I just feel like there are so many things lately coming up in the news that are making me worry about my daugther. She will be 10 months old on the second. My dad has already convinced me and paid for me to switch to glass bottles. My best friend has a little girl who is just four days older and she is asking me about the vaccinations at a year old and whether I will be doing them or not due to the worries of Autism. It's nerve wracking having all this stuff coming out that makes you worry about the well being of your child and if you are doing the right things or not. I mean, I don't know, I feel like I should trust her pedi and do what he thinks is best, but gosh, you never know...people are wrong and make mistakes sometimes. I don't want to turn in to this big worry wort and constantly worry about doing something that might end up some day harming her without knowing it first. Am I the only one that feels this way? :(

I havent stopped worrying since the moment I found out I was pregnant. I think it would get better once she was here, but my fears have only gotten worst. Im going to go ouit and buy the glass bottles today, but the fear that I cant get out of my head is SIDS =( I read an article about it and now I cant get it out of my head.

there are plastic bottles and cups that are safe to use.... at least so far..... the thing i have trouble with, is if the plastics are so incredibly dangerous, why are they still selling them??? and why are the alternatives so incredibly expensive??? i would think that if the plastics are so harmful to our babies, then they'd make the alternative solutions easily available to everyone, not just people who can afford it!!!!!

i worry about it all the time, but if you can't afford the alternative, what do you do?????

It's hysterical fear-mongering, and the mainstream media love to push it simply because it gives them a (non-)story and a way to potentially beat on industries they hate.

How did we ever survive? Think about it. Heck, I survived not only being free in the front seat on my mom's lap, but I even survived riding in open beds of pick-up trucks! Never mind sleeping on my belly, having mostly formula, having all the vaccines available and no special gimmicks to keep me from "harming myself" except my mother's watchfulness and her discipline.

BTW, my dog has had lots of vaccines, and nothing is wrong with her that wasn't there in the 1st place.

The chances of things happening from the various latest crazes (fears) are generally almost nil. And on top of it, they change their minds every few years.

Do you know now that crib bumpers are NOT recommended? That's the very latest. It hasn't sunk in yet so they're still largely pushed, but in a few years, that will be the new craze - don't dare put bumpers on your crib.

Relax. Try not to put yourself OR your child in a strait-jacket.

Hi Delia!

I completely understand where you're coming from. On top of worrying about doing the best thing for your child you often have to deal with the consequence of others thinking it's not the right thing. My Ella is on a delayed vaccination schedule and you wouldn't believe the things people say to me (whether or not they know about my husband's and my decision about vacinnations for our daughter) about how "awful parents are who don't vaccinate...yada yada yada." It's fearful and worrying! I believe that waiting to vaccinate is the best idea for MY CHILD...but I still worry about her getting the measels or other things...it's a catch-22.

I believe the best thing you can do is research, follow your gut, and trust yourself. You and your husband love your daughter and you do what you think is best. I agree with everyone and the bottles...and like others have said, unfortuantly I do not have the finances available to go to the alternative.

It is very worrying, and I know exactly where you're coming from. I'm a worry-wort by nature and I knew I'd be that way when I had a baby. I do my best to relax and know that I am doing the best job I can with my daughter...and I'm sure you are too!!! :D

Sarah

It's hysterical fear-mongering, and the mainstream media love to push it simply because it gives them a (non-)story and a way to potentially beat on industries they hate.

How did we ever survive? Think about it. Heck, I survived not only being free in the front seat on my mom's lap, but I even survived riding in open beds of pick-up trucks! Never mind sleeping on my belly, having mostly formula, having all the vaccines available and no special gimmicks to keep me from "harming myself" except my mother's watchfulness and her discipline.

BTW, my dog has had lots of vaccines, and nothing is wrong with her that wasn't there in the 1st place.

The chances of things happening from the various latest crazes (fears) are generally almost nil. And on top of it, they change their minds every few years.

Do you know now that crib bumpers are NOT recommended? That's the very latest. It hasn't sunk in yet so they're still largely pushed, but in a few years, that will be the new craze - don't dare put bumpers on your crib.

