anu79
04-04-2008, 09:30 AM
My pap smear came out ASCUS with inflammation. Iv undergone another pap smear to check for HPV. I told my husband that I had an abnormal pap smear and now he believes that Iv got HPV from my previous partner. I had unprotected sex with my previous partner and after that I had developed erosion of cervix which was treated with cryosurgery 3 years ago. Six months back my doc did an exam and said everything looked fine and I could try for a family. Now my husband is upset that I may have exposed him to HPV. I had not told my husband about my previous partner at the time of my marriage. He was very upset when he came to know. He thought I was a virgin and we nearly broke up. I feel my marriage is threatened esp at a time when we are thinking of starting a family. I don;t know what to do. I love my husband a lot and don't want to lose him. I am sorry that iv exposed him to the virus, I didnt know that I had it...infact even now it is not confirmed that I have HVP. I just have an abnormal pap smear.....and 90% times the cause is HPV. What should I do?
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justcurious123
04-04-2008, 12:35 PM
ASCUS stands for Atypical Cells of Undetermined Significance,and basically means there were mild cellular changes and the cause is unknown.
The first step in managing an ASCUS Pap smear is to repeat the Pap test. Many times a slight infection or cervical inflammation may causes a Pap to come back as ASCUS. So, you said your pap came back with inflammation, that can cause an abnormal pap showing ascus.
Remember to not have sex, douche, or use tampons 24-48 hours prior to the Pap smear test. These can often give false results.
::ABOUT HVP::
I have done TONS of research on this because I was diagnosed a month ago.
So take a deep breath and relax, its not as bad as it sounds.
- There is no danger to this disease unless it goes untreated for a long period of time (I saw something like 10 years). HPV can cause Cervical Cancer in woman, but if she gets treated everything should be fine.
- Unfortunately, HPV can not be treated fully. It has little to no effect on males and once the female goes in to have a biopsy done to find out what strand of HPV she has (there are over 100 different strands) they will do a procedure to remove the abnormal cells. You both have the virus but your body becomes immune to the strand(s) you have so you cant pass it back and forth with unprotected sex. There are two types of HPV, "High Risk" which put a woman at high risk for cancer and "Low Risk" means the woman is at low risk for cancer but the low risk is associated with causing warts.
- I am not sure if it will affect the child, I am 22 and that was a concern of mine (if I will be able to have a baby normal and if it will pass to my child) I was diagnosed with High Risk HPV and the doctor told me that once they remove the abnormal cells I should be able to carry and deliver a baby normal.
- It is impossible to tell who gave who HPV because the virus can lay dormant for weeks, months and even years. Females dont usually get tested for HPV unless they request it during a pap (they are starting to test now regardless because of how common HPV is). There is no test for males so they are often known as the "carriers" because this virus doesn't really effect them and they pass it along without knowing. 70% of Americans have this virus and more than half dont even know they have it.
This virus, in my doctor's words, is the "common cold" of STD's. So read as much as you can about the virus and keep a positive mind. Stress can cause abnormal pap results too, so get the informaiton and live life as you did before you found out. Give your husband as much information as possible and let him know just how common this is.
You will be fine! Relax. =o) Let me know how everything goes.
Hope this was somewhat of help for you. Keep me posted!
The first step in managing an ASCUS Pap smear is to repeat the Pap test. Many times a slight infection or cervical inflammation may causes a Pap to come back as ASCUS. So, you said your pap came back with inflammation, that can cause an abnormal pap showing ascus.
Remember to not have sex, douche, or use tampons 24-48 hours prior to the Pap smear test. These can often give false results.
::ABOUT HVP::
I have done TONS of research on this because I was diagnosed a month ago.
So take a deep breath and relax, its not as bad as it sounds.
- There is no danger to this disease unless it goes untreated for a long period of time (I saw something like 10 years). HPV can cause Cervical Cancer in woman, but if she gets treated everything should be fine.
- Unfortunately, HPV can not be treated fully. It has little to no effect on males and once the female goes in to have a biopsy done to find out what strand of HPV she has (there are over 100 different strands) they will do a procedure to remove the abnormal cells. You both have the virus but your body becomes immune to the strand(s) you have so you cant pass it back and forth with unprotected sex. There are two types of HPV, "High Risk" which put a woman at high risk for cancer and "Low Risk" means the woman is at low risk for cancer but the low risk is associated with causing warts.
- I am not sure if it will affect the child, I am 22 and that was a concern of mine (if I will be able to have a baby normal and if it will pass to my child) I was diagnosed with High Risk HPV and the doctor told me that once they remove the abnormal cells I should be able to carry and deliver a baby normal.
