Hi everyone...I am 29 years old, and lost my mother when I was 13. She drowned, and was found several hours later by a stranger walking near the lake. As you can imagine, her death was totally unexpected; a complete and total SHOCK. To make matters worse, my siblings were much older than me and already out of the house...so I was left with my dad, who wasn't exactly supportive. Yes, he provided a roof over my head, food, the basic necessities...but he NEVER talked about my mother, and was VERY nasty and unpredictable at times (he was that way even before she died). He sometimes left me alone for weeks at a time after she died, when he went on "vacations."

Anyway, I have read questions on here where people ask if "the pain ever goes away." Well, I have lost numerous other people during my 29 years...including grandparents I was close to (I have no more left), and one uncle I was close to as well. All of those losses were painful, but not as unbearable as the loss of my mother. And even the pain of the other losses never totally goes away. But the loss of my mother still affects me every day...Certainly, the pain is not as "acute" as it once was, but there is always a deep "void" in me. Hard to explain...even though I am happily married with lots of friends, NO ONE and NOTHING could ever totally fill that void!!!

So, I am wondering, is there anyone else here who lost their mother at a young age?? Especially to a sudden death...I actually have yet to meet anyone who lost a parent to a sudden death when they were young. It makes me feel a bit strange and isolated at times. Don't get me wrong...overall, I am a very "functional" person, with a normal social life, work life, etc...but there is still that underlying feeling of being very "different" from others...anyone know what I mean?!!

I am a 33 year old male.I lost my mother when I was 7 from breast cancer and my dad at 12 from prostate cancer.I still miss them every day.And you are right it does get a little bit easier with time.

I am 17 and it has been less than a year since i lost my mum suddenly. She was completely healthy, just came off of a diet (so she was v.happy!), planning trips and holidays with her new boyfriend (v.v.v.v.happy!), then one morning she fainted and died from an aneurysm and hemorrhages (i think thats the right spelling).
I'm so isolated from my friends, even though they are supportive it's like a taboo subject.. So i try not to bring it up! I can't blame them though, because they have not been through this loss.
Then less than 6 months later my Gran had a stroke and later died in hospital, she was in a coma for a few hours. I didn't get to say goodbye, although my dad and brother got on the first plane up to Scotland, I was stuck to my bed as I was too scared of going back there after my mums funeral.
It hurts more than I thought possible, I miss my mum so much, but it's making me stronger. I hope you don't feel too isolated now, because you're not the only one.

I lost my mother to an unexpected death when I was 26 years old. I just had her first grandchild who was 5 months at that time. My mother suffered with schizophrenia. She drowned in our backyard swimming pool and my brother came home from school and found her. We are not sure if it was suicide but the coroner put "accidental death" on the death certificate. That was 21 years ago and the pain still hurts. Because my mother suffered so bad from this terrible mental illness, part of me is relieved that she is not suffering anymore but I still miss having my mother. I keep pictures of her all over my apartment. There are days that I cry and then there are days that go by and I don't even think of her. Holidays are the worst. You never get over losing your mother; you just learn how to live with it as each day goes by.

I am a 33 year old male.I lost my mother when I was 7 from breast cancer and my dad at 12 from prostate cancer.I still miss them every day.And you are right it does get a little bit easier with time.

You are the most similar person to me that ive seen. I'm 32 and lost my mother to cancer the day after my 5th birthday and my dad to cancer when I was 18. I thought I was young to lose them, you were even younger.