glamour girl
04-24-2008, 03:25 AM
Hi everyone...
My god what a night i had... Wed night is inject night for me. So here i am taking out my Naprosyn ( aleve) tablet out. place it on the bench, grab the water do the Avonex..hit the bed two hrs later. bla bla bla...
I find yelling out to hubby that I'm bloody freezing.. teeth are chattering. My goodness it felt like the first time i started on the meds... Horrified i felt myself cramping up because of the shakes, fever and cold..:confused:
He put extra doona covers on me. i asked for a heat pack, and literally fut it on my face. tummy and any other place i mange to move it too..
Anyway hubby massaged my legs and back till i eventually fell asleep. i woke up again around 4am and popped another Aleve.
Well Here now comes morning.. i have a needed shower after sweating all nite.
Walked into the kitchen.. My god in shock i find the tablet i took out for before my inject on the bloody BENCH..:mad:
Crap any wonder i felt awful last night.. I cant believe i took my shot without the tablet.. All i did was drink the water obviously.. I feel like such a idiot !!!!
Hmm i may laugh about it 2mrw, but gee the discomfort i felt last night was horrible... i looked like someone going through drug detox or something..
ALEVE has become my best friend when it comes to taking my meds.. I know i cant take my Avonex without it ... Oh god hell no am I'm going through that again..
Am i the only twit that's ever done this ??:confused:
My god what a night i had... Wed night is inject night for me. So here i am taking out my Naprosyn ( aleve) tablet out. place it on the bench, grab the water do the Avonex..hit the bed two hrs later. bla bla bla...
I find yelling out to hubby that I'm bloody freezing.. teeth are chattering. My goodness it felt like the first time i started on the meds... Horrified i felt myself cramping up because of the shakes, fever and cold..:confused:
He put extra doona covers on me. i asked for a heat pack, and literally fut it on my face. tummy and any other place i mange to move it too..
Anyway hubby massaged my legs and back till i eventually fell asleep. i woke up again around 4am and popped another Aleve.
Well Here now comes morning.. i have a needed shower after sweating all nite.
Walked into the kitchen.. My god in shock i find the tablet i took out for before my inject on the bloody BENCH..:mad:
Crap any wonder i felt awful last night.. I cant believe i took my shot without the tablet.. All i did was drink the water obviously.. I feel like such a idiot !!!!
Hmm i may laugh about it 2mrw, but gee the discomfort i felt last night was horrible... i looked like someone going through drug detox or something..
ALEVE has become my best friend when it comes to taking my meds.. I know i cant take my Avonex without it ... Oh god hell no am I'm going through that again..
Am i the only twit that's ever done this ??:confused:
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Nenu
04-24-2008, 06:06 AM
Am i the only twit that's ever done this ??:confused:
Can't say I've done the same with that drug, but I've had some really 'stupid' drug/health experiences. I feel your pain! It happens, glad you're feeling better now and figured it out. :)
Can't say I've done the same with that drug, but I've had some really 'stupid' drug/health experiences. I feel your pain! It happens, glad you're feeling better now and figured it out. :)
Pens'nChalk
04-24-2008, 08:53 AM
You're not a twit - you're just like the rest of "we the people with ms". I'm so sorry that you suffered so ... your description was so vivid.
One of the reasons I chose Copaxone was my fear of the interferon's side effects ... but the other was my honest admission to self that a daily routine would more easily become inevitable and so perhaps less forgotten ... daily practice makes perfect. Even so, many nights after the shot I have to count what's left in the pill bottle to make sure I've also remembered and taken the daily statin for cholesterol!
When I was young, a long time ago, I thought I might finish my education with a doctorate, but now I have to take copious notes to try to hang on to the details of what I've read
I'm always at a loss when trying to remember people by name - I know people by sight, by voice, by remembered conversations, but names totally escape me, unless I have a chance to write them down. Guess that's why I prefer email to telephone conversations. Even here on the message boards, I lose track of who's who and who's where ...
Best suggestion I can give you is to laboriously make yourself a monthly matrix with separate checkboxes for each week's prep and shot. Taking the meds in the same place helps trigger the routine, too.