- It is impossible to tell who gave who HPV because the virus can lay dormant for weeks, months and even years. Females dont usually get tested for HPV unless they request it during a pap (they are starting to test now regardless because of how common HPV is). There is no test for males so they are often known as the "carriers" because this virus doesn't really effect them and they pass it along without knowing. 70% of Americans have this virus and more than half dont even know they have it.
This virus, in my doctor's words, is the "common cold" of STD's. So read as much as you can about the virus and keep a positive mind. Stress can cause abnormal pap results too, so get the informaiton and live life as you did before you found out. Give your husband as much information as possible and let him know just how common this is.
You will be fine! Relax. =o) Let me know how everything goes.
Hope this was somewhat of help for you. Keep me posted!
rosequartz
04-04-2008, 12:41 PM
If I were you I'd hold off on starting a family, you may decide not to stay married to a man who claims he hates you.......
anu79
04-04-2008, 02:31 PM
Thanks so much for your encouraging words. Maybe its not the worry about my health or his own health that is making my husband anxious. It the immorality of having an STD. He claims he was a virgin before he married me. And I pretended to be one. I think he's sorry he married an immoral woman. And these health concern will always remind him of that no matter how hard he tries to forget about it and be a good husband.
rosequartz
04-04-2008, 05:04 PM
anu - you are NOT an immoral woman and don't let him tell you that you are!
rhiannon777
04-04-2008, 08:23 PM
You are absolutely not immoral for having an STD. Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad or dirty. HPV is extremely, extremely common. 85% of adults have it at one time or another. IF you have HPV (if I understand you correctly, that is not a certainty yet), the kind you have is probably what's called the "high risk" kind since this is the kind that tends to cause changes in the cervix (it's called high risk because this can lead to cervical cancer if not treated). That kind does not affect men. They carry it, but it does not affect their health at all. So it's not like you exposed to him to some awful thing. By the way, you don't have to have full sex to pass on HPV. If your husband had genital contact with someone before the two of you got married, it is possible that he gave it to you. Like Rose said, I'd think long and hard before starting a family if your husband can't see to "get over" your past. Best wishes!
AnnD
04-04-2008, 09:21 PM
Good grief. I am sorry that your husband can't let go of whatever morals he has but you did lie to him and now you want him to change how he feels?....I doubt that he will or can so you have some thinking to do and the both of you have to make some hard decisions but for sure you can't stay with a man who will always throw this in your face. I have no patience for a man such as your husband but he is who he is. Stop fretting over your health it is what it is...take your husband with you to the doctors appt. ...he needs to hear all of this from the doctors mouth then you need to ask him to make up his mind but tell him you are not going to argue or defend yourself about the past...it happened and sorry that you lied that you were not a virgin. If he decides to stay then stick to your word about never lower yourself to argue about things that you have no control over regarding your health. Good luck.
vbingen
04-07-2008, 11:05 PM
Anu,
Rhiannon77 is right about passing HPV. In all my research HPV can be passed by physical contact and not just through intercourse. HPV can take days and even YEARS to appear. I'm cheering for you on the sidelines. As I was recently diagnosed, I know it's hard, but keep your head up.;)
Rhiannon77 is right about passing HPV. In all my research HPV can be passed by physical contact and not just through intercourse. HPV can take days and even YEARS to appear. I'm cheering for you on the sidelines. As I was recently diagnosed, I know it's hard, but keep your head up.;)
April7
04-10-2008, 12:49 PM
My pap smear came out ASCUS with inflammation. Iv undergone another pap smear to check for HPV. I told my husband that I had an abnormal pap smear and now he believes that Iv got HPV from my previous partner. I had unprotected sex with my previous partner and after that I had developed erosion of cervix which was treated with cryosurgery 3 years ago. Six months back my doc did an exam and said everything looked fine and I could try for a family. Now my husband is upset that I may have exposed him to HPV. I had not told my husband about my previous partner at the time of my marriage. He was very upset when he came to know. He thought I was a virgin and we nearly broke up. I feel my marriage is threatened esp at a time when we are thinking of starting a family. I don;t know what to do. I love my husband a lot and don't want to lose him. I am sorry that iv exposed him to the virus, I didnt know that I had it...infact even now it is not confirmed that I have HVP. I just have an abnormal pap smear.....and 90% times the cause is HPV. What should I do?
I don't want to say that your husband sounds like a jerk because I don't know him or your situation with him....but his attitude is not what you need right now. Was he a virgin? If he wasn't, who's to say HE didn't give you HPV? Hang in there sweetie.
I don't want to say that your husband sounds like a jerk because I don't know him or your situation with him....but his attitude is not what you need right now. Was he a virgin? If he wasn't, who's to say HE didn't give you HPV? Hang in there sweetie.