annemarie83
04-15-2008, 10:06 PM
hi, everybody. i wanted to get your opinion on something that worries me every once in a while, and i don't know if i have cause to be.
2 years ago i started a relationship with a lovely man. I've always practised safe sex and always made sure i know any partner's sexual history and hiv status and we've always got checked out. i brought the subject of testing up with my new partner and he told me he'd been tested. I asked what made him do it and he admitted that he'd been raped and went for a test. I figured that as this was incredibly traumatic for him and hed got the all clear and hed not had sex since after the attack that it was okay. We had protected sex once and i attempted to give him oral sex once without protection (he didnt come).
We were only seeing each other for around six weeks. A few weeks later ( i knew he had a history of taking pills) he mentioned that for a short period in his life he'd even tried heroin but hadn't done it since the year before. I was inwardly horrified. I questioned him about the risks and he said that he'd never ever done drugs with others and had used the needle exchange, and would never take any risks. As far as i remember i seemed satisfied with this at the time. His friend's bf was also a recovering heroin addict and he offered to help as he knew how low you have to be to try heroin, and made sure he got clean needles and persuaded him of the importance of getting tested, but despite this and the fact he was essentially a good person, i decided the relationship wasn't right and we split.
I'm now feeling paranoid, and have been on and off for the last two years. Part of me knows i'm worrying unnecessarily, but part of me feels dishonest that i have not admitted to any new partner that i slept with somebody who has injected heroin. I've been for an std test since and whenever the question " have you ever had unprotected sex without a condom" came up, i've said no, but not told the dr about this- and the dr has told me there's no need then, but i'm still worried about the oral and still worried in case he lied. Am i being paranoid reterospectively? Part of me doesnt want the worry of going for a test if i'm being silly about it, and wonders if its something psycholgical, because i've always been with my partners to get tested, except this one? What do you think?
2 years ago i started a relationship with a lovely man. I've always practised safe sex and always made sure i know any partner's sexual history and hiv status and we've always got checked out. i brought the subject of testing up with my new partner and he told me he'd been tested. I asked what made him do it and he admitted that he'd been raped and went for a test. I figured that as this was incredibly traumatic for him and hed got the all clear and hed not had sex since after the attack that it was okay. We had protected sex once and i attempted to give him oral sex once without protection (he didnt come).
We were only seeing each other for around six weeks. A few weeks later ( i knew he had a history of taking pills) he mentioned that for a short period in his life he'd even tried heroin but hadn't done it since the year before. I was inwardly horrified. I questioned him about the risks and he said that he'd never ever done drugs with others and had used the needle exchange, and would never take any risks. As far as i remember i seemed satisfied with this at the time. His friend's bf was also a recovering heroin addict and he offered to help as he knew how low you have to be to try heroin, and made sure he got clean needles and persuaded him of the importance of getting tested, but despite this and the fact he was essentially a good person, i decided the relationship wasn't right and we split.
I'm now feeling paranoid, and have been on and off for the last two years. Part of me knows i'm worrying unnecessarily, but part of me feels dishonest that i have not admitted to any new partner that i slept with somebody who has injected heroin. I've been for an std test since and whenever the question " have you ever had unprotected sex without a condom" came up, i've said no, but not told the dr about this- and the dr has told me there's no need then, but i'm still worried about the oral and still worried in case he lied. Am i being paranoid reterospectively? Part of me doesnt want the worry of going for a test if i'm being silly about it, and wonders if its something psycholgical, because i've always been with my partners to get tested, except this one? What do you think?