Wishing you an easier time and asking you to be patient with and forgiving of yourself. :angel:
One of the reasons I chose Copaxone was my fear of the interferon's side effects ... but the other was my honest admission to self that a daily routine would more easily become inevitable and so perhaps less forgotten ... daily practice makes perfect. Even so, many nights after the shot I have to count what's left in the pill bottle to make sure I've also remembered and taken the daily statin for cholesterol!
When I was young, a long time ago, I thought I might finish my education with a doctorate, but now I have to take copious notes to try to hang on to the details of what I've read
I'm always at a loss when trying to remember people by name - I know people by sight, by voice, by remembered conversations, but names totally escape me, unless I have a chance to write them down. Guess that's why I prefer email to telephone conversations. Even here on the message boards, I lose track of who's who and who's where ...
Best suggestion I can give you is to laboriously make yourself a monthly matrix with separate checkboxes for each week's prep and shot. Taking the meds in the same place helps trigger the routine, too.
Wishing you an easier time and asking you to be patient with and forgiving of yourself. :angel:
Nenu
04-24-2008, 09:02 AM
I've always been horrible, downright horrible at remembering names lol.
Now I have to do mental exercises when I meet a new person just so I can remember their name for future. I probably run it over 50 times ;)
Now I have to do mental exercises when I meet a new person just so I can remember their name for future. I probably run it over 50 times ;)
Bearygood
04-24-2008, 10:01 AM
Some mornings I can't remember if I've taken my thyroid medication 5 minutes after I have (or haven't!). We get it. :)
pamella08
04-24-2008, 10:44 AM
not a twit bearygood,I do that and much worse all the time..LOL, I just laugh at myself.What are ya gonna do,right?:+)
april1848
04-24-2008, 04:19 PM
I do this too, especially with my birth control pills. Thank goodness the days of the week are on the pack. I never remember if I've taken it, and I end up checking at least 3 times a night. Despite this, I have taken two in one day.
Remembering people is the hardest. Thankfully, my best friend of 20 years remembers everything. I call her my "diary". I remembered hardly anyone at my high school reunion. My best friend had to tell me who everyone was.
At a funeral last summer, my best friend and I were talking to a guy who I knew I must have known at some point. He was asking about my family, calling me by name, etc. I pulled my best friend into the bathroom to ask her who he was. She couldn't even believe I couldn't remember--I had dated this guy for almost a year during high school. We had a good laugh over that.
I've been an airhead my whole life. Now I just blame it all on MS.
Remembering people is the hardest. Thankfully, my best friend of 20 years remembers everything. I call her my "diary". I remembered hardly anyone at my high school reunion. My best friend had to tell me who everyone was.
At a funeral last summer, my best friend and I were talking to a guy who I knew I must have known at some point. He was asking about my family, calling me by name, etc. I pulled my best friend into the bathroom to ask her who he was. She couldn't even believe I couldn't remember--I had dated this guy for almost a year during high school. We had a good laugh over that.
I've been an airhead my whole life. Now I just blame it all on MS.
MSNik
04-24-2008, 05:38 PM
Hey GG, long time, no hear....sorry to hear this one, though- you made me smile at how real your story was...I too, have had problems remembering things like pills- not so much my Aleve, but my birthcontrol used to be a problem...id get to work and wonder if I took it, get home and forget to check and then remember at midnight that I never checked! Most of the time Id taken it but one or two times....duh.
Getting my tubes tied fixed that one though...Now, i find myself going to the medicine chest where I always kept them and wondering why they arent there! Double Duh!!
As for the Side effects of the Avonex though...hopefully at some point, good news will be yours...about 5 months into my Rebif I forgot to take my ALeve once- and no side effects! Now, I try to only take the Aleve when im having an all around bad day...if I have a headache, overall bad MS day- whatever..in between I can take the shot without Aleve and actually not have side effects..hopefully at some point youll be able to deal with that too...but then again, im taking Rebif 3 times a week, youre only doing one shot a week, which might explain why I got used to my drug faster..
Anyway, good to hear from you. Sorry it was such a grim night- and hope overall you are doing well.
Hugs
Nikki
Getting my tubes tied fixed that one though...Now, i find myself going to the medicine chest where I always kept them and wondering why they arent there! Double Duh!!