Relax. Try not to put yourself OR your child in a strait-jacket.

Oh my gosh, I love this reply!!! This is by far the best thing I have read on here so far. Very well stated, Rebel! We really do need to just relax and take a cue from our own Mom and gut instincts. :cool:

Thanks to everyone for your replies. I tend to agree with what you all are saying about the media hyping everything up the way they do. If it weren't for my dad freaking out and offering to pay for the bottles, we too wouldn't have switched simply because we can't afford it! The vaccinations on the other hand do worry me a little. I don't know why, but it does. However, I think at this point I am just going to have to trust myself and Ella's doctor and do what he and I think are best. She has received all of her vaccinations thus far so I guess it seems right to keep doing what we are doing. I do find the delayed vaccination schedule interesting though and wouldn't be opposed to that. Wonder if it would hurt to start that now after being on schedule this far? I would NEVER judge a parent for the decisions they make for their children....I just think it's awful to make someone feel like they are a bad parent. You don't have to agree with what other people do but ultimately it's their child and their choice. I have a very good friend who has never vaccinated either one of her children. She knows that I have. It's never been an issue with us. She just tells me her reasons for not and I listen, but it's never become an issue at all. She is a great mom either way in my book. Anyway, I guess everyone is right, I just need to put things into perspective and try to do what I think is best. Although I would never want anything to happen to my daughter, I WILL LOVE HER NO MATTER WHAT and that is what is really important.

Thanks everyone for the advice!!! ;)

I agree; you're not bad if you follow the advice. I just don't think everyone should be so scared that everything is going to hurt their child. Generally speaking, there is nothing more sacred then "the children", and I really think fear-mongerers use them to get your goat the most. You might neglect yourself, but would you dare neglect "the children"? The F-Ms prey on your guilt with children.

I find it ironic that in most cases, those safety nuts are the very 1s who generally hate "big corporations" - yet their forced laws (car seats) or guilt-ridden recommendations through doctors and baby stores make you enrich those very corporations by "having" to buy this or that thing. Car seats are most egregious - we're all forced to buy expensive seats, not once, but several times as the child grows in size to obey the laws. It's guaranteed income for Graco and Evenflo.

Something else I've discarded as "necessary" - special procedures just for baby's clothes. Well, I was a bit "safe" by starting with a "clear" detergent (I did NOT buy Dreft, the expensive thing taking advantage of this thing). But otherwise, I have switched to normal stuff, and I absolutely refused to -wash all clothes before the baby wears it-. Colossal waste of time, money, water, detergent - and your option of returning things goes down the toilet! I'd never heard of this nonsense until my mother-in-law talked about it. Even my sister had never heard of it with her girls from some 10 years ago. Another paranoid fad.

Yep, I never washed all of her clothes first and I have used Tide since day one. No problems to report. =)

I worry ALL the time, but I try to keep things in check too.
However, I do not agree with the posters who say, "how did I manage to grow up fine, I had all of the vaccines (there were only 8, 30 years ago)" and then give their opinions.
I agree with these posters on the overall opinion that maybe we sometimes go overboard now.
However, you can not trust corporations to do the right thing. Corporate greed has taken over and you can not think they'd remove dangerous bottles from their shelves. The only way they'd do that is if they were outted and threatened with lawsuits. Until then, dangerous products appear everywhere and, unfortunately, it's our job as the consumer to research the products. It's a shame, but the new world we live in.
As for vaccines, I wasn't well researched in the beginning and my DD followed the recommended schedule until 9 months, then I started modifying at her 12 month visit. She will most likely have all the vaccines just on a delayed scheduled approved by her pediatrician over 4 years.
Vaccines are a big money making business so do your research, talk to people on both sides of the innoculation issue and then make your decisions.
It stinks to have to worry so much, but I do think it's necessary based on how our society has gone downhill, and corporations and govt. are not held accountable so they can get away with whatever they want.

