love you or spend that extra day or that hour.
And Although I know that this is all true it just did not work.
Atleast not for me

I was going to post this in a thread to someone who recently lost her father but, after reading before final post thought better of it, thought it would be to harsh for someone who just lost someone.

Then decided to copy and post it here. Here it is


I am so sorry for your loss, and to the rest of the posters here, I to have gone through what you have, only my father died 3 years ago, everything that has been said I have gone through exactly.
And in hopping to not make it worse for any of you, I am still going through it. I can honestly say, atleast for me, the pain the anger the fear the blame the selfeshness the guilt, none of it goes away, but you have or I have learned to accept the feelings and for show to move on normally. The pain lessons atleast untill you read something, like the post or see a memory in a special photo or here talk from someone who did love him the way you did, but you learn to move on.
But Always in the back if your mind, atleast in mine those feelings are always there holding me back to some point.
Healthboards and its posters helped me through the months following his death, more then anyone will ever know but, nothing can help with the life long anguish. Again, atleast not for me...
Sorry this is not the best post with telling it will all be ok in time. Live for the memorys, remember the life that was lived and appriciate the time that you did have and always remember, that it was not your fault, so dont live on the guilt that you did not say the extra I love you or spend that extra day or that hour.
And Although I know that this is all true it just did not work.
Atleast not for me

sorry to hear about your loss.
I pray that God will reveal to you that you only need to cast the burden upon Jesus and He will take it from you.

I had the same issues when my father died. He was the sweetest man and I was the selfish teenager. It took me 7 years to get over my guilt at not saying I love you enough to him. Even on his deathbed I was angry at him because he got sick while I was overseas and had to come home. I had a dream of him and we talked, not long after, I did forgive myself. I accepted the fact I was just a silly spoilt little girl and his death helped me grow. I see alot of him in me now, and because he was a wonderful person, I am proud to be his daughter.