As for the Side effects of the Avonex though...hopefully at some point, good news will be yours...about 5 months into my Rebif I forgot to take my ALeve once- and no side effects! Now, I try to only take the Aleve when im having an all around bad day...if I have a headache, overall bad MS day- whatever..in between I can take the shot without Aleve and actually not have side effects..hopefully at some point youll be able to deal with that too...but then again, im taking Rebif 3 times a week, youre only doing one shot a week, which might explain why I got used to my drug faster..
Anyway, good to hear from you. Sorry it was such a grim night- and hope overall you are doing well.
Hugs
Nikki
MSJayhawk
04-24-2008, 07:49 PM
When I saw the topic title, I thought the story might be about me!! ;)
On more than one occasion, my wife has found the milk in the cabinet and the cereal box in the refrigerator.
I study all the time to stay ahead of my home schooled kids and to do mental exercises. It varies day to day- on a bad day I have found that setting the item aside for a day and zeroing my brain work helps. Trying to push yourself when your brain is not cooperating only creates pressure on yourself. Staying positive and getting mental rest- my brain cures:)
On more than one occasion, my wife has found the milk in the cabinet and the cereal box in the refrigerator.
I study all the time to stay ahead of my home schooled kids and to do mental exercises. It varies day to day- on a bad day I have found that setting the item aside for a day and zeroing my brain work helps. Trying to push yourself when your brain is not cooperating only creates pressure on yourself. Staying positive and getting mental rest- my brain cures:)
glamour girl
04-24-2008, 10:48 PM
AWwww thanks everyone.. I'm feeling great 2day.. Its Anzac day today. Didn't go to the gym, only opens a t 1pm , so this morning i decided to do my workout at home.
Its the joke around the table last night. We had some friends over.. gave them a giggle when they were told of my wed nite.. Thanks to blubber mouth hubby..
So I'm laughing about it now.
As for you ladies with the birth control pill... Take my hat off to you . I know I'd stuff up remembering. That's why i suggested to hubby for HIM to do something about it.. his actually agreed but when ?? well that's another topic i think..
Well thanks to you all for your put in.. I know I'm not the only one who feels i forget anything.
Its the joke around the table last night. We had some friends over.. gave them a giggle when they were told of my wed nite.. Thanks to blubber mouth hubby..
So I'm laughing about it now.
As for you ladies with the birth control pill... Take my hat off to you . I know I'd stuff up remembering. That's why i suggested to hubby for HIM to do something about it.. his actually agreed but when ?? well that's another topic i think..
Well thanks to you all for your put in.. I know I'm not the only one who feels i forget anything.
Nenu
04-25-2008, 08:26 AM
To throw this thread on a tangent... on the subject of birth control, have any of you ladies tried Depo Provera instead of the pill?
I was put on Depo after I had surgery for endometriosis several years ago. I was on this for 2 years. Personally, I didn't enjoy the experience. Sure, it was nice to not deal with auntie every month, but at the same time, I always looked for my regular cycle to remind me that things were 'functioning' properly in my body. I also experienced an increase in the intensity of headaches with the shot.
I now wonder if Depo is a good option for us MS'ers, or if anything has been researched regarding Depo and MS patients. I've heard good and bad press regarding Depo in general, so I do wonder for us if this is a birth control option to avoid.
I was put on Depo after I had surgery for endometriosis several years ago. I was on this for 2 years. Personally, I didn't enjoy the experience. Sure, it was nice to not deal with auntie every month, but at the same time, I always looked for my regular cycle to remind me that things were 'functioning' properly in my body. I also experienced an increase in the intensity of headaches with the shot.
I now wonder if Depo is a good option for us MS'ers, or if anything has been researched regarding Depo and MS patients. I've heard good and bad press regarding Depo in general, so I do wonder for us if this is a birth control option to avoid.
hotflash
04-25-2008, 01:02 PM
Thank god I haven't had to use bc pills for years, I can barely remember to check the mail. I have gone into the kitchen or started up the stairs and then stand there staring because I forgot what I wanted to do. I can be in the middle of a conversation and stop dead in my tracts and ask the person I'm talking to what was I saying? lol. My hubby worries about that the most as I have always had the memory of an elephant. One time I took out my shot completly forgot I took it out and it must have sat there for the whole week because when I moved everything to dust there was this shot. I have now started to put eveything I need next to the bed where I do my injections so I don't forget. Not that you can forget 8 shots a week but you never know.:D I'm glad you feel better
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april1848
04-25-2008, 01:31 PM
I was on Depo for about a year. My gyno checked my blood pressure and it was high (gee, wonder why?) and she made me go off the pills and try Depo. I hated it. I had bad headaches the whole year and for some reason I could never remember when I had to go in for another shot. Finally I went back to the pills. I never had any problems with them (besides the memory thing) and I like being on them.
