How many of you out there have ever been court ordered to get some help by the family or friends committing you and how bad did it make you feel. I had to do this to my 22 year old daughter who over the course of 3 years has lost everything to the point of being homeless due to meth and pot addiction. I was just wondering if you ever got over the feeling of betrayl.

Thanks

i think it will depend heavily on the outcome of her committal. If she comes out clean - with a positive view to staying that way then - i would say that she would be well on the way to having her life back on track and would be thankful/greatful of your interventions. Its difficult to say really, i suppose it all depends on her treatments - as well as her will to give up - or wether she still wants to keep going. the problem with committal is that the person sectioned/commited isnt at the stage where 'they' themselves want to give up - although i know that from your point of view that this was probably the only solution left and that you feared for her safety otherwise. if you could find out more about where she is, how long for, what treatments she will receive - this may be helpful. though as i said - its nigh on impossible to say how an individual will react to a situation like this.

the most important thing to remember is that - you did this out of love - not out of spite. this was a last ditch attempt to save a loved one from a sad and sorry situation, and it hurt you to have to do this ( 'I' know) - dont beat yourself up or feel guilty about showing some tough love - sometimes its the only way.

i hope this has helped a little. keep posting and keep us informed as to whats going on. theres lots of knowledgeable people here to help

take care

yoss

keep on keepin on

What you did was not betrayal. What you did was love your daughter. You should be proud of yourself for having the guts to go through with what you feel is the proper course of treatment for your daughter. I'm sure your 22 year old daughter thinks she has it all figured out. But clearly she doesn't if she thinks drugs are all she needs. I would have done the same thing if I were in your shoes. I made some very poor choices at her age (all against my parents advice). Luckily I was able to correct them later on but I cost myself a lot of valuable years. We all think we know exactly what we want when we are in our 20's. But I bet most of us ended up in very different places. It is your job as her mother to do what is best for her. If you don't, then who will? Nobody will love her or care for her as much as you. Please don't feel guilty. You might have just saved her life.

Hello gloria and welcome,

They call it tuff love for a reason.
You shouldn't feel bad because you may have just saved her life.

I am almost 44 now and when I look back into my teens and 20's I take note of the advise I got from my parents. I didn't always agree and really bucked the system back then but some time later I realized that they only wanted the best for me.

I think it was when I had kids of my own I began to understand and also forgive my parents for the past. I was from a broken home and blamed my parents for a long time but never got in any trouble with drugs or the law. The drugs came later in life and thank God I still have not been in trouble with the law.

Your Daughter will be fine, She may even thank you someday. I would do the same thing without even a thought for either of my Daughters.

Have a Happy Easter

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As Always,
Peace.
Baja

How many of you out there have ever been court ordered to get some help by the family or friends committing you and how bad did it make you feel. I had to do this to my 22 year old daughter who over the course of 3 years has lost everything to the point of being homeless due to meth and pot addiction. I was just wondering if you ever got over the feeling of betrayl.

Thanks
I think this is a wonderful idea, I will suggest this to my mother for my brother who is 32. He has completely destroyed his life due to meth, crack, you name it. He has lost everything, his wife, his children, his job and he still is using. There comes a point I think where you have to put your heart aside and use as they say TUFF LOVE. I wouldn't feel guilty for trying to save her life, if she died over usage and you knew it and didn't try to help then would you feel guilty?? I know that seems harsh but it is possible. Good luck to you and if you need more insight I have plenty. I am calling my Mom today to mention the court order procedure and see what she thinks because we have tried everything.
Happy Easter,
Wisteria63