I worry ALL the time, but I try to keep things in check too.
However, I do not agree with the posters who say, "how did I manage to grow up fine, I had all of the vaccines (there were only 8, 30 years ago)" and then give their opinions.
I agree with these posters on the overall opinion that maybe we sometimes go overboard now.
However, you can not trust corporations to do the right thing. Corporate greed has taken over and you can not think they'd remove dangerous bottles from their shelves. The only way they'd do that is if they were outted and threatened with lawsuits. Until then, dangerous products appear everywhere and, unfortunately, it's our job as the consumer to research the products. It's a shame, but the new world we live in.
As for vaccines, I wasn't well researched in the beginning and my DD followed the recommended schedule until 9 months, then I started modifying at her 12 month visit. She will most likely have all the vaccines just on a delayed scheduled approved by her pediatrician over 4 years.
Vaccines are a big money making business so do your research, talk to people on both sides of the innoculation issue and then make your decisions.
It stinks to have to worry so much, but I do think it's necessary based on how our society has gone downhill, and corporations and govt. are not held accountable so they can get away with whatever they want.


I was surprised to read that Walmart is pulling the BPA present bottles at the beginning of 09. Im not familiar with the vaccine controversy, but now Im worried...my little one turns 2 mths tomorrow.

I agree; you're not bad if you follow the advice. I just don't think everyone should be so scared that everything is going to hurt their child. Generally speaking, there is nothing more sacred then "the children", and I really think fear-mongerers use them to get your goat the most. You might neglect yourself, but would you dare neglect "the children"? The F-Ms prey on your guilt with children.

I find it ironic that in most cases, those safety nuts are the very 1s who generally hate "big corporations" - yet their forced laws (car seats) or guilt-ridden recommendations through doctors and baby stores make you enrich those very corporations by "having" to buy this or that thing. Car seats are most egregious - we're all forced to buy expensive seats, not once, but several times as the child grows in size to obey the laws. It's guaranteed income for Graco and Evenflo.

Something else I've discarded as "necessary" - special procedures just for baby's clothes. Well, I was a bit "safe" by starting with a "clear" detergent (I did NOT buy Dreft, the expensive thing taking advantage of this thing). But otherwise, I have switched to normal stuff, and I absolutely refused to -wash all clothes before the baby wears it-. Colossal waste of time, money, water, detergent - and your option of returning things goes down the toilet! I'd never heard of this nonsense until my mother-in-law talked about it. Even my sister had never heard of it with her girls from some 10 years ago. Another paranoid fad.


i wholeheartedly agree..... except for ONE thing.... wash their swimsuits before they wear them!!! something in the dye, or fire retardant, or whatever it is that's in the fabric of the swimsuits can react with the chlorine in the pool, and cause a miserable rash on your babies!!!

Hello,

I havent read through the other replies yet.... so if this repeat, sorry :)

I think that the best thing you can do as a mother is RESEARCH RESEARCH RESEARCH. Being informed and educated will only help you make a better decision for your child.

I worry about EVERYTHING!

My daughter did have a severe reaction to her first DTaP vaccination, resulting in prolonged crying for 6 hours straight, her first seizure less than 24 hours after, and then 3 weeks later a intercranial bleed... Luckily my daughter is fine now, except for recently being diagnosed with Epilepsy.

I never did research on vaccinations before giving them to her, and I regret that and probably will for the rest of my life.

If you are breastfeeding that is great because it gives them immunity and antibodies. And if you stay home with your child that is good too....

I just had another baby and he is 13 weeks old, unvaccinated because I am STILL educating myself. My daughter is almost 3 now, and I am still learning MORE AND MORE about vaccinations....

You can always do a delayed schedule as well.

I am part of the motheringdotcomme forums, vaccination forum... they are great and you will find MORE AND MORE information than you could imagine there!

My little one is 2 months today and now Im stressing about the vaccs. She will not be in daycare, so Im assuming I have time to do some research....or are there some vaccs that are a must at 8 wks? I just dont want to do more harm than good by waiting while I make my decision.