I'm hoping to have a tubal ligation whenever my gyno will let me. She says I'm too young, but I know I don't want kids. I have a stepdaughter who I love and I'm close to, and that's enough for me!
I'm hoping to have a tubal ligation whenever my gyno will let me. She says I'm too young, but I know I don't want kids. I have a stepdaughter who I love and I'm close to, and that's enough for me!
Nenu
04-25-2008, 01:56 PM
I was on Depo for about a year. My gyno checked my blood pressure and it was high (gee, wonder why?) and she made me go off the pills and try Depo. I hated it. I had bad headaches the whole year and for some reason I could never remember when I had to go in for another shot. Finally I went back to the pills. I never had any problems with them (besides the memory thing) and I like being on them.
I'm hoping to have a tubal ligation whenever my gyno will let me. She says I'm too young, but I know I don't want kids. I have a stepdaughter who I love and I'm close to, and that's enough for me!
I hear you April. I don't want children, never have, have told my mother the same for years. On my 19th birthday, she woke me up and wished me a happy birthday, to which I responded "Can I have my tubes tied now?".
My mom kept telling me over and over "Wait till you're 30, you'll want kids then." Well I'm 31. I still don't want children. Not surprisingly, she stopped asking if I wanted kids after the MS diagnosis ;).
I wouldn't go as far as 'cutting it off' so to speak, but I have too much going right now that I have to deal with. I can't see children being a part of my life, ever. I know they can change a woman (for the better I guess as far as responsibility/mothering) but I just could never imagine it. I never had visions of white picket fences with kids running around in the sprinkler.
Another tangent: April, have you read Summer Sisters by our Judy Blume? I just finished it today. I was HOOKED on it. All I wanted to do was read it, I was so engrossed in it. I strongly recommend it. Won't say anything about it, but it was just amazing.
I'm hoping to have a tubal ligation whenever my gyno will let me. She says I'm too young, but I know I don't want kids. I have a stepdaughter who I love and I'm close to, and that's enough for me!
I hear you April. I don't want children, never have, have told my mother the same for years. On my 19th birthday, she woke me up and wished me a happy birthday, to which I responded "Can I have my tubes tied now?".
My mom kept telling me over and over "Wait till you're 30, you'll want kids then." Well I'm 31. I still don't want children. Not surprisingly, she stopped asking if I wanted kids after the MS diagnosis ;).
I wouldn't go as far as 'cutting it off' so to speak, but I have too much going right now that I have to deal with. I can't see children being a part of my life, ever. I know they can change a woman (for the better I guess as far as responsibility/mothering) but I just could never imagine it. I never had visions of white picket fences with kids running around in the sprinkler.
Another tangent: April, have you read Summer Sisters by our Judy Blume? I just finished it today. I was HOOKED on it. All I wanted to do was read it, I was so engrossed in it. I strongly recommend it. Won't say anything about it, but it was just amazing.
april1848
04-25-2008, 03:19 PM
I haven't read that but I will now!
My family stopped asking me about kids too, for the most part. I had dinner with my dad, grandma, and stepdaughter last month. My grandma asked me for the millionth time if I want kids yet. My stepdaughter, who is awesome, said "She doesn't need kids, she has me. I'm all she needs." I love her for saying that. And it's true.
At the same dinner, my father who thinks he's the best cook in the world, asked us if we liked the pork. My stepdaughter said "It's good but April makes the best pork. She makes gourmet food whenever I come over." Score another one!
My husband is freaked out because she's 14 years old, but I think it's great. We have really good talks, and I've always liked older kids better. I'm so glad she came with my husband, it was a good deal! She has Asperger's syndrome and when I told her MS, it brought us much closer. She has borrowed books of mine about it, and she prays for me every morning with one of the nuns at her school who has MS. She is a good artist and did a papier-mache statue of my head (really funny) for her school's art fair. It was called "Stepmother Love is Special". How lucky am I?
