Hi.....I lost my husband of 20 yrs. to lung cancer and then 2 yrs. later my father...Also during that period I had two close friends make their transition...
Yes, in all cases it was painful, esp. late husband.....When he died I was distraught, but glad to see him relieved of his pain and suffering...If you have a loved one with a terminal illness, Hospice is a blessing, be sure to check them out...They also have a support group afterwards....If you lost someone suddenly, then check in your area for a support group and go....You will find comfort in those going through similar circumstances. The biggest thing I would tell you is not to go on a guilt trip about things you think you should have done or said...If you feel that you have unsaid things or issues with the deceased, then sit down in a quite place undisturbed and actually write them a letter with all of your feelings and things you want to tell them..After that...actually read it out loud to them, they will hear you believe me!! Their energy is still with you forever.... They would want you to make a new life and to become your own person again....They would want you to let go of all regrets and sadness.....You can begin this process one small step at a time...Set some easy goals and be kind to yourself....Sometimes it helps to go to a therapist and talk through your pain....It will get better with time...Blessings to you...........laura:angel: