Around a year ago I had had sex with my ex. I fingered her before that and she gave me oral. But we decided to finally have sex, she said she was a virgin but she lied a lot. I think she was HIV+. We used a condom both times we had sex, but she bled a bit the first time. She said it was because she lost her virginity but I think she started her period. Anyways the condom never did break either time. And I think I was careful about removing it, but how careful do you have to be when there is blood involved?

I washed my hands and stuff after.

But I think I have been making my self sick by worrying so much. I get colds a lot and strep but never turned into anything worse like I hear a lot of people who are HIV+ get.
I have been having bad sinus problems, so today I went to the doctor and they did a CBC and said everything was normal and i think my WBC was 5000 which is ok for a 19 year old.

I am going to get an Orasure soon, but I am really worried about what I should expect. Is there a high chance that I got HIV from this person since the two times we did, we used a condom sucessfuly.
I am just worried that I was at a higher risk since she bled.

And since my CBC is completely normal should that be a good sign as well?

Thanks everyone.
I haven't been able to sleep or go on with my life normally ever since this happened.

Dude,
I have the feeling I am hearing myself back 6 years ago.

I have had a similar experience, when I was still a kid like you (18 years old), and I was really depressed.

Could not live normally. Even did irrational things, which were as a result of my despair.

Anyways, I then went to test myself thinking "omg why am I doing this if I am sure that I am positive", and the test turned to be negative. I was...wtf, there is something wrong here and then I went couple of months later again to test myself. Clean again thank god.

In the end I realized I lost 1 year of my life in depression and fear from something which was not real, because of paranoic thoughts. I was linking each sneeze I had and each cough I had with HIV, without being sure if I have it.

I strongly encourage you to go and just test yourself. The chances of you being infected are minimal even if she did had something, of which you are unsure. Condoms do protect you from infection. Anyways, just go test yourself no matter what. You can go crazy standing in uncertainty like this. And you can cause permanent damage to your mental health. Mental health is something very fragile. You dont want to be paranoic for the rest of your life?

Just go, test, and then think of your future. I have had the exact same experience. If you are clean you will have to forget all this and just live normally. By standing like this you are actually causing yourself heavy health pains. Your brain is aching 24/7....this can make you go crazy.

good luck !

My father died from AIDS without ever knowing. He was with my mom for 4 years before he died and she has tested negitive. HIV isn't easy to get, and it's highly unlikely you have it, but the only way you can put your mind at ease is to take the test. You have nothing to lose by knowing. If you don't get tested and have it, your life is at risk anyway. If you get tested and have it, there's so many programs and medications that can help you live a normal life.


Just look at Magic Johnson. He caught HIV in what? 1991?