My family stopped asking me about kids too, for the most part. I had dinner with my dad, grandma, and stepdaughter last month. My grandma asked me for the millionth time if I want kids yet. My stepdaughter, who is awesome, said "She doesn't need kids, she has me. I'm all she needs." I love her for saying that. And it's true.
At the same dinner, my father who thinks he's the best cook in the world, asked us if we liked the pork. My stepdaughter said "It's good but April makes the best pork. She makes gourmet food whenever I come over." Score another one!
My husband is freaked out because she's 14 years old, but I think it's great. We have really good talks, and I've always liked older kids better. I'm so glad she came with my husband, it was a good deal! She has Asperger's syndrome and when I told her MS, it brought us much closer. She has borrowed books of mine about it, and she prays for me every morning with one of the nuns at her school who has MS. She is a good artist and did a papier-mache statue of my head (really funny) for her school's art fair. It was called "Stepmother Love is Special". How lucky am I?
Nenu
04-25-2008, 04:46 PM
That's awesome April! Sounds like a really cool kid. Yeah I also like pre-teens/teenagers a lot. Probably because I find myself acting that age all too often and can relate ;)
MSNik
04-25-2008, 08:18 PM
April, VERY VERY LUCKY! You really are...I have 3 stepkids, and as you know (did you know this, Nenu?) I adopted the oldest one legally, when she "divorced her mother". That was almost 4 years ago...she is now 17 and is living between my house and her biological mothers. We have the other two on weekends...I do NOT have it as good as you do, probably because once they hit 16, everything changes in their world..I feel sorry for my stepkids- Im the one thing in their life which is stable and constant and they are constantly being pulled away by their biological mom...
Meanwhile, I too, went thru the whole "when can I have my tubes tied" thing with my own mom....she also said when youre 30. Well, I didnt do it when I was 30 and didnt get married until I was 35...to a man with 3 kids...need I say more? That was birthcontrol enough for me! :D When MS hit at age 38..I knew it was time. It was the best thing I ever did, getting my tubes tied- I just wish I hadnt waited so long!
Hugs
Nikki
Meanwhile, I too, went thru the whole "when can I have my tubes tied" thing with my own mom....she also said when youre 30. Well, I didnt do it when I was 30 and didnt get married until I was 35...to a man with 3 kids...need I say more? That was birthcontrol enough for me! :D When MS hit at age 38..I knew it was time. It was the best thing I ever did, getting my tubes tied- I just wish I hadnt waited so long!
Hugs
Nikki
Nenu
04-25-2008, 10:29 PM
I did not know that Nikki! Yeah, maybe I'll 'treat' myself to getting my tubes tied. Haha ;).
Nah, until I have some problems in that area (ok ok, more problems than I already have had with endometriosis) I'll leave it alone. If I get into a serious relationship, then it may be time to consider that. Course, having just got out of a 7 year relationship, you can imagine I don't feel like including another man for quite a long while :p
Nah, until I have some problems in that area (ok ok, more problems than I already have had with endometriosis) I'll leave it alone. If I get into a serious relationship, then it may be time to consider that. Course, having just got out of a 7 year relationship, you can imagine I don't feel like including another man for quite a long while :p
april1848
04-26-2008, 08:14 AM
Nikki, your stepkids are lucky to have you in their lives. I have a great stepmom who I lived with starting at 14 after my mom kicked me out--she was drinking a lot at the time and having a lot of problems. I fought a lot with my stepmom mostly because I was a brat.
As I got older my stepmom and I got really close. She's one of my best friends now. She was the first woman in my life who was stable and "normal", and I just didn't appreciate it until I was a little older.
I'm hoping that my MS diagnosis will be enough for my gyno to say yes when I see her this summer. Personally, I don't see MS as a barrier to having children, but it might persuade my doctor. I couldn't be any more sure that I don't want kids of my own!
As I got older my stepmom and I got really close. She's one of my best friends now. She was the first woman in my life who was stable and "normal", and I just didn't appreciate it until I was a little older.
I'm hoping that my MS diagnosis will be enough for my gyno to say yes when I see her this summer. Personally, I don't see MS as a barrier to having children, but it might persuade my doctor. I couldn't be any more sure that I don't want kids of my own!
Nenu
04-26-2008, 10:07 AM
I think a lot of us don't appreciate mom until we're older. I certainly can say that was the case with me.
MSNik
04-26-2008, 03:05 PM
Thanks April. I have to agree with you. I appreciate both my stepmother and stepfather so much more now, then I ever did...my stepfather got dx with Parkinsons about a year before my MS dx, which gave us an even closer bond...we both have our good days and bad days...but my step mom, was always a quiet constant in my life...and as I get older, we have grown closer as well. I hope someday, my stepdaughters and stepson look back on this experience as positive...its been really hard falling in love with my oldest, adopting her, at her request and watching her form a bond with her biological mom again..I am the legal mom- shes the birth mom- and my stepdaughter is all confused about her loyalties. Shes going to be 18 this summer...hopefully, time will work it all out!
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april1848
04-26-2008, 05:08 PM
That sounds really hard Nikki, for you and her. I can't imagine. Hopefully time and maturity will help her figure it out. I've been fortunate in not having to deal with anything like that. I'm the mediator between my husband and his daughter's mom. I can't say that we're friends but we can talk to eachother. I always made it really clear to my stepdaughter that I was not taking the place of her mom. They aren't getting along well these days! I'm sure part of it is her age, and part of it (stepdaughter tells me) is that her mom tries to shelter her, and treats her like a baby because of the Asperger's. Her mom isn't the brightest person in the world, but I know she means well and does her best.
My stepdaughter very recently started maturing emotionally and mentally at an alarming but good speed. She's a totally different kid than she was a year ago, so I try and help her put herself in her mom's shoes, and her dad's for that matter!
It's hard blending families. Personally I never thought I'd be as close to her as I am now. I wouldn't have believed it 3 years ago. I know it's a cliche, but they really do grow up fast, even with Asperger's syndrome! Now, every week, she tells me her thoughts on sex, her period, boys (she says she's not responsible enough yet to start dealing with boys!), and other potentially uncomfortable topics, I try to look as calm and not-floored as possible, and give her the most "parental" advice I can think of. When she's gone I give my husband a synopsis of our conversations. Her mom called and thanked me a few weeks ago for giving my stepdaughter someone to talk to, and her teacher at her last school conference said she talks about me all the time.
This closeness and new responsibility is pretty scary!
My stepdaughter very recently started maturing emotionally and mentally at an alarming but good speed. She's a totally different kid than she was a year ago, so I try and help her put herself in her mom's shoes, and her dad's for that matter!
It's hard blending families. Personally I never thought I'd be as close to her as I am now. I wouldn't have believed it 3 years ago. I know it's a cliche, but they really do grow up fast, even with Asperger's syndrome! Now, every week, she tells me her thoughts on sex, her period, boys (she says she's not responsible enough yet to start dealing with boys!), and other potentially uncomfortable topics, I try to look as calm and not-floored as possible, and give her the most "parental" advice I can think of. When she's gone I give my husband a synopsis of our conversations. Her mom called and thanked me a few weeks ago for giving my stepdaughter someone to talk to, and her teacher at her last school conference said she talks about me all the time.
This closeness and new responsibility is pretty scary!
MSNik
04-26-2008, 06:25 PM
My middle stepdaughter is 12 going on 21...she is alot like your stepdaughter. I get alot of boy talks, period talks and clothing talks out of her...shes my girley girl; where the older one is more of an athlete and more "sensible". SO, I do know...when the 12 year old was only 7, she came into my world- big changes took place in the past 2 years...of course the 17 year old was 12 when I met her, and boy has SHE changed too. The only one Im not worried about right now is the boy- at 9, he is ALL BOY! Girls are so much harder!
Overall, we have alot in common you and I- but the ex in my world is nuts- not just alittle, alot. She and my husband have absolutely NO converstaions at all, and up until the 17 year old started school this year, she would ONLY talk to me- and it wasnt easy..but now that the oldest is bouncing between us, we use her as our "tell your mother this, or give Nikki a message for me"- Im not sure its the best thing for us to be doing, but its working and maybe, just maybe it has helped make my (our) daughter more responsible this year.
Its a tough world being any age..for them, and for us. Thanks for making me realize on this subject too, Im not alone. I actually had to sit down with the middle one last weekend and talk to her about MS....someone, (probably her maternal grandmother) told her that I was one of Jerry's kids....they didnt know the difference between MS and MD- and I had to explain it to a 12 year old...she was really upset when she came to talk to me about it....
But heres the real kicker. I took my 17 year old shopping that same day for her prom gown. She gave me the privledge of dragging her all over creation looking for a dress, not her birth mother...of course that might have been my punishment by her birth mother, who knows? But I figured it was an honor to do it..its something Ill always remember my mom doing with me- and we made a nice afternoon of it...her junior prom is tongiht!
Hugs
N
Overall, we have alot in common you and I- but the ex in my world is nuts- not just alittle, alot. She and my husband have absolutely NO converstaions at all, and up until the 17 year old started school this year, she would ONLY talk to me- and it wasnt easy..but now that the oldest is bouncing between us, we use her as our "tell your mother this, or give Nikki a message for me"- Im not sure its the best thing for us to be doing, but its working and maybe, just maybe it has helped make my (our) daughter more responsible this year.
Its a tough world being any age..for them, and for us. Thanks for making me realize on this subject too, Im not alone. I actually had to sit down with the middle one last weekend and talk to her about MS....someone, (probably her maternal grandmother) told her that I was one of Jerry's kids....they didnt know the difference between MS and MD- and I had to explain it to a 12 year old...she was really upset when she came to talk to me about it....
But heres the real kicker. I took my 17 year old shopping that same day for her prom gown. She gave me the privledge of dragging her all over creation looking for a dress, not her birth mother...of course that might have been my punishment by her birth mother, who knows? But I figured it was an honor to do it..its something Ill always remember my mom doing with me- and we made a nice afternoon of it...her junior prom is tongiht!
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april1848
04-26-2008, 09:04 PM
That's so sweet that you took her shopping for her prom dress. I got teary eyed reading that. I hope she has fun tonight! My stepdaughter is going through a gothic stage, but I had her as a bridesmaid at my wedding and she looked so pretty in her dress. I may never see her in a dress again, but at least I have the pictures!
Maybe she should have been the flower girl, but my 25 year old little sister always whined that she was never a flower girl in our family, I always was. So I had a 25 year old flower girl. I had her wear a flower crown and gave her a little basket of petals. She was thrilled to be the oldest flower girl in history, walking with my 8 year old ring bearer.
You're not alone! My stepdaughter's mom thought I had MD too! I cracked up when I read that, because it's so familiar and sad. So many people get them mixed up. Stepdaughter was terrified that I was going to die, so when we read about it she felt a lot better. Plus, she discovered that her favorite nun at school has MS and she talks to her about it; they pray for me every morning.
I'm glad I don't have to be that age again. And if I had to be, I'd want to be a boy. In all of my nightmares, I'm a teenager. I just turned 29 and everyone was saying Wow You're Almost Thirty like it was the end of the world. I'm thankful I made it this far--I'm not afraid of 30, I welcome it!
Maybe she should have been the flower girl, but my 25 year old little sister always whined that she was never a flower girl in our family, I always was. So I had a 25 year old flower girl. I had her wear a flower crown and gave her a little basket of petals. She was thrilled to be the oldest flower girl in history, walking with my 8 year old ring bearer.
You're not alone! My stepdaughter's mom thought I had MD too! I cracked up when I read that, because it's so familiar and sad. So many people get them mixed up. Stepdaughter was terrified that I was going to die, so when we read about it she felt a lot better. Plus, she discovered that her favorite nun at school has MS and she talks to her about it; they pray for me every morning.
I'm glad I don't have to be that age again. And if I had to be, I'd want to be a boy. In all of my nightmares, I'm a teenager. I just turned 29 and everyone was saying Wow You're Almost Thirty like it was the end of the world. I'm thankful I made it this far--I'm not afraid of 30, I welcome it!
MSNik
04-27-2008, 11:55 AM
April you have such a good attitude, thats why we love you! 30 was easy..but at age 38, being a fulltime student, a fulltime job and only married for 2 years and finding out I had MS, that was HARD. 40 came and went. I consider myself the youngest 40 year old I know- and still trying! MS wont be what gets me- but it might be the stepkids!;)
Some days I wake up and its hard to remember that I am 40- I remember my prom like it was yesterday!
Big hugs and stay strong...you remind me so much of me, its scary! (in a good way of course).
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Nikki
Some days I wake up and its hard to remember that I am 40- I remember my prom like it was yesterday!
Big hugs and stay strong...you remind me so much of me, its scary! (in a good way of course).
Hugs
Nikki